by The Last Honest Guy
Hi, I really need help on my marriage; a week ago my husband told me that he wasn’t sexually attractive to me and the next week, he said he didn’t love me any more. I asked why, and he said that he was tired of all the put downs and all. I told him that I was sorry if I put him down so many times, but we have been having trouble with my mom and my self stressing and I do take it out on him when I’m mad, I know that being mad make you say or do things you don’t want.
We’ve been together 2 year and 8 months, and 3 nights ago, I had something planned for both of us, maybe something it could of help our marriage. But while on the way, a co-worker from us called and said that another co-worker wanted to hang out with us, but not me included.
I was hoping that my husband would say “no if she isn’t going then I wont either, besides we have something special to do tonight.” instead he said “are you going to give me money for gas, if you are then I’ll be there.” I got mad, and I just ignore it and said ok…fine. Later on I started to tell him why he was going to hang out with them and not with me. He just told me straight forward that he didn’t love me any more, and he doesn’t even care about me. That broke my heart, so much. We’ve been through allot when we started dating, we did what ever we could so we can keep seeing each other because my mother didn’t allow me to see him.
Now after all that effort, I can’t believe he is saying this. I told him I’ll give him time to him self, a week, a month, but to try to think about our marriage. But he said, “You already know my answer, so just give up.”
please, what should I do? He doesn’t want to try to give me a chance or anything and I really love him. Please let me know what I should do. Thanks. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
We got married 3 1/2 years ago and 3 years ago thanks to the exceptional dentists at Tustin Smiles I got braces and my husband hasn’t kissed me since I got braces… (Before I met him I knew he was a clean freak but I didn’t think it was this bad…)… So, as a result I suffer from very low self esteem… He also never wants to be with me sexually unless I ask him and I don’t ask him anymore because I used to get rejected and I felt embarrassed. When it does happen I feel shy around him, I’m not sure why I think it’s because I’m not used to having sex… I am hurt and I am afraid I’m going to have to live like this 4 the rest of my life… I feel like I have fallen out of love with him because of this… I feel like I want to get divorced but I’m scared. I married my first boyfriend. Advice please…. thx
P.S.
My husband says that he doesn’t want to kiss me because he says I can’t brush my teeth thoroughly with braces on. He is grossed out by them and he says if he kisses me he will mess up his teeth. He does have perfect teeth… (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
What to give to a guy? This is a question that a lot of women never take the time to actually think of. The ones that do are the ones that have great relationships. In reality is not that hard to know what your man might like. Most of us guys are very simple and by just paying a little attention to what we like you should be able to easily figure this out.
The first thing you should keep in mind is that guys and girls don’t have the same taste or interests. I get tired of seeing girls buy their man flowers or stuffed animals. Guess what? We don’t like any of those things. This is a result of some women being too lazy to think and realize what their man likes. You have to understand that most men are practical and do not like to waste money or resources. We generally like things that we can use or things that we need. When women mistakenly gives us stuffed animals thinking we like them, in our mind we think they’re a waste of money and we can’t think of a place to put that useless present. You have to remember that these things take up space in our homes that don’t necessarily look too masculine and at the same time serve no purpose. The same applies to flowers. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
So last night at the MTV Movie Awards Sandra Bullock kissed Scarlet Johansson and now everyone is talking about it (including us). It seem like the whole thing was just to get publicity but some are saying that Sandra Bullock was trying to send Jesse James a message to say “look at what you’re missing”.
Well, I’m not here to talk about how crazy and shocking this was (cause it wasn’t, it’s been done many times before) or if she was trying to get back at Jesse James. What I’m here to say is that if in fact she was aiming this towards Jesse James then it was useless and it probably meant nothing to him. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
“Very controlling, obsessive, delusional and insecure due to lack of education.”
Let me start by saying that you may have a controlling, obsessive, delusional and insecure spouse but it doesn’t necessarily means it’s because of lack of education. How did you come up with that? I’ve known a lot of people with a high school or lower levels of education and they’re not all controlling, obsessive, delusional and insecure like you say. I think you have just come up with your own conclusion based on what you feel is a good reason for their behavior. In my opinion this is the wrong thing to do because it blocks the possibility of finding out the real reason that’s causing this behavior. I also noticed that you’ve labeled your spouse as “mentally ill” which is completely out of line because someone that’s controlling doesn’t necessarily mean they’re mentally ill, that’s a strong term to use. Now, creating all these negative labels about your spouse might be creating more problems in your relationship than you think specially if you actually use them towards them when you have arguments, and something tells me that you do. (more…)
