by The Last Honest Guy
My husband and I have been married for over two years, and have been together for almost 7 years. I have always trusted my husband and we have been able to be honest about everything. Or so I had thought. Recently, I was loading digital pictures to the computer. When I was looking for the file to save them to, I came across a photo file labeled “stuff”. I clicked it and found several pornographic pictures. Now, this is not what I have the concern about. My husband has been honest about the fact that he looks at pornography. He even keeps his collection of Playboys on a bookshelf in our office. But, within this file was a file of non-pornographic pictures of women he knows. Some are co-workers of his, some are friends and there are even some pictures of his last serious ex girlfriend. Now, these are not old pictures. Some were saved as recently as last month ( I know this because they include pictures of a pregnant friend who just recently had her baby.) These are pictures that he has saved from their Facebook pages. I understand that some people often fantasize about people they know, but should I be concerned that he has a file of these photos? He has always told me that he was once cheated on by a girlfriend, so he would never cheat, but am I wrong to feel that this is a violation of trust, too? And how do I tell him that I know about this file. I have never felt the need to snoop through his stuff, but now I don’t know what to trust. I would love to hear your opinion of the situation. Thank you! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I have been single for about 3 1/2 years now. My last relationship ended very badly and I got really hurt. So I now run at the first sign that I actually start liking a guy. I pick at anything I can to find a reason that I shouldn’t date him. I’m trying to catch myself and not run but that is a very difficult thing to do. So now I am dating someone new who is also 30. He is a very sweet and caring guy who treats me like a queen. He seems like a very genuine guy however, I recently found out that he has a few felony convictions on his record and is actually facing more charges. All of the charges are over a year old and have to do with possession of marijuana with intent to sell. He doesn’t know that I know yet. I work in the legal field and take my career very seriously. Also I am not involved in any way with drugs or any other illegal activity. I know this may be a really dumb question but would you consider that a valid reason to stop dating him or should I give him chance to explain? I just don’t want to stupidly run from relationships anymore. Please help! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
So, my neighbor and I have this thing going on. I wouldn’t call it a relationship, but we see each other often. He’s 19 and in college and I’m a high school senior. I’ve known him since I was a freshman, but we’ve never really hung out until now. Basically, the night of my 17th birthday he asked me if I wanted to come over an chill to celebrate. I decided why not!? since I was officially older and wanted to do something out of the norm for myself. So, I went over and we ended up having a really nice time. He texted me again the next weekend to see if I wanted to come over again, and I agreed. This time we ended up drinking a bit, which ended up leading to intimacy. We made out and he did me a few favors, but I didn’t do anything for him. Since then we’ve hung out a bit and the intimacy hasn’t gone past oral on my part. When we hangout it’s usually not sexual anymore, in fact, the past few times we’ve done anything together I haven’t gotten more than a peck on the lips (which I appreciate because even though it’s nice to be intimate with him that’s not all I want). The more we hangout the more I learn about him, and I’ve really begun to enjoy the time we spend together. Awhile ago we went to a party together and he ended up being getting pretty drunk, during that time he told me that he’d been thinking about us dating and said that he wanted to take me out for dinner radda radda adda..Anyways I just told him that I’d think about it since he was drunk and I figured he’d forget that’d he said anything to me the next day. That was also around the time we’d just started hanging out, so I didn’t know him as well then. But, basically he hasn’t brought it up since however we still hangout literally every weekend. We’ve yet to go on a real date though, so my question to you is does he like me? Or even see a potential for a relationship?
Because the more I get to know him the more the crush I have grows a little bit. I wouldn’t say I’m completely attached or anything but I do care for him and I don’t wanna waste my time if he only sees me as a booty call.. which really is inaccurate because we’ve never had sex but still… (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Okay so me and this guy from work kind of had a thing for a couple of weeks, but all of a sudden it stopped. I decided to ask him what was going on, he told me that he has a hard time trusting people, I decided that me and him should be just friends even though I still feel an attraction to him.
So, after that discussion, we worked together, but there was this other guy there that I hadn’t had a shift with yet. Me and him started talking, connecting, and from the corner of my eye I see the other guy just staring but he was laughing and smiling. He then would come and interrupt us and be like “Oh here’s a picture I drew of you”, or be like “Oh I see that you two are connecting”, then afterward when it was just me and him alone for a second, he goes “You know that guy, he’s a really nice guy, he’s not an ass like me” Is he jealous or just being a guy friend?
Then the next week, he would go up to other girls right in front of me and say things like “oh doesn’t she have nice hair| touching other girls hair. I know he was doing it to upset me, and that’s what frustrates me, why would he want to upset me?
What should I do?
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by The Last Honest Guy
I met this guy at my son’s sporting event. Both of our sons swim. He is a single parent like me. About 4 or so years ago his ex wife divorced him for another man. He has a live in girlfriend that he talks a lot a bout and seems genuinely fond of. I think they have been involved for about 2 years. Well my question is why does this guy seem to flirt with me, yet go on to brag about his gf? This guy makes deep eye contact with me and seems to light up when I walk into the room. He asks where I was if I skip an event. He always seeks out conversation w me and is so nice. He does not come across as a player and seems more cautious than anything. I think he may like me, but then he starts talking about her. What is going on? Does he like me or not? Why does he always bring her up in our conversations?
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by The Last Honest Guy
Hi.
I I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I’m 21 and he’s 23. We have a long distance relationship. 4 hours actually. The whole time we have been together there has been many girls making up things like that he cheats on me etc.. But ive found out that the girls have actually just wanted him but recently he’s been lieing to me alot and also not treating me very well. Wondering if you think he is cheating on me. And if you have any advice on how I could trust him alot more.
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