My bf said that I need to be kinkier. What are some kinky things I could do that he would like?
This is a good question and I’m glad to hear that you’re open to fully sexually satisfying your man. Lots of women often think that they shouldn’t give in to men’s demands in bed because that makes them feel degraded and think its wrong but the truth is they shouldn’t feel that way. The fact your man feels comfortable enough with you to open up and tell you how he feels and wants to share those new experiences with you should say a lot about your relationship.
Experimenting in bed and trying new things is part of a growing relationship and above all is normal. Think about it, if he can experiment with his own girlfriend/wife who else is he supposed to do that with? By refusing to be open to new things you’re only pushing him away and risking the possibility of him seeking these kind of experiences else where.
Lot’s of women out there often refuse to try anything new in bed and feel that they have the right to set rules when it comes to sex but later when they find their man cheating on them get surprised.
If you want to your man to be loyal to you, keep him happy. It’s that simple.
If your boyfriend has asked you to be kinkier in bed, my best advice is to take a look at some porn videos and get ideas there. Generally when guys say “kinky” it means that they have certain sexual fantasies that usually come from porn videos or other movies they’ve seen in the past and they want to feel like they’re in it. By being open to these requests you will only be helping your relationship get stronger and at the same time you’ll keep your man happy and keeping him from seeking them elsewhere. If you’re smart, you might also be able to fulfill some of your own sexual fantasies by doing a little compromising or maybe even combining yours with his.
I wish more women were open to at least discuss the possibility of experimenting instead of making all these restricting and irrational rules in bed
Completely agree, hopefully after reading this post they be a bit more open minded
Make the guys do:
First of all, make them very very horny, jerk for a while (not too much), and make them bring the items mentioned next. if they refuse to use the cucumber and/or fingers, do it yourself on the cam, and tell him to do it too, otherwise you’ll stop.
– make him do push-ups on the cam
– make him rub himself with lotion
– make him fuck himself with a cucumber (sit on it on a chair or floor, doggy style), after a while, make him take it out and lick and suck it. Important, make him keep the cucumber in the cam’s sight all the time, so he can’t clean it before sucking it 😉
– get a cable and tie his balls and dick
– make him attach clips to his nipples, balls, lips, dick
– if he’s flexible enough, make him suck his dick
– make him show the screen and himself and tell him to masturbate while watching gay porn (share screen (msn/skype) if he has a laptop)
– dip his finger(s) in honey/peanut butter/chocolate cream, finger his ass, and then lick it up
when cumming, there are several options:
– cum on a dark surface, so you can see it, and make him lick it up
– cum in a shotglass and make him drink it
– cum on his hands, and while playing with one, lick the other one (make sure the sperm is on it)
– cum on the cucumber and suck it
– make him lay down, put his butt against the wall, the legs up, and pull his knees against his head, so when he cums, he can cum into his mouth (optional: he can continue fucking himself with the cucumber meanwhile, and suck it too 😉
– make him do all this in the window, even better at night, with the lights on, so he won’t see if someone is watching outside (very hard to make them do that)
– invite a friend to the chat, it’s more fun when you want to play with your slave
– invite one of his contacts to the chat, but don’t tell him what you’re going to do
of course, I don’t need to mention the satisfaction to make all this to him IN PERSON, to tie him up…
also, propose a threesome to 2 straight guys (no friends, strangers), and when they are really really horny, make them touch eachother… suck, and so on (very hard to make them do that)
have phun 😉
Ana, you’re a really sick chick and I think something really bad must of happened to you as a kid (get some professional help).
Also, I advice against any of those “ideas” mentioned above. Definitely not something a guy would like to do or would fall under a guy’s definition of kinky. If you manage to make him do any of those things, you have officially discovered your bf is gay. No staright guy would ever do any of that
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Hey,
First of all, insulting people isn’t as intelligent as you might think, but I’ll leave that up to you.
Second, I do this for living, and you can believe me, many, many guys like this (single, married, with their female partner, etc. As far as I can recall, I never had a homosexual doing this)
The men’s anus is much more sensible than a woman’s, mainly because of the prostate (etc). Once discovered this “secret spot” men are likely open to discover other “kinky” stuff. I am able to make a men get so excited, that the things I’ve described in my post, are innocent. But I don’t want to post them here, that’s rather 1to1 or in specific sites.
Maybe you should lighten up, open your mind and try any of this, maybe go to a professional dominatrix and you might change your point of view.
In any case, I totally inderstand you.
Sweetheart, you’re definitely wrong on this one. Don’t try to generalize on this when it comes to men. The men you deal with are in the minority and not the majority. They probably already have those fantasies to begin with and are not a “discovery” as you put it.
Yes, there are sick fetishes out there like the ones you’ve described and some guys might like them but to say and recommend them to an average person to try them is not something I would do.
For the record, I don’t have the slightest interest in trying any of those sick things, EVER. Believe me straight guys don’t want anything penetrating their anus…
First of all I’d like to say that it’s great that he was open to communicate with you what he needs and the fact that you are willing and want to please him shows that you are a woman worth hanging on to.
Since he was able to communicate to you what he needed, why not ask him what he has in mind? Ask him what his fantasies are…and if you have some– share them. You could end up loving the new things you’re trying and opening up some fun new doors.
Not only is good communication great for your relationship, it’s great for your sex life too.
I agree. The best way to find out what a person wants or needs is to simply ASK! LOL
I don’t agree with you, I agree with Ana. There are plenty of straight men out there open that sort of stuff but don’t like saying it as it would be deemed a ‘gay thing to do’. Your open-mindedness is lacking for someone running a site like this. It’s the twenty first century.
you’re being pretty intolerant by calling them “sick fetishes.” and my chauvenistic, homophobic ex actually loved it when i played with his butt. i didn’t really ask him beforehand, i just did it. he was kind of surprised the first time, but he totally agreed that it felt good. and he was kind of a jerk about letting me know what he liked and didn’t like, so i’m pretty sure he was enjoying himself. lighten up hg.
The guy would do it if he’s comfortable with his sexuality!
i would please like some good ideas of something new to do with my man we have been together 7 years i am 26 he is 41 but he dont look or act it lol but were going out to a hotel sunday night for some alone time, and he always trys new and kinky things witch i am open too but i feel im not holding up my end enough and would love to give a night he will always remember but i dont really have any ideas open to all suggestions… would rather have male advice sice i think u know more about what a man wants…i love my man and just wish to please him