My fiancé has a fetish with flirting with other women on his phone sending and receiving pics I saw him jacking off in the bath room the other night to some girl on his phone should I be worried or is this like a normal thing for men?

First of all, you say your fiancé has a “fetish” with flirting with other women, let me tell you that this guy is a genius for making you think it’s just a fetish. Don’t be stupid, there’s no such thing as having a fetish of flirting with other women, that’s called “trying to hook up with other women in front of your face.” I can’t believe you allow this behavior to happen. Be clear that this is NOT NORMAL behavior and it shouldn’t be tolerated from your part at all. Have some self-respect and either put a stop to it or get out, you’re still on time since you haven’t yet married this guy.

I’m always skeptical about behavior that doesn’t make sense. Here are a couple of questions to keep in mind; where are these women from? Are these local women? And, what kind of girls send provocative pictures (I’m assuming they’re provocative because other wise it would be hard to masturbate to just a face or something) to a guy that’s about to get married?

If you think about it, the answer is pretty clear, these women probably don’t know you exist and that he’s about to get married. In order for him to shut you up, he just tells you and claims to be just a fetish, the reality is that he’s either already nailing these women or is in the process of doing so. After all, isn’t that the whole purpose of flirting? Just to get what you want out of girls, in this case probably real sex.

Now that we have established that this is DEFINITELY NOT NORMAL behavior, let’s address another important point, the cause. All men have a higher sex drive than women and that’s just a fact but fortunately for you there’s a simple solution to this. If you want him to stop your only options is to give it to him as often as he needs it, and problem solved. I know this is not what you want to hear but hey, I’m The Last Honest Guy and somebody has to say it. In order for a men to not have the need to masturbate he just needs to get it as often as he needs it and it’s a done deal. Believe it or not after a man has all the sex he needs he will be drained and there won’t be a need for him to masturbate anymore, you just have to keep up with him. Also know that you don’t have to do this for the rest of your life, man at different stages of life have higher sex drives and so it won’t be like this forever. Unfortunately I don’t think woman ever reach the same sex drive as man even at their highest stage in life. A rule of thumb to keep your man happy is to give him sex at any time all the time (your grandma can probably confirm the truth in this). Trust me if you do this most problems will go away and to be honest this isn’t a high price to pay just to have a happy man that stays home and doesn’t go looking for it somewhere else. Here’s an analogy; if you’re always fed at home until you’re full, are you going to go outside looking for food?

I should also point out that another reason men will masturbate is if you’re not as physically attractive as you could be. Man are stimulated my the physical attraction they have to a woman and that’s why it’s important to be as attractive as possible in order to maintain a good sexual relationship. Let’s face it, most women the minute they find a boyfriend, get comfortable and start letting themselves go, then they wonder why their man won’t touch them anymore. If you think about it, when we first meet you we like you for your looks (that’s the truth) and later we get to know you and start liking you for your personality as well. After some time if you don’t physically look the same (and I know, it’s not all about the looks) as when we met you, than you can’t blame us for not being into you as much as before, not to mention the fact after some time in a relationship the frequency of sex always diminishes. After all, looks was the reason we were initially attracted to you in the first place.

I suggest you look at the way you used to look at the beginning of the relationship and look at yourself now and see if things have changed.

If they have, then that might be part of the reason that’s contributing to your fiancé’s behavior. Even though this might sound a bit shallow to say it has a lot of truth to it and if you really value your relationship it might be a good idea to start hitting that cardio machine or start jogging a few laps around the park.  Don’t get me wrong, I think this should apply to both men and women in a relationship because it’s even worst when one stays looking attractive while the other one lets themselves go. I’m a true believer of equality and fairness.

I should also tell you that a number of couples that are obese and are not really attracted to each other, often use porn to mentally stimulate themselves, get turned on and be able to sexually be with each other. Again, if this is your case then he might be using these pictures (equivalent to porn) in order to get the stimulus needed to be able to be with you sexually. This can easily be solved by hitting that treadmill.

The bottom line is that this is not normal behavior for man and it should be a red flag that’s indicating something is wrong. Chances are that he’s not sexually into you and his possibly trying to get it somewhere else (if he’s not already doing so) or at the least just fantasizing about all these other women in the pictures in order to fulfill he’s sexual needs.