It’s important to choose people while doing activities you enjoy because that guarantees that you both will have something in common right from the beginning. To go a step further, let me specify that a better idea is to meet people that are doing activities that show traits you might be looking for in a mate and start thinking more long-term rather than short-term. (more…)
Well this guys (is 25 acts like an 18yr old and I’m 20) is well known in my area (he is a club promoter) so therefore he claims he doesn’t want a GF, me and him met and we were mad cool but he was always “oh I know u got other guys besides me” (he probably seen me on facebook flirting) but I stopped talking to the other guys because I liked him.. he got mad girls after him and I never even pressed him about any girl because we didn’t go out and I know he didn’t like it so I didn’t sweat him but him on the other hand would do that to me, he would see me with a guy, or flirting and stuff and he’ll stop texting and calling for 2 weeks and then bring it up in a sarcastic way acting like he didn’t care (well if u don’t care why you pressing me?) He’ll hang up every time I told him something straight up, because he’s used to girls giving him the sweet talk and NOT me because I’m going to tell him whatever I feel like so we was on and off, hooked up like 3-4 time no sex though, then it started falling off no more calls barely text each other and stuff but when we seen each other at a club we would say hi and keep it moving because he think he’s too cool for the crowd so I had to act brand new too, so my thing is that I don’t know what the hell he wants because the other day we were talking on the phone and out of nowhere he was like oh “a lil bird told me you got a new boo” (somehow he always finds out) but why he worry about who I talk to or not? If he ain’t there someone else will right? And I don’t question him about his joints though…is like he comes and go and I’m always here even though he says I treat him like I don’t like him (I have to because think he the shit) I’m here at any given time waiting on his ass…what can I do? (more…)
Why is it that there’s a ton of women out there that choose to dress a bit too revealing on a regular basis? A lot of the times these women dress this way in places where it may not be the most appropriate one, such as a school or even just to go to the groceries. Now, let’s get one thing clear, I am not complaining about this at all, as a matter of fact, I’m glad there are women that do this. We need some eye candy every now and then. But I am surprised about the number of women that get upset or think is rude for a guy to bluntly stare at them. (more…)
Verbal abuse, screaming, name-calling, degrading comments — that is when ending the call is not disrespect. It’s self-protection.
But even then, a mature way to do it is:
“I’m not okay with how this conversation is going. I’m hanging up now. We’ll talk later.”
Not slamming the phone down.
Why Hanging Up Makes the Problem Worse
Arguments have one purpose:
Solve the problem.
Hanging up does the opposite.
After someone hangs up:
both people cool off but nothing gets resolved
resentment builds
the original issue grows
communication becomes worse next time
trust gets weaker
respect drops
Problems don’t go away when you hang up. They pile up.
If You Want Him to Stop Hanging Up on You
You have to set a boundary.
A calm, firm one.
Try this:
“When you hang up on me, it makes me feel disrespected and dismissed. I want us to solve problems together, not avoid them. If you hang up again, I won’t continue the conversation later. We need to communicate like adults or take a break before we talk.”
If he respects you, he will adjust.
If he doesn’t, you know exactly where you stand.
If YOU Want to Stop Hanging Up on Him
You need a replacement behavior.
Next time you feel the urge:
Say this:
“I care about this conversation and I want to solve it, but I’m too upset to talk right now. Let’s take ten minutes and come back.”
Then actually come back.
That’s emotional maturity.
How to Break the Hanging-Up Cycle Permanently
Talk about it when you’re both calm
Agree together that hanging up is not acceptable
Create a “pause phrase” you both respect (“Give me five minutes,” “Let’s take a break,” etc.)
Use time-outs instead of hang-ups
Reward maturity (acknowledge when partner handles conflict well)
This turns fights into progress instead of chaos.
The Bottom Line
Hanging up is disrespectful. It’s immature. It solves nothing. And it slowly kills the relationship.
If you do it, stop. If he does it, address it. If both of you do it, fix it now before the distance grows.
Healthy communication is the easiest way to turn a relationship around — and the fastest way to ruin one is hitting that red button.
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Why guys are willing to bang (have sex) anything that moves
As I was writing a previous post one day, I started thinking about a subject I don’t really hear much talk about. Did you know that all guys have a set of categories when it comes to the women they date or are willing to sleep with? This is the reason why sometimes you see guys that sleep with some ugly ass women and you can’t figure out why.
These categories are in our subconscious and don’t necessarily have official names to each one. At the same time each guy will have their own set of unique categories when it comes to women their willing to bone. Next, I’ll give you a run down of some of them. (more…)
Hi I’m 20 years old and at the school I go to there is a bar that everyone goes to on Saturday night. I am there almost every Saturday along with the whole school. I end up hooking up with the same guy every time for the whole night acting like we are basically dating. When the school week comes along he barely says hi to me if that, but then we are hooking up that Saturday. How do I handle this? I don’t know what to do. Thank you. (more…)
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