by The Last Honest Guy
My husband and I have been married for over two years, and have been together for almost 7 years. I have always trusted my husband and we have been able to be honest about everything. Or so I had thought. Recently, I was loading digital pictures to the computer. When I was looking for the file to save them to, I came across a photo file labeled “stuff”. I clicked it and found several pornographic pictures. Now, this is not what I have the concern about. My husband has been honest about the fact that he looks at pornography. He even keeps his collection of Playboys on a bookshelf in our office. But, within this file was a file of non-pornographic pictures of women he knows. Some are co-workers of his, some are friends and there are even some pictures of his last serious ex girlfriend. Now, these are not old pictures. Some were saved as recently as last month ( I know this because they include pictures of a pregnant friend who just recently had her baby.) These are pictures that he has saved from their Facebook pages. I understand that some people often fantasize about people they know, but should I be concerned that he has a file of these photos? He has always told me that he was once cheated on by a girlfriend, so he would never cheat, but am I wrong to feel that this is a violation of trust, too? And how do I tell him that I know about this file. I have never felt the need to snoop through his stuff, but now I don’t know what to trust. I would love to hear your opinion of the situation. Thank you! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I have been with my fiancé for 5 years now and we have a 2 year old girl. For the most part we are happy but I have found lately that I am slowly but surely falling for a married friend at work. We talk all day long and everyday my attraction towards him seems stronger and stronger. I have tried everything (I.E not talking to him, ignoring him etc..) It doesn’t work, its like this magnet that just pulls up together. We have been out a couple times with other co-workers to a bar and had a great time together. About 3 weeks ago I finally broke down and told him how I feel. He stated he cares for me a lot but that he could never cheat on his wife. I told him I completely understand but he did state he does not want this to ruin our friendship. We remained friends and then again last weekend we all went out again but this time I behaved myself, I did not flirt, I respected his decision and we had a great time BUT as we were leaving he asked me to walk to his car, I followed, he then asked for me to get in, I got in and all of a sudden he says to me “I just want to kiss you” We kissed for about 20 minutes. I couldn’t believe it!! But now I have not heard from him by text or phone ( we would text each other all the time before this happened) and when he talks to me at work he only gives 1 word answers. Please help me. I know that I was wrong for doing it but he’s the one that started the kissing even after he told me he didn’t feel the same towards me. HELP!!!!! I am sooooooo confused (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Dear last honest guy,
My husband and I have been married for three years and our each others firsts for many things and high school sweethearts. He joined the air force right out of high school in 2007 and we ended up stationed in Montana married at 18 & 19 years old. I joined also in January of 2010 but we are now going through a divorce because while I was away, he committed adultery with a 17 year old high school drop out and was actually discharged from the air force for it. He lied to me about the discharge reason but once I knew the truth, there was no turning back.
There’s more to it than that though… he has very bad anger issues since joining and landing in security forces which is what he wanted by the way. I’ve never seen him so angry until we moved to Montana and then he was just pessimistic about everything. He was a very spoiled husband. I took care of the finances and cooked… did all my wifely duties and had a career in the air force wanting to go for officer. He just kind of existed until I left for training and he had to fend for himself. He’s always had friends younger than him. And when I say younger I mean high school kids while he’s 22. I have my issues too… I got upset easily if he over drafted our accounts or ran up cards and such. But he always had this way of making me feel like a criminal for accidents. For instance, if I were to hurt myself I never received a “honey are you alright?” It was always “dammit. What did you do now.” I sometimes wonder if he really thought that when I woke up in the mornings I pondered about how I could piss him off that day.
Anyway…
It’s been a month and a half since our separation now and 3 months since his discharge. I’m still in Montana and he had his mother fly him home to Florida where he still has no job, no money and he is living with his parents. He was very resentful towards me when he left and for a while did not talk to me and would contact my supervision demanding that I send him money and my wedding rings back. He is also on several dating sites and has been portraying me as crazy and that he’s completely divorced and ready to find someone positive.
