You have fallen for this man way too fast

by The Last Honest Guy

I was married for 10 years and about 6 months after leaving my husband I met someone else who I care very, very much for. We dated for a while and things were absolutely perfect. I have 3 kids and he has 1. I am 31 and he is 41. When we were comfortable enough to bring our kids into the picture we did. He unfortunately is not much of a kid person and I have 3. Kids don’t bother me at all so it never bothered me to have his child around me even if my kids were with their father. Anyway, after 4 or 5 months of dating we broke up for a few weeks, then got back together for a couple months then broke up again. All the while staying “friends”. We never officially got back together but he is the first person I talk to everyday and the last person I talk to every night and most of the time all day in between. Our conversations never get old, we always laugh and I can honestly say that he is my best friend and he says the same of me. When my kids are not with me (which is rarely) I spend my free time with him. Even when they are with me and we don’t actually spend time together we are usually always on the phone. weeknights, weekends, late into the night. I know he’s not seeing anyone else but I really just don’t know what to do about the situation. We’re not “together” but we are. It’s very confusing. He has helped me so much in so many ways. I had nothing after my divorce and he helped me to get my first vehicle and pushed me to go back to school and is always there for me when I need him. We are sleeping together and that is always absolutely amazing as well. I just feel that sometimes I’m wasting my time and things will never work out. I’m not getting any younger and if I let myself stay attached to him I will never move on and find someone who is willing to love me and everything about me including my kids. I love him unconditionally and I will love him unconditionally even if things don’t work out. I want the best for him. He will always be part of my life, he’s become family to me and has been a better support for me through everything than my own blood family has been. I just don’t know where to go from here. What do I need to do??? HELP!!! (more…)

My man won’t have sex with me because I’m too Skinny

by The Last Honest Guy

I’m 25, my boyfriend is 32; we’re both Puerto Rican. We’ve been together about 4 years. Overall we have a great relationship. He works very hard in his business to be able to provide for his son and to make sure that we have a nice lifestyle in the future. Over the last several weeks, he has had little to no sex drive. To add to that, I’ve lost weight and he doesn’t find me sexually attractive because I’m too skinny. I understand that stress from working can make him not as into sex and I’ve tried to be patient. We spoke about it today and it turned into an argument. Finally I said “I shouldn’t have to twist your arm into being intimate with me, “look at me” and he said, “you know I’m not into super skinny chicks so what is there for me to look at that’s supposed to get me aroused?” My feelings are very hurt by this whole situation because I would think that genuine feelings and love would supersede physical appearance. It’s also messing with my psyche as a woman to know that the man I love that claims to love me so much isn’t sexually attracted to me and has no desire to be intimate with me. We’ve been intimate lately about  every week and a half. It used to be several times per week. I feel like I have no control here. Please advise.

Thanks! (more…)

This guys says he’s too “busy” for me

by The Last Honest Guy

I need help! I have met an amazing guy online. We talked for about 2 weeks then, since we live in the same town, we decided to do lunch. We had a great time. For weeks we would spend a good part of the day chatting online. We eventually went out a second time and had a great time. However, he is going through divorce. He has said they are not getting back together.. But the last time we went out he poured his heart out to me over his frustration over her behavior. After that date, he has been distant. We haven’t really chatted online any more. We are friends on facebook so he does respond to some of my emails. I asked if he wanted to hang out and his response has been “I have been busy and a lot on my mind”. On Fridays on facebook he posts that he needs friends to hang with for the nite. I totally understand that. He needs personal time… but some of those friends are girls. He never includes me in “friend” time. It makes me wonder if he still views me as possible more than another gal pal. While we don’t chat (still occasionally sends message on facebook) or hang out anymore, no matter what I post as my facebook status, he “likes” it (not every single one, but I would say about 60-75% of the time. it has also been brought to my attention by a buddy of mine that I have been too clingy toward everyone here lately… even this guy I like…. so I sent him a message explaining how I have realized my clinginess and I didn’t mean to be that way. I need advice on how to know what this guy is thinking, where I stand with him, how to get home comfy enough with me to hang out again because he is the sweetest guy I have ever met and he is a true gentleman. A dream come true…help!!! (more…)

I went a little too far

by The Last Honest Guy

I met this guy at school a few weeks ago. He is in a fraternity. He text me that same day, he was so sweet. He told me he is interested in me. We met up at school a few day later. We were flirting. I walked him to his car. In the parking lot, we were making out. It went a little too far. He would text me everyday. On Saturday, he invited me to hang out with his friends. I invited my friend to come along. He later told me we were going to play beer bong. He text me, that his friends doesn’t believe he has two hot girls. My friend didn’t want to go. We went to the movies instead. My friends think he now views me as slut. I wasn’t suppose to kiss him right away. He just wants sex. They tell me frat guys only want one thing. He stopped texting me. I text me. We always hang out in his car. We would make out. We hold hands. He tells me, he likes me. I text him a few days later, he didn’t respond. I am wondering, does he really like me? is he just using me? Should I continue to see him? (more…)