by The Last Honest Guy
Hi I am having a problem with my fiancé. We are both in our late 20’s and he doesn’t have a job yet, so as a result, he has stolen from me. The first time he stole money I had laid out on my dresser (we don’t live together yet) that I was going to use for gas to get to work that day. The most recent time, he stole my debit card and used it, then put it back without telling me, thinking I wouldn’t notice. He has also stolen items besides money from me too, like computer equipment, a digital camera and other items. I honestly don’t know what to do. I love him to death and I help him out as much as possible, but he keeps taking. I am not even sure if it is a crime since we’re engaged. And I have asked questions of what would happen if I got the police involved, they did a afp police check on him but it was clean so there was nothing much to go with. I just don’t know what else I can do? He doesn’t even apologize, he just takes things, and I don’t even know it’s missing until afterwards. Sometimes the money he takes, I really need for things. I am just really confused…I help him out with money and anything I can (most recently a LOT of money to get his car engine fixed). But it doesn’t help, he keeps taking. Any advice? I don’t know if counseling or therapy would help or what.. I just know something has to be done. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
This guy I’ve been seeing for the past few months; divorced 2 years ago after 7 years of marriage, dated a girl 10 years younger for 10 months after his divorce was final and broke up with her to be single for once in his life. 6 months later he meets me and gets pretty serious early on and has become Mr Confused.
he doesn’t want to give me up but feels like he wants to be single bc 1 marriage counselor told him he should be single for 1 year before getting into another relationship. I’m guessing to not fall into the arms of someone like his ex wife. I am nothing like her at all but he seems to have been experiencing post traumatic stress recently. He keeps on telling me he doesn’t want to feel guilty when he wants to travel and doesn’t want to worry about a girlfriend at home bc it makes him feel bad. His ex wife didn’t let him do much without him and did make him feel bad when he did things with friends and not her. I could care less what he does as long as he doesn’t cheat and he knows this. I’m an extremely independent person and I do things with my friend alone all the time.
Well a few evenings ago he tells me his gut is telling him he should be single. That he fights wanting to be with me and being single. I told him I was crushed but if that’s how he feels, that’s how he feels.
The next day he calls me in the morning and leaves me a message that he couldn’t sleep well last night; he was all stressed out. The guys at his fire station told him he was talking about me in his sleep and sleep walking and talking. I then spoke to him later that day and he ask me how I’m doing, I tell him I’m crushed and he proceeds to tell me, “I care about you so much, I mean I don’t think you realize how much you mean to me.” “Please let me come over after my shift on Wed morning to see you.” I don’t know what the point of this meeting is but I said I would see him. I’m really hurt but understand that he needs time. I’m not sure what to do bc I don’t want to date him and him date other people too.
Would you want to back off entirely or date but not as seriously and accept him dating others too? Any other advice is appreciated (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
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Some are calling this application the “cheaters app”. While this application does have the capability to facilitate cheaters, in reality there’s nothing to be worried about. Let me explain, say your boyfriend or girlfriend has this app installed on their iPhone, then it’s pretty obvious that they’re trying to hide something from someone (probably you). Most likely when questioned, the typical response might be something like, I use it so that my_____ (mom, sister, co-workers, friend, etc.) don’t see what I text. But in reality, don’t get fooled, chances are the only person they’re really trying to hide this from is you. If this is your special someone, then who else can possibly spend more time with this person to that level? The answer is nobody but you. So let’s take off the blindfold and just assume that the only reason to have and use the TigerText App is to hide text messages from you. Now let’s clarify that if this person is single and is just dating you or is just a friend-with-benefits or as we like to call it, “this chick I’m nailing” then they have the right to do whatever they want, no questions asked and you should really stay out of it and stop fighting over this because you have absolutely no right to say anything about the matter. Get the best quality and rates at https://app.sinpin.com/international-calling/.
Now, the real question is, what should you do next after you catch you significant other using the TigerText App? As I’ve stated before, there’s nothing to worry about because it is very simple, you should ask yourself, have I had enough of this? The question shouldn’t be if he’s doing something behind your back or not. The question should be what to do next and if you’ve had enough? As a guy I can say that we are pretty easy to please and the minute we decide to go that route and do things we shouldn’t be doing is because something is missing at home and our needs are not being met. So, your options are clear, either try to find what’s missing and what you can do to fix it or simply call it quits and move on. The last thing you want to do is nag and bitch about it every opportunity you can, because this will only cause more conflicts and if in fact he’s confused about the whole relationship, this could push him away even further. As a guy, nothing can be worse than to fight over the same issue time after time without ever coming up with a resolution to it. Never try to force anyone into a relationship because at the end it’s just harder when things are done and over. There has to be equal effort from both parties into a relationship and if you constantly find yourself being the one trying to make things work, you should take that as a sign that it’s time to move on and find someone who is willing to put the same effort you’re putting into it. Always remember to be realistic and know that sometimes, no matter how much you dislike the idea, things come to and end an there’s nothing you can do about it.
