by The Last Honest Guy
What to give to a guy? This is a question that a lot of women never take the time to actually think of. The ones that do are the ones that have great relationships. In reality is not that hard to know what your man might like. Most of us guys are very simple and by just paying a little attention to what we like you should be able to easily figure this out.
The first thing you should keep in mind is that guys and girls don’t have the same taste or interests. I get tired of seeing girls buy their man flowers or stuffed animals. Guess what? We don’t like any of those things. This is a result of some women being too lazy to think and realize what their man likes. You have to understand that most men are practical and do not like to waste money or resources. We generally like things that we can use or things that we need. When women mistakenly gives us stuffed animals thinking we like them, in our mind we think they’re a waste of money and we can’t think of a place to put that useless present. You have to remember that these things take up space in our homes that don’t necessarily look too masculine and at the same time serve no purpose. The same applies to flowers. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
So last night at the MTV Movie Awards Sandra Bullock kissed Scarlet Johansson and now everyone is talking about it (including us). It seem like the whole thing was just to get publicity but some are saying that Sandra Bullock was trying to send Jesse James a message to say “look at what you’re missing”.
Well, I’m not here to talk about how crazy and shocking this was (cause it wasn’t, it’s been done many times before) or if she was trying to get back at Jesse James. What I’m here to say is that if in fact she was aiming this towards Jesse James then it was useless and it probably meant nothing to him. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
“Very controlling, obsessive, delusional and insecure due to lack of education.”
Let me start by saying that you may have a controlling, obsessive, delusional and insecure spouse but it doesn’t necessarily means it’s because of lack of education. How did you come up with that? I’ve known a lot of people with a high school or lower levels of education and they’re not all controlling, obsessive, delusional and insecure like you say. I think you have just come up with your own conclusion based on what you feel is a good reason for their behavior. In my opinion this is the wrong thing to do because it blocks the possibility of finding out the real reason that’s causing this behavior. I also noticed that you’ve labeled your spouse as “mentally ill” which is completely out of line because someone that’s controlling doesn’t necessarily mean they’re mentally ill, that’s a strong term to use. Now, creating all these negative labels about your spouse might be creating more problems in your relationship than you think specially if you actually use them towards them when you have arguments, and something tells me that you do. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Hi I am having a problem with my fiancé. We are both in our late 20’s and he doesn’t have a job yet, so as a result, he has stolen from me. The first time he stole money I had laid out on my dresser (we don’t live together yet) that I was going to use for gas to get to work that day. The most recent time, he stole my debit card and used it, then put it back without telling me, thinking I wouldn’t notice. He has also stolen items besides money from me too, like computer equipment, a digital camera and other items. I honestly don’t know what to do. I love him to death and I help him out as much as possible, but he keeps taking. I am not even sure if it is a crime since we’re engaged. And I have asked questions of what would happen if I got the police involved, but I don’t want to get him in trouble. I just don’t know what else I can do? He doesn’t even apologize, he just takes things, and I don’t even know it’s missing until afterwards. Sometimes the money he takes, I really need for things. I am just really confused…I help him out with money and anything I can (most recently a LOT of money to get his car engine fixed). But it doesn’t help, he keeps taking. Any advice? I don’t know if counseling or therapy would help or what.. I just know something has to be done. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
This guy I’ve been seeing for the past few months; divorced 2 years ago after 7 years of marriage, dated a girl 10 years younger for 10 months after his divorce was final and broke up with her to be single for once in his life. 6 months later he meets me and gets pretty serious early on and has become Mr Confused.
he doesn’t want to give me up but feels like he wants to be single bc 1 marriage counselor told him he should be single for 1 year before getting into another relationship. I’m guessing to not fall into the arms of someone like his ex wife. I am nothing like her at all but he seems to have been experiencing post traumatic stress recently. He keeps on telling me he doesn’t want to feel guilty when he wants to travel and doesn’t want to worry about a girlfriend at home bc it makes him feel bad. His ex wife didn’t let him do much without him and did make him feel bad when he did things with friends and not her. I could care less what he does as long as he doesn’t cheat and he knows this. I’m an extremely independent person and I do things with my friend alone all the time.
Well a few evenings ago he tells me his gut is telling him he should be single. That he fights wanting to be with me and being single. I told him I was crushed but if that’s how he feels, that’s how he feels.
The next day he calls me in the morning and leaves me a message that he couldn’t sleep well last night; he was all stressed out. The guys at his fire station told him he was talking about me in his sleep and sleep walking and talking. I then spoke to him later that day and he ask me how I’m doing, I tell him I’m crushed and he proceeds to tell me, “I care about you so much, I mean I don’t think you realize how much you mean to me.” “Please let me come over after my shift on Wed morning to see you.” I don’t know what the point of this meeting is but I said I would see him. I’m really hurt but understand that he needs time. I’m not sure what to do bc I don’t want to date him and him date other people too.
Would you want to back off entirely or date but not as seriously and accept him dating others too? Any other advice is appreciated (more…)
