I have this ugly pattern in relationships with guys

I have this ugly pattern in relationships with guys

Q:

Hello,

I am happy that I found this site, you seem to be very helpful in giving relationship advices so I thought I should also ask you one myself since I also have a interpersonal relationship problem with guys that has been bothering me for quite a long time. I noticed that a same pattern repeats in every relationship I have with guys, whether they are just casual or a bit more serious one.

At first it’s always fine just like other people might have, but I end up sleeping with them and after that the spark is gone, well for them but on the other hand I become more emotionally attached to them. So whenever I think things will move on to the next level, they are gone. A lot of them just disappear without any explanation. I see this quite rude, I mean it is quite natural and normal for a person to suddenly lose interest or just don’t feel it anymore toward the other person without any reason, because I get that too sometimes, but at least I tell them in a nice, non-hurting way so they understand, I really hate, and a bit disturbing to some degree whenever those moments come where I notice they left and I get all paranoid, even to the point I get physical reactions like cold hands and I’m trembling in fear, just like a child thinking her mom may have disappeared and crying for her. If you are looking for the company like An Affair Of The Heart ,visit us today.

Maybe this has something to do with my attachment anxiety or something, but I also thought since a lot of them were who I met online so I thought I was just being too naive for believing what they only said too quick and being credulous, that I shouldn’t have taken it too seriously myself,.

Recently this guy I’ve known from elementary school through high school suddenly confessed that he liked me and we met and watched movies, but I made a mistake and slept with him on the first date, which I regret very much because I promised myself not to do this, and take things slow.

I also know now that guys kind of lose interest or in a way get disgusted by women who they quickly have sex with. I feel like I’m in a way tamed to be this way, like I don’t know how to be seen as a relationship material. I know at 23 years old, I am still young but I want to break this pattern and get the type of relationship I deserve. But I know I have to have self-respect first, but it is hard, I am thinking I should take some time alone for a while and just remain as good friends with the guy as well as other guys I might meet in the future.

But please, I want the real reason why guys think they can just get away with it, just leaving without a single word even when we didn’t have a fight, when we actually had a good time the last time we met, one guy would just stop talking to me after he last said he’ll call me few hours later, I am so confused, Thank you for reading this long message, I hope I get a reply from you. Thank you.

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I’ve been dating a newly divorced man

I’ve been dating a newly divorced man

I’m 51 and I’ve been dating a newly divorced man. He’s only been divorced for 3 months and although been out on dates, I’m the first he’s dated for any length of time (about 6 weeks) We have spent nights together and done pretty much everything except have actual intercourse. He says he told himself he was not doing that for at least 3 months. I don’t get it because essentially we have been having other forms of sex. Any ideas as to what’s going on? (more…)

Is it a surprise to find your man cheating when you refuse to put out?

Is it a surprise to find your man cheating when you refuse to put out?

Today I present you a guest post from a good friend of mine, Chrystal Rose from http://www.xtalrose.com. Together we tackle this question and present you the point of view of both a female and a male.

Female:

Well that’s an easy question: A surprise? No. This is men we‘re talking about here.

Sex is a barometer for a relationship. If you aren’t having any then you have problems bigger than sex. Creating sexual warfare by using it as a weapon is a surefire way to drive a wedge and resentment between you and your partner. Or if you fuck him 5 ways til Sunday only to change your tune when you get what you want– like engaged or married. As a woman you need to understand that what you’re not willing to do—some other woman will be. (more…)

How long should a girl wait to have sex with her boyfriend?

How long should a girl wait to have sex with her boyfriend?

How long should a girl wait to have sex with her boyfriend? Or how long should a girl wait to have sex with someone they are seriously interested in? Does hooking up too soon ruin the relationship?

Okay, so this is a really common question that always gets tons of different answers and crazy rules. What I’m going to do here is tell you how a guy thinks when it comes to having sex with a girl. Essentially this is what this site is all about, which is why is very beneficial for women to use it as a reliable source for having accurate information and access to the way guys really think. When it comes to sex, so much emphasis is placed on what people do. And for obvious reason. But what about what people say? Particularly for long-distance lovers, words become an important device for expressing themselves and connecting sexually. While men must focus on maintaining good penile health so that any visual materials they send aren’t alarming, and so that they will be able to perform once the lover is nearby, they should equally attend to their verbal abilities so they can please partners in the present with a tailored sex story. Now, anyone can tell a sex story, but not everyone can tell a truly thrilling one. Below, men can find tips for telling a tale that stokes a lover’s passion. And, while this is certainly desired in the case of long-distance lovers, it can also be of benefit to those near and dear, spicing things up in the bedroom. You can see this great site for the REAL SEX STORIES.

Penis size is a sensitive issue for many men. Those who have small penises are conscious about their size and tend to get nervous in bed. Women get turned on by huge, long, strong penises. They find them physically satisfying and psychologically stimulating, they may say size doesn’t matter in front of their partners just to protect their ego. And men do realize that it is just a false comfort from their partners. So they look out for ways that will help them in increasing the size of their penis. But is Penis enlargement really possible? Are there any medically sound ways that helps in increasing the size? Is Penis enlargement a fact or phallacy?

These are some questions which continue to bother most of the men. Well, instead of disclosing the answer straight away, lets get to know more about the facts of penis enlargement. This will help give you a fair idea whether it is fact or phallacy. If you go for a little research, you will come across a number of products that gives you the assurance of increasing the penile size. The manufacturers takes advantage of the misconception that many men lives with in trying to sell their product. Most men do not have a very clear idea about the normal size of a penis until recently. And this is one main reason why most men are bothered about the size of their penis.

