I was recently listening to a show about women being abused by their husbands or boyfriends and I started thinking about this subject. In my mind there’s absolutely no justified reason why anyone would abuse someone else. I could never see myself or even imagine doing something like this. This is plain and simply wrong and anyone who does this deserves to be punished to the fullest extend of the law. (more…)
I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 mos. He says he likes me, that he likes me a lot (I’m told this almost daily). BTW, he pushed last week for me to tell him what I wanted from him, I told him his heart (he hasn’t run, is that good or insignificant?). We pretty much see each other on a daily basis…and, it’s basically a “what are we doing tonight” kind of thing on his part (so, in my mind, this means we have moved from dating to relationship – I know, don’t make assumptions he may see it differently).
Anyway, this week, he said we need to find me someone who will be here for me when he goes away for 2 mos in the winter. I told him not to say things like that (he has said something similar in the past which resulted in me insisting I didn’t want someone else). Somehow the whole what I wanted from him came up again and I told him that he
knows exactly what I want, his heart (then he broke into song singing Rod Stewart’s “You’re in My Heart”, not sure if that is even related to what I said or he just went with it because it popped into his head). He’s so frustrating, he’s hot and then he’s cold, I have trouble reading him.
So, what is you’re opinion and thoughts about this guys intentions? (more…)
My husband and our relationship progressed very quickly. We had our first baby and got married when I was 20. I’m now 24, him 28, and we have 2 more kids. My weight is his biggest issue. I was at a healthy weight when we met but after our first I had gained an extra 20lbs on top of the pregnancy. He’s very critical of me in a lot I do… even just acting myself in public, I just never feel good enough or pleasing enough for him. He’s been at my weight from the beginning but now it’s at its worst since I’m at my heaviest. My baby is 5 months old, who I’m not breastfeeding and also on birth control combined with low self esteem from you know who, it’s been tough trying to lose the weight. I’m about 35lbs over weight. He loves hanging out with his friends but doesn’t like to hang out with me. He gives me 0 affection. Sometimes he will give me a hug or kiss if I ask, but I’m just tired of always giving him my heart and having it be hurt. Should I stay or should I go? There’s been times I’ve told him I’m not happy and had concerns about our relationship and its made him worried and sad but nothing enough to make him change. I just don’t think he can see past my weight… always checking out other girls and it hurts. We have 3 beautiful children; he’s a great dad but just really sucks at the husband role. I’m afraid I won’t be able to lose this weight and my hubby will never love me. I wish he just loved me no matter what. 🙁 (more…)
Help! I have been dating the most wonderful man for eight months. He is the most kind, caring and loving man I have ever been with. My problem started when I sold my house and moved in with him temporarily.
Since living with him I have learned that he doesn’t shower every day! He doesn’t have body odor and it’s not obvious that he doesn’t bathe, but now that I’m living with him I’ve seen that he sometimes lets as long as four days pass between showers.
I was raised to shower every day and I really find this disgusting. I’ve tried every way I can think of to persuade him to shower every day — joking, cajoling and being stern. For me, this is a deal breaker.
I realize I shouldn’t have moved in with him and that situation will change soon, but can you help me come up with ways to convince him that he must bathe every day? (more…)
How do you know if you’re in love with someone or if it’s just lust or the beginning of a relationship where you’re just so happy?
I’ve been dating a guy for almost 2 weeks now. I’ll admit it; we’ve done it. We’ve met each others family and friends, we’ve gone on dates, and he asked me to go on a little trip with him and I agreed to it. He’s all I think about at night, the simplest texts make me smile; he surprised me and showed up at my work, I dream of him. I don’t know. Is it love? (more…)
Yep, he cheated while we were married. They evidently split shortly after our divorce. He didn’t want a divorce, I did. I feel so stupid for still loving him. I’m scared he’ll cheat on me again. What are the guidelines for attempting to reconcile?
As a man, I would never go back to an ex but that’s just me. By going back to your ex-husband especially after he cheated on you, you are giving the wrong message. You are basically saying that you’re there just waiting for whenever he wants to come back to you. Think about it, this guy cheated and when you left him he kept the relationship with the other woman; now that it didn’t work out he wants to come back?
Do you really want to be second best? Have some self-respect and move on. Even if you say you still love him, I think you’re just confused or have a really low self-esteem. Sometimes it is easy to mistake love for being accustom to someone.
My advice to you is that if you’ve made a decision to leave him you should stick to it and stand by your word. Next time something like this happens to you, its best to really think about the situation and make a decision whether you are willing to forgive your man and work on a solution to the problem rather than just run away from it. It’s really easy to just divorce your cheating husband just because you think this is what you’re supposed to do but sometimes really having an open mind and looking at the possible causes for the affair might be the better choice especially when you know this is the person you really want to grow old with.
A lot of the times women tend to think that men are just pigs and like to screw around (which is true) but sometimes it goes beyond just screwing around an there could be many possible reasons for it. For instance, there are times when a couple gets married too young and never really get a chance to experience some of the things they should at that age and as a result, they try to fulfill those needs by constantly trying to go out and live what a single person lives at age 21. Yes, I do believe is the wrong thing to do but that’s why it’s not a good idea to get married at an early age. When this happens every situation is different, some get married because they have no direction in life and think is the next step. Others just because they really think that’s the love of their lives but what do they know at that age? They have no real experiences to compare and base their decision on. Sometimes it’s the typical “kid on the way” excuse and thinks they have to get married. Whatever the reason is, it could be endless and there may be many to blame not just the men and so it’s a really good idea to see what the reason for the affair is and then if it’s justifiable maybe its worth working on fixing the marriage.
In addition, a common reason for affairs is when one of the two neglects the other. This happens to both men and women. Sometimes the other person just stops paying attention to them or simply doesn’t really support them emotionally. I’m a believer that besides being a spouse you should also be their best friend. What I mean by this is that the reason to marry someone is to have a life-long companion, a friend and someone who’s there for you one hundred percent of the time. Over time couples tend to forget about this and don’t realize that both man and women need someone there to support us emotionally and if you as the spouse can’t or won’t fulfill those needs someone else might come along and pick up the slack. The biggest sign of this is when you actually have a relationship on the side and it’s not just a physical affair. That means this other person is not only fulfilling the sexual needs but also the emotional ones. So now the real question is who is the cause of the problem? And of course, there’s not just one answer because every relationship is different and have a lots variables that contribute to the problem, which takes me to my next point.
Every relationship should be treated individually and should never be compared to past relationships and especially to other people’s relationships. Sometimes is common to make decisions on how a situation should be handled based on what other people have done and this is just plain wrong. Even if another person has a similar situation to yours the relating details are completely different and should, therefore, be handled in a different matter. Its just best to analyze a situation individually, find the cause and come up with a solution that same way you would handle any other problem in life.
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