by The Last Honest Guy
Q:
So I am best friends with my ex-boyfriend…. We were together for four years and I broke up with him after losing someone close to me and I felt like I was smothering. That was 3 years ago and he has been there for everything since still is very close to me and my family and see him at least once a week. He just came home from being in Oz for 6 months and we went out to celebrate had a few drinks and we slept together. Since we have broken up we have kissed once or twice but never gone this far. He kissed me and although I kissed him back I stressed it might not be a good idea but we carried on. It was a passionate night and he told me he loved me. The next morning we both said we were good and things wouldn’t change but he is so awkward with me now will barely look me in the eye and is giving short answers. I don’t know what to do?
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by The Last Honest Guy
So you’ve sorted out your online dating profile on eHarmony.ca, you’ve got chatting to somebody interesting and you’re wondering how to go about this. Do you play it coy, do you show a lot of interest, what do you talk about? Here are some tips on how to communicate with your online date:
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by The Last Honest Guy
Hi,
This might be kind of long. Okay so 5 years ago I ended up having an intimate relationship with my best guy friend. After a year, I wanted a commitment but he didn’t. He “treated” me like his girlfriend but never officially wanted to put a title on it. I eventually got upset then started dating another guy, this guy is completely different than type I go for. Within weeks we were officially in a relationship then my best friend started getting upset and telling me how much be loves me and tried to get back with me. I ended up staying in my relationship but now I’m thinking to go be with my best friend. I’ve been in my relationship for 2 years now but I feel like my boyfriend doesn’t have a plan for our future. My best friend on the other hand has a great career, nice income, his own condo and a car whereas my boyfriend has none of those things. He has changed a lot to be with me and says that all he wants is to make me happy. He stopped hanging out with his friends as much and pretty much became like a “yes man”. I feel bad that I’m not seeing a future with him anymore. I just want to know someone’s opinion if I’m wrong for wanting a man that can take care of me, I have feelings for my bestfriend and because he is so successful it just makes me want that lifestyle even more. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
My ex (27 year old) and I have been broken up for 7 months now. In this time, we have still been seeing each other, purely on a friends with benefits relationship. I was the first person to sleep with someone else, and I got called many names by him, as well as being asked never to contact him again. A short time afterwards we continued to see each other, and when he slept with someone else, it was the same deal. Afterwards, he told me we should stop seeing each other, yet sure enough a week later, we were once again sleeping together again. Lately, he has been really rude and disrespectful, trying to woo other girls on Facebook/text messages, and we have had numerous fights over this, all ending with one of us calling our arrangement off. After we had our first fight, a week later of completely NO CONTACT I got an apology. We had our last fight very recently and after two days, I once again received an apology. My question is, what is his problem? Is he literally sorry, or is he just being manipulative? Is his apologizing a way of keeping me in his life because he can’t let go? Or am I just being used until he finds something more with someone else? I know this is a bad place for me to be, both mentally and physically, but there is just something about him that I can’t let go, I need relationship advice. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
So, there is this guy and we were friends over the summer but slowly grew apart. One night I wasn’t myself and I freaked out at him because I felt like he didn’t care and didn’t even want to be my friend. The next couple weeks I ignored him when he came up to me in the halls and I would avoid him as much as I could cause I didn’t want to face him.
He soon started to leave me alone and I started slowly talking to him a little more but it was pretty awkward. Another night I was talking to my best friends ex boyfriend (they were still together at the time) and I was telling him that the guy wanted to steal my best friend from him because that’s what I had heard from some other people including his really good friend. The next day my friends ex told the other guy what I said and nothing has been the same, I am friends with some of his friends and they all tell me that he hates me and thinks I am annoying and he never talks to me in the halls. I have tried to apologize but he blocked my number (I think) and I can’t get up the courage to face him in person. He talks to my friends but never even gives me on glance. I get messages from his friends that i am not friends asking if I like him just to piss me off but, I don’t know if
there is an actual reason behind it other than that. I miss talking to him and I really still like him but there are soo many reasons why I shouldn’t like him and it hurts to see him and know that he pretty much hates my guts. I am usually really good at getting over guys but not with him. I feel like there is a reason why I can’t get over him and so I am waiting it out. Should I give up on him or keep fighting for him? If I should give him up then how do I move on? If keep fighting then how do I get him back? Please help! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I will make this as short as I possible can… I will call the man I am speaking of “Tony” when referring to him. Before now, Tony and I knew each other on a “hi/bye” level for several years.. We have mutual friends so throughout the years we would run into each other from time to time… A few times he made comments to me like “If you were single, you’d be my girl” but I never paid much attention to it. In August 2012, I requested to be his friend on facebook and immediately I received a message from him. We exchanged phone numbers and have been “friends since.” He asked me out several times before I finally gave in one morning when he asked me to breakfast. He would send me good morning texts just about everyday as well as text me multiple times throughout the day. About two months into our “friendship” and 3 dates later, I slept by his house and I slept w/him…I never had a bad intuition about it or anything… He called the next day, and the next and things continued good… He attended my birthday party, he seemed interested in my life and my opinions on things, he remembers the little things, blah, blah, blah… And I strarted to grow feeling for him.. Through the months of us talking, we have gone to eat or have a drink several times and continued seeing each other… Not once did we talk about “us.” As time past, I could feel him fading away/losing interest… Instead of texting everyday, it would be maybe once every 2 or 3 days… but never did he go more than 4 or 5 days w/o being in contact. Sometimes if I didnt hear from him for a day or two I would contact him.. Everytime he came back around I would be right there and everytime he would ask me to do something I would say yes.. I finally decided to tell him that I have realized that I put myself in a position where I am going to get hurt and that if I was going to continue to “give myself” to someone, I expected to be worth their time and effort.. I did not give him an ultimatum nor was I demanding, I was just expressing how I felt..He responded by saying he is so glad that I am honest and he would want nothing less that for me to be honest but that he is just not ready for a relationship. He went on to say that he recently got out of a long relationship and he had a bad taste in his mouth for ladies and that I opened his eyes.. blah blah! I told him I understood and completely respected the way he felt and agreed to remain friends. Unfortunately, I did the stupidest thing ever and have slept with him twice since! He still keeps in touch but not nearly as much. I have pulled back within the last week and have not contacted him at all. I just need a mans opinion on a few things…. What should I do that would give me the best chance to potentially have something with him? or am I kidding myself? Is he playing me like a fiddle and laughing at me or is he emotionally unavailable ? What do you suggest I do that would result in him having respect for me but also realizing that I do care for him but wont be played for a fool? (or is it too late for all that?)
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