by The Last Honest Guy
I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and 3 months. Lately…I have been suspicious that maybe he wants to cheat. One day he left his Facebook on my laptop and I thought it was mine so I checked my messages whose were really his. I found him asking an old neighborhood friend of his to grab a coffee one day and catch up. He would get so mad at me if I was thinking about doing that.
I know I shouldn’t be doing this but I went through his phone. I have read many girls from his work calling him “babe” and he replied to one calling her “sweetie”. I also caught this message by someone awhile ago and Im not sure if he read it yet cause he never replied it said: “Hey babes, I assume you’re sleeping but I really need to talk for a sec so text me when you wake up its kind of a funny story xox”
That was def within the time of our dating. I am just really worried because he broke up with his crazy girlfriend who was over weight, for me. I notice myself gaining weight since we started dating and therefore i am getting more self conscience everyday. He is a gorgeous 19 year old young man. He’s a charmer, he’s friendly and I don’t know how to confront him because i don’t want him thinking I am jealous or I don’t want him to ignore his faults…..I just need help?! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I have been dating a guy for the past 6 years. We started dating in high school, and then went away to separate colleges. Even though it hasn’t been very serious for the past 5 years, we’ve stayed really close and haven’t dated other people. He is my best friend. We thought that after graduating college we could figure things out, but I was offered a great job in Atlanta, and he was offered a great job in Minnesota.
So, here we are, still in a long distance relationship 5 years later. For some reason, since graduation, this has been even more difficult. We’re both very practical people, and we realize that at 23, we’re just too young to start making sacrifices for each other. Neither of us is situated in a place we want to be long-term, and we’re both probably going to get promoted and/or have to move within this year, 2012. With the past year getting tougher and tougher on us because of the distance, we’re growing apart. Its not anyone’s fault, it’s just difficult to really be a part of each other’s lives when we see each other only once every 1-2 months.
The problem right now for me isn’t exactly the distance. For me it has been hard to get over his lack of commitment to a plan. I am 100% ok with where we are now as young adults, as long as we have a long term plan that doesn’t involve distance. We need to have an end-point. I proposed that sometime during the year 2013 (we will both be 24 at that point) that I move to wherever he is (after I find a job). I don’t want to move in with him or anything, I just want to be able to have a normal relationship with him. For me, its frustrating to be dating someone for 6 years, and not be further along in our relationship. For him, the problem IS the distance and on top of the distance, he is really not in the mindset to be in a committed serious relationship right now.
He told me that he loves me, and he’s only in this relationship right now because he sees us being together in the future, but mentally right now he feels he shouldn’t be in a serious relationship because he can’t give it the time commitment and consideration it deserves. But, he knows that if we break up, we probably won’t get back together, and he doesn’t want to lose me. He just feels like he’s not mature enough to be settling down, and there are a lot of things he wants to do as a young adult that he knows he won’t be able to do if he has to make sacrifices right now. I actually get it. I’m not upset with him for how he feels. I respect the fact that he is being honest with me.
The problem is, neither of us wants to break up. I’m not sure if I should:
A: wait it out, hope its not years before he feels ready for the commitment; or
B: break up with him and try to move on.
He is a really good person, and he honestly is a great boyfriend right now. He works extremely long weeks but he still calls and texts me every day when he has free time. I’m scared to let things go on like this knowing how he feels right now, but I’m also scared to let him go. I don’t want to settle down right now either, I just want more security in our relationship, and I know he can’t give that to me right now. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
So, my partner (30) and I recently got engaged after being together just over a year. Over the last few months he has been messaging his ex quite a bit. If I walk near him while he’s messaging her he shuts off his phone quickly. I took him overseas recently and he spent a full night texting her while we were over there, just prior to leaving he was laying in bed with me – messaging her. I also know that he hasn’t told her about our engagement. In a few months he will be on course for work for about 5 months – in the same location as her, and she has invited him over for drinks and to stay the night – which I read over his shoulder while in bed and he said he couldn’t wait. I hate being the jealous girlfriend type but at the same time, I don’t trust her because I don’t know her. I also fear that something will happen because they had quite the adventurous sex life (as the photos on his computer tell me) while ours is much quieter. Do I have a right to be angry and say something or should I just be smothering any of these thoughts and pretend not to care?
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by The Last Honest Guy
Have you ever heard of Tom Leykis?
Don’t feel bad if you haven’t, he’s been gone for the last 3 years. But don’t worry you now have the chance again to get to know him and find out what he’s all about.
Tom Leykis is a radio host who has been described as a “shock jock” due to the fact that he’s brutally honest and it’s not afraid to say what’s on his mind. He’s been on the air for over 20 years and has had a syndicated show for a long time before being taken off the air due to the station’s format change. I’m not going to go on and on about who he is, you can google his name and find out if you want to.
Why am I writing about Tom Leykis you ask?
Very simple, most of the loyal fans of The Last Honest Guy come here to get a true perspective on the way guys really think. Well, if you truly enjoy real honesty and like to know how most guys think, here’s another example and good way to get proof of what you read on this blog.
For those of you who often get offended by the things you read on here and just can’t believe most guys think the way I put it on most of my posts you can now listen to Tom’s new online show and hear it for yourself. Tom can be heard live weekdays at 3pm Pacific in a number of ways; either through his website www.newnormalnetwork.com or www.blowmeuptom.com and also on any smart phone with the tunein app by searching Tom Leykis.
Keep in mind that when you listen to the show you are mostly hearing an opinion. Yes I said an OPINION! What that means is that there’s always exceptions to every rule and you certainly don’t have to agree with everything Tom says or any of the callers for that matter. Yes, expect to be pissed off and disagree as you often do about the things I write on here but none the less it’s still a portal to the true thoughts of men and a good resource for anyone who can’t seem to understand guys.
Just remember that it’s OK to disagree with his opinion, I certainly do on some subjects. For the most part, I think that everything he says makes a lot of sense and he certainly has a lot of facts to support it.
by The Last Honest Guy
I recently reconnected with a male friend from college 20 yrs ago via linkedin. While never dated, we had a strong attraction to each other over those 4 yrs which did occasionally get physical. In his email back to me a month ago he told me to let him know if I was ever in phila. We could get together I wad there on business the past two days so i let him know 3 days in advance. He responded and asked me what time would be good I never heard from him the rest of the day I got an email from him at 11 pm saying he was sorry but the day got away from him. He asked if I would be around the next day so we could catch up I responded again with times and again never heard back. So my question is what message is he sending me? Why offer twice and not reply back to me? He could have apologized and left. It at that. Should I say anything to him or will that make it worse? We are both married with kids. (more…)
