by The Last Honest Guy
I am 13yrs old, and a Caucasian female.
He is 13yrs old, a Caucasian male.
My best guy friend and I have known each other forever. We dated 7 months ago, but it didn’t last long. It has never been awkward between us.
We talk about everything, and tell each other everything. We have pretty much no secrets. He has told me he likes another girl, but he doesn’t act like it.
He always puts his arm around me and hugs me and holds my hand in class, even though we are not dating. We’re always staring at each other in class. All our classmates and even our teachers think we are dating, but we aren’t.
He only acts this way with me, not with the girl he likes. With the girl he says he likes, he barely talks to her or looks at her. He is NOT a shy person at all.
He recently sent me a marriage request on facebook, and I accepted. He is always telling me about how he always wants to be with me, watch movies together, and he wants to see me right in the morning and right before I go to bed, without makeup on and looking like a mess.
I like him more than a friend, and he knows that, but he has been acting this way for quite some time.
Does he like me back? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Why does he only call me CUTE?
Q:
After dating my BF (who is a year older than I) for about 3 years, I took a job 350 miles away.
As a bit of background, I was married for about 11 years and left my ex-husband in a very messy divorce.
My BF and I had ups and downs when I first left but decided to let the relationship be what it is. We see each other occasionally (he travels to me, I travel to him). He takes care of his elderly mother (admirable.. the kind of guy you want!) and I know he loves me a lot.
I am a very busy independent person who has a professional career and a son in high school so I don’t sit around waiting.
The problem is, despite the way I feel about him, I wonder if I should give up on this relationship? I enjoy my time with him and he has told me if it weren’t for his mother he would have made the move with me.
We are not getting any younger… am I just being impatient?
I have a pretty good idea of what I am looking for in a relationship and just about all of it exists with him. As I said, this isn’t some internet thing, we basically lived together when we were in the same town. As for me moving back, that isn’t an option at this point either…
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by The Last Honest Guy
Ok here’s what happened. I dated this guy who’s 39 for about 5 months since last November and he’s an expat who’s been around for 3 years and wouldn’t leave for another 1.5 year. So we met, we got besotted (he more than I did), we got together and things were going fine except for a couple of glitches which I’ll talk more later. I met him online from a dating site and after we decided to be serious, we both suspended the account and things were good. We have loads in common, enjoys the same stuff in life, had really healthy relationship with good sex, good space apart, good communication (talk once a day). Things are so mature and healthy that all my friends think it might be it. Then a couple of weeks ago, we had a fight of sort. He was having a really hard time at work for weeks and I was playing the whole supporting gf thing, bringing him food for dinner when we meet up during week days (he didn’t like hanging out at mine so I went to his every single time) and all the nice stuff like getting him little small gifts to perk up his day. He had always been nice too so it wasn’t like a one way thing where I keep doing all the nice things. But the couple of weeks of doing things for him made me quite tired and I wasn’t too happy that I was always bringing food over and traveling to his place etc.
So one Saturday, I, again, brought food over and he was in a good mood that day cos the busy period was kinda over. And when I got to his place, I was feeling kinda neglected like he took things for granted so I was rather grumpy. And looking at me grumpy, he said to me that if I wasn’t up for dinner with him and his friends that night, I didn’t have to go. And I kinda went a bit upset and said “What? So what do you want me to do? Go home?” and he SNAPPED! Started saying how I should just leave and go home cos I was passing him the bad vibes cos he was in a good mood before and I came and got grumpy and upset him.
I was shocked! Cos I totally didn’t expect that from him and it was the first time I actually got asked to leave a place aka got kicked out. So I was in tears cos I was upset but I told him that I’ve been feeling that I wasn’t appreciated and I said it nicely despite the tears and even apologized for being grumpy etc. But no, he said I must grab my stuff and leave cos I’m not welcomed. So yes, I got shoved out of the house while I was crying. He said to talk when we’re both calm and send him an email or something. I did and even a text but he didn’t even reply me the next day. Not even to acknowledge that he got my mail or text. So when I called him, he said he’s not angry anymore but he’s thinking through things and will call me in the week later.
So I waited for 4 days and no sound from him and I texted him to say if he’s still mad. He replied he wasn’t and if I wanna go meet him over dinner. I felt odd and said if he’s gonna call it quits, he didn’t have to meet me to do it. And he said actually it was about him deciding to leave the country and move elsewhere. So I called him and we spoke and he said he’s decided to leave the country so we both agreed it’s silly to carry on and we split.
Now I’m puzzled cos just the night before, he said he wouldn’t leave for another year and a half despite not being very happy here. And then one fight later, he said he’s leaving??? And his angry outburst?
I mean I can understand if I ruined his mood when things were finally ok at work but it was a bit harsh to shove me out of the door no? And to actually not reply me that he got my email or text? And then suddenly, he’s leaving?
