So you’ve sorted out your online dating profile on eHarmony.ca, you’ve got chatting to somebody interesting and you’re wondering how to go about this. Do you play it coy, do you show a lot of interest, what do you talk about? Here are some tips on how to communicate with your online date:
Be honest about yourself
First off, don’t start the relationship by telling lies about yourself – this will not do you any favours.
Of course communicating through messaging is different to communicating face to face, and you might be tempted to add a few things or perhaps take some away (like a few pounds, or a few years), but if you want the relationship to go any further, they’ll soon find out and you’ll have some explaining to do.
You want the person to like you for who you are, and you deserve that – also just be honest.
Questions to avoid
It’s a good idea to avoid asking personal questions about religions or beliefs when you’re just getting to know somebody. This could spark off a disagreement, or worse, an argument, and you don’t want to go there. Nor should you start asking about past relationships or marriages just yet – this is the kind of thing to leave until you know the person better and they feel comfortable talking to you.
Questions to ask
Instead, ask rounded questions about what they do for a living, what their interests and aspirations are and where they see themselves in five or ten year’s time. Remember not do bombard them, though, this is not an interview – show interest but keep it relaxed.
Something that will come across strongly in messages or Skype conversations is positivity. If you sound like a happy, well-balanced person, people will be attracted to you and will want to keep the conversation going.
Sometimes we can be inclined to be down on ourselves, out of modesty or perhaps a lack of confidence, but remember that this can make you sound negative. So avoid saying things like ‘I’m not very good at…’ or ‘I don’t really like…’ Just stick to positive statements about what you do like and what you are good at.
The best thing to do is not to play games – if you act coy, you might come across as uninterested, and if you show a lot of interest, you might scare him away. So whether you’re chatting with singles in Calgary or Vancouver, remember to just be yourself, don’t think too much about it, and stick to light topics.
If you’re looking to get back into the dating game, visit eHarmony.ca and get chatting. Happy dating!