I am not sure if he likes me

I am not sure if he likes me

Q:

Hello, I recently met a guy about month ago through a mutual friend’s birthday party.  I was instantly attracted to him.  That night we danced a lot but we didn’t get to talk much.  About 2 weeks later we all went out again in a group to a bar.  When he got there he came straight to me and started talking to me and invited to another party.  I went to the bathroom, I guess he didn’t see me so when I came back he asked where I went which I thought was weird.  So we went to the party we danced some but then ended up dancing with other people.  Still didn’t get much chance to talk.  Then over the weekend, we all had another gathering at my house but I didn’t get to talk to him much either because there were so many other people around.  I sent him a friend request on facebook which he accepted right away.  The next day after my get together I sent him a message on facebook thanking him for coming.  He said no problem and hope to do it again soon and added a smiley face.  I feel like he might like me but not sure.  We’ve only seen each other 3 times I’m not sure when I will see him again.  What should I do?  Do you think he likes me?  My friends say it’s too soon to tell and to just give it time and see what happens but I don’t want to miss a chance if I have one. Thanks for your help.

A:

I never recommend jumping into any relationship this soon.

Sounds to me like this guy is obviously attracted to you but you’ve only seen him 3 times, which is not enough time to tell if he has any intentions of getting into a relationship with anyone at this moment.

My recommendation is to stay in touch with him in person and on social media and let things develop further. Flirt but don’t make it too obvious or seem desperate because that’s a turn off for most guys. Definitely try to have some one-on-one time with him by going on dates and start asking “pre-qualifying” questions in order to determine if it’s worth pursuing a relationship with him or not.

Most guys who are single and are ready for a relationship would’ve made an attempt for some alone time at this moment. My gut feeling is that there’s something else going on. Maybe he has a girlfriend or he’s really not that into you as you may think.

Good luck.

Do you think he would do that if he was not interested in me?

Do you think he would do that if he was not interested in me?

Q:

There is this guy I have met, he is the sweetest and very down to earth, simple guy. He is sweet and polite and generally cool, we have similar interests and it looks like both of us are equally kinky. I met him once in his city as I was visiting my friend and we went out for a couple of drinks and then he made a move and started making out with me. He asked me to come back to his place but I said no because I wanted him to work for it and earn it. He knows what happened to me in the past and the nasty thing someone has done to me and that I want a relationship, he said he wants it too. I call him handsome and he calls me pretty or cute face. We are meeting soon for a long weekend. Do you think LHG, he would do that if he was not interested in me? Would he just want one time bang and nothing else?

A:

To answer your question, yes, he only wants to bang at this point. In general, when a guy meets a girl who lives far away, the mindset is not in a long-term relationship. Guys generally view this type of situation as a good opportunity for an occasional booty call whenever you’re in town. By the way, this doesn’t mean that it can’t turn into something else in the future. But for now, I’m almost certain he’s mainly interested in sex.

Also, of course he’s going to tell you he’s looking for a relationship too. Do you really think he would tell you he only wants to bang anything that moves? Don’t be naive, most guys will answer girl’s questions with what they think is going to make them more desirable.

Do you think he has feelings for me?

Do you think he has feelings for me?

Q:

Hi there! I met this guy 6months ago while I’m applying for a job. It was really unexpected that he and I will become friends and eventually even close to being in a relationship. My question is, how do I know for sure that he feels the same way? He is 37 and I find him attractive and confident. It was 11:45 pm the night before my birthday when he first greeted me. However the next day, on the night of my birthday we were able to see each other, I was standing in front of him when he pulled me closer and said Happy Birthday then kissed my forehead. He also checks up on me from time to time via social media for us to talk. We talk very politely and I can feel it just flows freely. Do you think he has feelings for me? Would appreciate your response. 🙂

A:

To answer your first question, the way you would know if he feels the same way about you as you do about him is by simply asking him. The way you approach the question is where you need to be smart not to put him in an awkward situation. Instead of asking, “do you like me?”, it’s probably better if you start a conversation about his thoughts on relationships and find out if he’s interested in anyone at the moment. Make him tell you his views on relationships and short-term goals at the moment. By doing this, you’re able to find out if you guys are on the same page or not.

Does he have feelings for you? If he’s the one initiating conversations via social media with you, chances are that he is attracted to you in one way or another. This doesn’t mean he’s in love with you by any means. It just means he has an interest. You see, most guys don’t just approach one woman at a time. Depending on how interested he is in you, you might be a number 2 or 3 on his list of potentials.

Long Distance Relationship Dilema

Long Distance Relationship Dilema

Q:

After dating my BF (who is a year older than I) for about 3 years, I took a job 350 miles away. 

As a bit of background, I was married for about 11 years and left my ex-husband in a very messy divorce.

My BF and I had ups and downs when I first left but decided to let the relationship be what it is. We see each other occasionally (he travels to me, I travel to him). He takes care of his elderly mother (admirable.. the kind of guy you want!) and I know he loves me a lot.

I am a very busy independent person who has a professional career and a son in high school so I don’t sit around waiting.

The problem is, despite the way I feel about him, I wonder if I should give up on this relationship? I enjoy my time with him and he has told me if it weren’t for his mother he would have made the move with me.

We are not getting any younger… am I just being impatient?

I have a pretty good idea of what I am looking for in a relationship and just about all of it exists with him. As I said, this isn’t some internet thing, we basically lived together when we were in the same town. As for me moving back, that isn’t an option at this point either…


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Is the guy you like too shy? Do this…

Is the guy you like too shy? Do this…

Q:

So, this guy in my grade, Josh, used to be my best friend in elementary school. Like best friends. When high school hit, we kind of faded apart. We’ve always had this vibe (a good one) through high school. Even though he has a girlfriend, he always gives me these looks. I’m a junior in high school now, so is he, and he just broke up with his girlfriend, He contacted me, he said hey, and we talked a little. He invited me to his wrestling match. I went, it was awesome, we got a picture. How do I know if he’ll start something, or get it rolling, I like him, but I don’t know if I should ask him out, I’d like to save myself from embarrassment. Because this happens a lot to me, I try too hard, and it ends bad. I like this guy, he’s kinda shy. What do I do?!

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