My ex boyfriend broke up with me 9 months ago because he can’t accept that I have kids from a previous marriage (he’s 26, I’m 31) He says he doesn’t believe he loves me, but I feel like he does. We had a great relationship, great chemistry, are best friends, and are compatible in many areas. For 9 months we still continue to talk and see each other, and neither of us have wanted to fully stop. He seems confused, as he is trying to move on, but doesn’t want to let go of me. Am I fooling myself that maybe he will realize his true feelings?
Look, how stupid are you? If a guy breaks up with you and says he doesn’t believe he loves you is because HE DOESN’T BELIEVE HE LOVES YOU!!!!
There’s no two ways about it. Why is it so hard to understand? Most women are confused when their man doesn’t express his true feelings, but this guy is telling you exactly how he feels, god dammit!
The problem here is that you have kids from another guy and there’s nothing you can do about that, so move on, and find someone who accepts you with all your extra baggage. Perhaps a guy who also has kid would be a good choice. Whatever you do, please don’t put your kids second because of this guy. It’s not worth it.
That was mostly good advice. However, I think there could have been a better way to describe the kids. Children aren’t ‘extra baggage’. She’s a mom, she loves her kids, her kids love her. The right man for her will appreciate the opportunity to come into this family unit and be influential on the childrens’ lives and will relish being a part of that love.
KICK HIM TO THE CURB!!! This guy sounds like excess baggage to me. He will become more uncooperative as time goes by, trust me on this, you don’t want to become the next woman who kills her kids to have a looser in your life. GOOD LUCK!!
I’m a single mom of two and my boyfriend who’s 4 years younger than me excepts that. The past three guys I’ve dated and whom are younger, did not have an issue with me having had childrens from my previous marriage. Go find yourself another man lady!