Q:

Hi there! I met this guy 6months ago while I’m applying for a job. It was really unexpected that he and I will become friends and eventually even close to being in a relationship. My question is, how do I know for sure that he feels the same way? He is 37 and I find him attractive and confident. It was 11:45 pm the night before my birthday when he first greeted me. However the next day, on the night of my birthday we were able to see each other, I was standing in front of him when he pulled me closer and said Happy Birthday then kissed my forehead. He also checks up on me from time to time via social media for us to talk. We talk very politely and I can feel it just flows freely. Do you think he has feelings for me? Would appreciate your response. 🙂

A:

To answer your first question, the way you would know if he feels the same way about you as you do about him is by simply asking him. The way you approach the question is where you need to be smart not to put him in an awkward situation. Instead of asking, “do you like me?”, it’s probably better if you start a conversation about his thoughts on relationships and find out if he’s interested in anyone at the moment. Make him tell you his views on relationships and short-term goals at the moment. By doing this, you’re able to find out if you guys are on the same page or not.

Does he have feelings for you? If he’s the one initiating conversations via social media with you, chances are that he is attracted to you in one way or another. This doesn’t mean he’s in love with you by any means. It just means he has an interest. You see, most guys don’t just approach one woman at a time. Depending on how interested he is in you, you might be a number 2 or 3 on his list of potentials.