I’ve been pretty content with my new life so far and am awaiting a court date to make things final. But recently before our 3rd year anniversary on December 23rd, he began contacting me. He would act cute and lovey like how he did when we were together and if I told him to stop because it wasn’t normal, he would do it anyway. At one point I asked him if he still loved me or something but he told me he wasn’t sure and that he was battling his emotions. He did however still wish me happy anniversary and even asked to be my new years kiss over a phone call… A week later he was telling me he missed me and loved me and tried to get me to fly him back here which I refused to do. He has also expressed a great deal of desire towards my body and sex and whatnot. And honestly I think he’s just not getting laid in Florida and is trying to get with me when I visit family this July.
He tells me he wants to be friends but what he’s doing in regards to the old comforts of affection that we once shared with each other is not normal. And sorry… but I’m no security blanket to someone who wants to play single or guess the std. I’m now being told from mutual friends that he is telling people that even though we are getting divorced, he and I are staying boyfriend and girlfriend. I’m a little annoyed… and though I’ve expressed it time and time again he still acts delusional. I don’t understand why he is doing this. Because he still asks about how the divorce process is going.
I’m the type of person who takes marriage seriously. I was monogamous with this man for almost 5 years and he’s done more damage to our relationship than I care to share here… but to make it short, his adultery was not the first time therefore I wasn’t going to take it anymore. I have gone out on several non committed dates with a nice man here who is recently divorced and just wanting to talk. However, I’ve made it clear that once my divorce is final I am giving myself one full year free from dating and men so I can live for me for once. I don’t know what to do about my husband… I’ve told him that when
the divorce is final he will never have another chance with me and I will most certainly not humor the idea of friendship. I will drop off the face of the planet to him. But like always, he thinks he’s too irresistible for me to do this.
I’m just lost. The man I planned on sharing the rest of my life with has gone loopy on me. It went from rage to lovey in a month. And I have done my best to stay serious when he tries to act adorable but at the beginning I’m not going to lie I would also give in and act lovey to him. But I started putting two and two together and the what ifs started forming. I’m not on board with this second chance in the future he keeps babbling about. But I want to know- is he serious? Or am I really just the security blanket? I won’t be an enabler and I won’t be used for affection just because nobody finds him interesting. And those who do turn out to be just like all the other immature girls he’s so used to attracting. I want to know why he seems so interested in me… I think it’s a phase he will get over. But he assures me it isn’t. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
mere husband aksar late night party karte hai.jis se main behad pareshan rahti hu.ek baar jab kaafi nashe me the,kuch behad buri bate bad bada rahe the.unhe hosh nahi tha.kapde adhe khule the.maine pyar se unhe confidence me liya aur pucha,to bataya ki wo regularly prostitutes k paas jate hain.aur abhi wahi se a rahe hain.main shoked hu.i dont know,what t o do abt this.i cant bear with this.in the morning he had no idea what he did past night. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
So, a few days ago I wrote an article where I gave you 13 Gift Ideas for Men this Christmas and so I realized that some of us may be on a budget this holiday season.
For that reason, I figured I would give those of you on a budget, 10 Christmas Gift Ideas for Men Under $100. Some of you may also want to use this list and buy 2 or 3 items from the list and make it seem like you’re giving him a lot more presents than just one big expensive one. In addition, some of the items listed below are also more affordable alternatives to the items I gave you in my prior list.
The following list is also good for guy friends and boyfriends who you don’t really want to buy something really expensive for. Sometimes when you begin a relationship and give a big gift from the start it can be a bad thing. You might be setting the bar too high and then feel like you always have to top the prior gift with something even bigger and better next time. I wouldn’t recommend it. This list can be ideal for such situation.
So let’s begin;
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by The Last Honest Guy
Ok, so Christmas is around the corner and you’re still having a hard time thinking of a good gift for your boyfriend, husband, or guy you like.
Well, I’m going to make it easy for you and give you 13 gift ideas for your man this Christmas. The following gifts are gifts that I can guarantee almost every guy will enjoy or want. These are all things we all dream of having and makes a perfect gift for us.
I will give you the main specs to look for when buying these products that will make you look like a pro when you give your man these gifts. He will be blown away and amazed on how knowledgeable you are when it comes to buying the perfect gadgets and gifts for him this Christmas.
So let’s start;
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