And despite the fact that I said I could still be his friends and we can email and text, I probably shouldn’t see him for a bit. But you know what? I just didn’t hear back from him since. Like WTF?
So I have no idea what the hell happened cos it’s all a bit shocking (the shoving me out of the door thing) and sudden (the oh I’m leaving the country thing). And things were all picture perfect before and I was meeting all his friends, being part of his everything. and yes, we had an awesome sex life. So what happened????
Here’s a bit of detail I promised: when we got together, I said we should both get off the internet dating and suspend our profile. But he didn’t for the longest of time yet he said he would. And it became a bit of an issue cos he said he would but he kept dragging it and we had a fight over it. But he did in the end and we were ok after. And I went online to see if he’s back on now but he isn’t, so it’s not like he’s back online looking for fresh meat. So I have no freaking idea what happened.
Sounds complicated right? Pleeeaase enlighten me!!!! I feel as if I’ve died an unknown death! Argh 🙁 and I really like him, like a LOT (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I was seeing a friend of a friend over the summer. I’m 24 and he’s 29. I knew that he had to go back interstate at the end of the summer, where he lives. We became an item. He left about a month ago and I thought that was the end of it.
He asked me to come up and visit him. I thought he was joking, but he wasn’t. He said that he’d been thinking and want to continue seeing me. He wants me to move with him. This is a huge thing for me, I’ve never lived with anyone before, let alone interstate. He doesn’t really understand this. I have no family or friends there. I’d have just him. I feel like this is a lot of pressure. I don’t know how I feel and he isn’t here which doesn’t help.
My last relationship took a lot out of me and I’m scared of being burned again. I also relied probably too much on my ex. I never want to do that again. It feels too early to move in. We also both had bad breakups last year. Am I just rebounding? I do miss him and I don’t know what to do. He gave me an ultimatum to book a ticket by the end of the month, or that’s it. What do I do? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
THE MAIN ISSUE:
I met a guy who is balancing a pretty interesting life. He is 20 years old and speaks English as a second language (technically still learning). Most people who see us together assume we are a couple or at least that he is interested in me. He also seems to have liked me for quite some time and has tried to make it official but would get intimated by my male friends. Recently, he has only hinted at the idea of a relationship with us. When he is around me he swings from confident to unsure of himself and usually only makes most of the effort when we are together (but does not initiate scheduling). The issue started when I began inviting him to a few events after he showed interest and stated that he wanted to see me again. Generally he would tell me why he was unavailable and suggest a better time; but on rare occasion he’d ask about the activity and not get back to me at all. My friends began to tell me he definitely wasn’t interested and that no guy is *too* busy for anyone (“He’s just not that into if…”). After listening to my friends (all females of course) I assumed he wasn’t interested as well and stopped trying to follow up with him. After a few weeks of not talking or meeting up, I asked if he wanted to hang out. He quickly started digging into me saying that we haven’t done anything we planned so far, how he doesn’t understand why, and it was upsetting to him. I suddenly became upset;
felt attacked, and asked him to go into detail. Sadly, the conversation was not productive. I had a difficult time explaining myself because I was so stunned. He seemed to be treating this situation as if we were in a relationship already. He completely shut down and then immediately tried to see me afterwards.
HIS LIFE:
He is in America with student visa and working so that he can support his family. He comes from a society that set males above females and is the only son in his family. The family that he lives with has taken him in as more of a fatherly figure. He takes care of all the children, drops and picks them up from places they need or want to be, monitors them, and teaches them things that a father would. His mother is constantly on his case about not having a son to brag about, calling it “embarrassing”. He is attending college and paying for it on his own, but she is upset because it is not internationally recognized. Now he is trying to pick his grades up so that he can transfer to a better school (that he won’t be able to afford anyway). She is very demanding and criticizes, what seems to be, most of his actions. He is unable to verbalize how he feels about her (good or bad) and generally just resorts to giving her material items to appease her. Meanwhile, he works weekends and late weekdays to pay utility bills and other cost of living that arise within the household. He has things of his own and is overall very self-sufficient. He always seems to have financial issues, most of which aren’t his burden to carry anyway. He’s also stingy and generally prefers not to use text much as it cost money and takes time, but will text occasionally and sometimes surprise me with gifts. He keeps a very small and close group of friends and can be found studying with them in his free time for long hours….or spending hours completely distressing.
QUESTIONS:
I understand that he is busy and tried not to be selfish by staying on his case about why we haven’t met. We both have stressful lives and clearly need to deal with what’s important first. But now I’m a bit confused and I’m not getting good advice from my rather emotional friends (about males in general actually).
1.) Do you also feel that he had a legitimate excuse or am I being dumb in believing him?
2.) What would be the best way to explain that I understand and empathize with him? As of now, I feel as though he thinks I’m more high maintenance than I truly am.
3.) I’m still a little shocked by him having a sudden outburst of emotion regarding the amount of time we’ve spent together. Why would he freak out like that and then suddenly get passive aggressive? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
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