by The Last Honest Guy
When a man says the words “I’m confused” after being caught red-handed, he’s basically trying to say “I don’t want to be with you anymore.” He just wants to test you and see if you are willing to put up with his infidelities. Of course most man that cheats wishes they never get caught and when they do they try to talk their way out of it. Saying “I’m confused” is basically saying “let me think about this, because I really don’t want to be with you anymore but let me grow the balls to just say it.” (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I am in my mid-40s and have been married for four years. On top of all the marital difficulties we’re having, my husband insists that I have dinner with his parents every Sunday, as well as every anniversary, birthday and holiday. The truth is, I don’t really like his family, and I can only take them in small doses. They are loud, argumentative and mean.
I make it a point to accompany my husband every few weeks or so, and we spend every holiday with them. Today, my husband announced that his parents’ anniversary and his father’s birthday are coming up and that if I don’t attend “we’re through.”
I was shocked by this ultimatum. I feel it is a complete betrayal of our marriage that he would back me into a corner like this. Spending time with his parents is very hard on me. They are very abrasive and critical, and I always leave feeling sad. My own parents are both deceased. This makes it even more difficult for me. We did things so differently in my family. Getting together was pleasurable and not something one “had to do.” What can I do? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Hi, I really need help on my marriage; a week ago my husband told me that he wasn’t sexually attractive to me and the next week, he said he didn’t love me any more. I asked why, and he said that he was tired of all the put downs and all. I told him that I was sorry if I put him down so many times, but we have been having trouble with my mom and my self stressing and I do take it out on him when I’m mad, I know that being mad make you say or do things you don’t want.
We’ve been together 2 year and 8 months, and 3 nights ago, I had something planned for both of us, maybe something it could of help our marriage. But while on the way, a co-worker from us called and said that another co-worker wanted to hang out with us, but not me included.
I was hoping that my husband would say “no if she isn’t going then I wont either, besides we have something special to do tonight.” instead he said “are you going to give me money for gas, if you are then I’ll be there.” I got mad, and I just ignore it and said ok…fine. Later on I started to tell him why he was going to hang out with them and not with me. He just told me straight forward that he didn’t love me any more, and he doesn’t even care about me. That broke my heart, so much. We’ve been through allot when we started dating, we did what ever we could so we can keep seeing each other because my mother didn’t allow me to see him.
Now after all that effort, I can’t believe he is saying this. I told him I’ll give him time to him self, a week, a month, but to try to think about our marriage. But he said, “You already know my answer, so just give up.”
please, what should I do? He doesn’t want to try to give me a chance or anything and I really love him. Please let me know what I should do. Thanks. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
What to give to a guy? This is a question that a lot of women never take the time to actually think of. The ones that do are the ones that have great relationships. In reality is not that hard to know what your man might like. Most of us guys are very simple and by just paying a little attention to what we like you should be able to easily figure this out.
The first thing you should keep in mind is that guys and girls don’t have the same taste or interests. I get tired of seeing girls buy their man flowers or stuffed animals. Guess what? We don’t like any of those things. This is a result of some women being too lazy to think and realize what their man likes. You have to understand that most men are practical and do not like to waste money or resources. We generally like things that we can use or things that we need. When women mistakenly gives us stuffed animals thinking we like them, in our mind we think they’re a waste of money and we can’t think of a place to put that useless present. You have to remember that these things take up space in our homes that don’t necessarily look too masculine and at the same time serve no purpose. The same applies to flowers. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Hi I am having a problem with my fiancé. We are both in our late 20’s and he doesn’t have a job yet, so as a result, he has stolen from me. The first time he stole money I had laid out on my dresser (we don’t live together yet) that I was going to use for gas to get to work that day. The most recent time, he stole my debit card and used it, then put it back without telling me, thinking I wouldn’t notice. He has also stolen items besides money from me too, like computer equipment, a digital camera and other items. I honestly don’t know what to do. I love him to death and I help him out as much as possible, but he keeps taking. I am not even sure if it is a crime since we’re engaged. And I have asked questions of what would happen if I got the police involved, they did a afp police check on him but it was clean so there was nothing much to go with. I just don’t know what else I can do? He doesn’t even apologize, he just takes things, and I don’t even know it’s missing until afterwards. Sometimes the money he takes, I really need for things. I am just really confused…I help him out with money and anything I can (most recently a LOT of money to get his car engine fixed). But it doesn’t help, he keeps taking. Any advice? I don’t know if counseling or therapy would help or what.. I just know something has to be done. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
This guy I’ve been seeing for the past few months; divorced 2 years ago after 7 years of marriage, dated a girl 10 years younger for 10 months after his divorce was final and broke up with her to be single for once in his life. 6 months later he meets me and gets pretty serious early on and has become Mr Confused.
he doesn’t want to give me up but feels like he wants to be single bc 1 marriage counselor told him he should be single for 1 year before getting into another relationship. I’m guessing to not fall into the arms of someone like his ex wife. I am nothing like her at all but he seems to have been experiencing post traumatic stress recently. He keeps on telling me he doesn’t want to feel guilty when he wants to travel and doesn’t want to worry about a girlfriend at home bc it makes him feel bad. His ex wife didn’t let him do much without him and did make him feel bad when he did things with friends and not her. I could care less what he does as long as he doesn’t cheat and he knows this. I’m an extremely independent person and I do things with my friend alone all the time.
Well a few evenings ago he tells me his gut is telling him he should be single. That he fights wanting to be with me and being single. I told him I was crushed but if that’s how he feels, that’s how he feels.
The next day he calls me in the morning and leaves me a message that he couldn’t sleep well last night; he was all stressed out. The guys at his fire station told him he was talking about me in his sleep and sleep walking and talking. I then spoke to him later that day and he ask me how I’m doing, I tell him I’m crushed and he proceeds to tell me, “I care about you so much, I mean I don’t think you realize how much you mean to me.” “Please let me come over after my shift on Wed morning to see you.” I don’t know what the point of this meeting is but I said I would see him. I’m really hurt but understand that he needs time. I’m not sure what to do bc I don’t want to date him and him date other people too.
Would you want to back off entirely or date but not as seriously and accept him dating others too? Any other advice is appreciated (more…)