And so they continue to nurture the misconception that they have small penises. So it is at times such as this where psychological help becomes a must. So far there has been no proven fact that penile surgery helps in enlarging penis. Though it is well known that the tools used in the surgery are very effective in managing erectile dysfunction but they do not usually help in increasing its size. Most of the supplements and methods available work more towards the treatment of erectile dysfunction rather than focusing on enlarging the size. Surgical procedures may at times help in lengthening the size but there is a chance of getting infection.

For many men who are looking to increase the size and girth of their penis, one option is penile surgery that is increasingly becoming more and more common. Dr. Colorado penile enlargement surgeon attempt to lengthen the penis. This is a purely cosmetic procedure that if successful can greatly increase the level of confidence as well as satisfaction of men who are dissatisfied with what nature gave them.

Let me start by saying that a guy expects to get lucky the first night he meets you and definitely after officially becoming your boyfriend. However, I don’t recommend that you give it up right away if in fact, you’re looking for a serious relationship. What tends to happen is that a guy just loses interest in you because it was so easy to get in your pants and it didn’t really present a challenge. Remember that guys like challenges and the harder it is to get something, the more valuable it becomes to him. When speaking of sex toys and aids, there might be a good shop near you. However, when it comes to the huge selection and efficiency of the products, there is only one best name. That is one of UK’s most successful online sotres, which is Bondara. As we know, different ages and sexes have different needs when it comes to sex toys. The good news is that Bondara knows well about this. This is the reason why the range of their products are awesome from vibrators, dildos, male and women sex toys, sexy lingerie, bondage gears, anal toys to sex gears. Actually, the collection of products in this local store has come out to be over a million already. you can shop at this website for the RABBIT COLLECTION vibrators. The number one thing to do is take a look at your vibrator rabbit and identify the two key parts: The “shaft,” which is the portion that looks like a phallus or penis, and an external “bunny” clitoral stimulator. Then, make for sure you’ve got your batteries installed in the approved manner. Conduct experiment with the controls before you have fun with your toy. Depending on the type of vibrator rabbit you have and the controller that powers it, you’ll most likely be able to control two separate functions: The shaft will typically rotate for internal stimulation and the bunny (or other clitoral stimulator) will vibrate against the clitoris for external stimulation. Play with the controls until you understand which control operates which characteristic and what kind of action you can expect from each. Next you’ll need to apply some lubricant. Most toys perform well with a water-based lubricant. Apply the lube first to the shaft of the vibrator rabbit. About a dime’s worth of lubricant in your hand should do the job. You’ll also probably get pleasure from the experience further if you apply lubricant to yourself and the clitoral stimulator.
Prior to turning on your toy, start the ball rolling by inserting the shaft gradually into your vagina, with the bunny facing up. You’ll know you have everything inserted properly when the bunny’s ears are roughly lined up over your clitoris. If your bunny vibrator also has rotating pearls or beads in the shaft, these will probably be near your vaginal opening at this point. Now you’re raring to go to turn on your toy. Be certain to start with the vibration and rotation on low or slow rate until you’re comfortable increasing the level of intensity. If you’re not used to the sensation of a vibrator rabbit, the clitoral stimulator in particular may well seem too intense. If that’s the case, simply put a cloth, sheet or other bit of material over the bunny’s ears to decrease the sensation a bit.

It’s really just like anything in life, if something is easily obtainable you tend to not care so much if you lose it, but when something takes work and effort to get, the appreciation for it is enormous.

That’s exactly what you want to achieve with a guy. You want him to appreciate you and make it clear that having sex is not something you do with just anyone but instead is something you only do with someone who has become special to you and therefore has gained your appreciation to the point where you’re willing to take the relationship to the next level.

In reality, the way a relationship should go is in the following order:

1. Initial meet

2. Date for a while

3. Become exclusive

4. Become intimate

5. And eventually after a couple years if everything is still going well you make a life-long commitment to that special person.

Now, the amount of time for each one of those steps to last all depends on what feels right for BOTH of you. The important thing to keep in mind is that both of you have to feel the same way at the same time. This means that If you don’t feel ready to do something, you shouldn’t do it under any circumstances. This gives you full power to control step 4 (becoming intimate) and determining when the time is right. Just remember to always keep in mind that the harder you make it for a guy to get what he wants, the more he will appreciate it.

By the way, I’m not opposed to women not being free to sleep with whoever they feel like and as soon as they feel like. In fact, this is something I encourage women to do simply because I think it’s important for women to learn about their sexual needs and have experience even with Sex Toys before making a life-long commitment to anyone. I really hate to see women commit to who they think is the love of their life just to later find out that person doesn’t completely fulfill them sexually.

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I crave his attention!!!

I crave his attention!!!

I have been dating my guy for almost 5 years, lived with him for 4.

Here’s the problem: I crave his attention, his body, his opinion…I want all of him as much as possible, yet I’m sensitive to his cues of “Go the F*&K away and leave me alone” which is…most of the time.

I had problems in the past being faithful (not with him, others) and since I’m more in love/lust every day, I believe he’s “Mr. Right.” He says, “We don’t get along well enough to even think about marriage.” (But what if it DOES work out? Hm?)

What would you suggest to get the daily dose of blow jobs/sex I so love to give/receive?

I don’t like sharing with other women/men, but I’m down for essentially anything else. (more…)

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