by The Last Honest Guy
Ok so my story is very long so here it goes. I was dating a guy for about 2 months. my whole family was against me dating him because he has a pending court case with domestic violence. I talked about it with him in detail and he has evidence to prove he’s innocent plus I don’t get that vibe from him. Everything about him I know my family doesn’t want me to be with him. He has 3 kids and because of the case can’t get a job, but he treats me really good and says he loves me and any money he’s gotten he’s spent on me. I feel great when I’m with him but broke it off because of family but also cus he did my taxes for me n messed them up n now I’m being reviewed n I have to wait for them to contact me. And his excuse is he was just trying to help me out because of his situation he know he cant provide like he should n wanted to help in any way he can. Here’s the catch, the difference was going to his account. He says its cus it was suppose to be a surprise n said his mom would call me to prove it cus he did the same for her n cried to me n all saying how sorry he was n he messed up n he shouldn’t have done it n he’ll pay for any fines I may get. And he loves me n wants to marry me. In the end of it all he asked me if he should give up trying to be with me n move on n I said yes, but I do love him n we had good times together. He treated me right in everyway esp compared to the last relationship I had. He’s cried to me and begged and came up with ways for me to be with him for my family not to know in the past but I just feel like things keep coming up n every time they do he says all the right things to make me think otherwise. I feel so confused and hurt and heart broken. I want to be with him but I don’t know if it worth it and what his intentions are but it just felt so good when I was with him and now I feel miserable. writing and reading this I know I sound dumb :/ but cant help how I feel for him. I think I already know but would like a second opinion. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I have been with my fiancé for 5 years now and we have a 2 year old girl. For the most part we are happy but I have found lately that I am slowly but surely falling for a married friend at work. We talk all day long and everyday my attraction towards him seems stronger and stronger. I have tried everything (I.E not talking to him, ignoring him etc..) It doesn’t work, its like this magnet that just pulls up together. We have been out a couple times with other co-workers to a bar and had a great time together. About 3 weeks ago I finally broke down and told him how I feel. He stated he cares for me a lot but that he could never cheat on his wife. I told him I completely understand but he did state he does not want this to ruin our friendship. We remained friends and then again last weekend we all went out again but this time I behaved myself, I did not flirt, I respected his decision and we had a great time BUT as we were leaving he asked me to walk to his car, I followed, he then asked for me to get in, I got in and all of a sudden he says to me “I just want to kiss you” We kissed for about 20 minutes. I couldn’t believe it!! But now I have not heard from him by text or phone ( we would text each other all the time before this happened) and when he talks to me at work he only gives 1 word answers. Please help me. I know that I was wrong for doing it but he’s the one that started the kissing even after he told me he didn’t feel the same towards me. HELP!!!!! I am sooooooo confused (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. We do not live together, but in separate apartments about a mile away form each other. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs, complicated by his parents’ messy divorce after 30+ years, my changing jobs and going back to school and some communication issues between the two of us. It seemed we had put a lot of that behind us and had used the tough times to grow together as better people and a better relationship. But lately, we’ve been having communication breakdowns left and right and I’m not sure what to do about it. The most recent:
I have been on the pill for 6 years and when my boyfriend and I first started seeing each other, I wanted him to wear condoms too because of STD protection. We didn’t know each other well and I wanted him to get tested. He doesn’t like wearing them and eventually we built up enough trust where I said it was ok for him to not wear one. So for 2 years we’ve been relying on just the pill. Two months ago, his best friend’s girlfriend got pregnant unexpectedly and ended up having an abortion. This freaked out my boyfriend, as I have said that if I were to get pregnant by accident I’m not sure what I would do. Now he will only have sex if he is wearing a condom. While I appreciate his responsibility, it seems like he doesn’t trust me (I do not want to get pregnant!) and it’s created some tension between us. I’ve gotten used to not using condoms and now that we’re using them again, I’ve noticed how bad they smell, the interruption in the moment and I don’t like that he made this decision on his own, rather than asking me what to do about it. There was no compromise. We’ve tried talking about it, but it always turns into a heated discussion. I’m starting to wonder if this represents a large issue between us. Are there any compromises when it comes to this? How can I show him that the pill is more effective and reliable than condoms? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I don’t know where to even start, This guys I’ve been talking to for over a year and we dated for 5 months he broke up with me the day before valentines day and hasn’t tried to contact or talk to me about anything. I tried talking to him two times and he has fully ignored my message. this one girl I used to be friends with started talking to him and has been since the breakup and she’s going around telling people he’s done with me and has saying mean things. I want so bad to talk to him about everything and to be able to work everything out. I’m in love with the kid and he broke up with me because he didn’t wanna fight and because he needed to focus on wrestling. His brother is really good friends with my sister and he will ask questions about if I’m seeing anyone or talking to anyone and it has to be because my ex is asking. He’s also asked my 2 good friends about me too and his best friend. Is there hope? and if there is how much time should I wait until I really have to just move on. please help me! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
My boyfriend (45, white, cop) and I (together 5+ years) live together (1+ year) and I’m discovering that he is resistant to my suggestions when it comes to training our dogs.
I hired a trainer when they were younger and go for refresher training every now and then (he doesn’t participate) and it’s really helpful. Our dogs are strong and since I do most of their care and walks alone, I need all the help I can get.
When we walk the dogs together, I’ll make suggestions on how he can better control one of them and he gets tense with me. I’ve started asking “would you like to see what the trainer taught me that works?” so that he has a choice and doesn’t feel like I’m telling him what to do, but he resents that too.
I’ve explained that it’s really helpful for us to walk the dogs in the same manner (using the same training), because I’m not strong enough to control them on my own the way he can and he seemed to understand, but still seems to resent me speaking up and critiques my methods all the time. When explain my methods, he does the “hey don’t jump all over me,” but I don’t think I’m jumping.
What is this all about? (more…)
