Im a married woman who is having a “secret” friendship with my hubbys buddy/workmate. We get along so well, text each other on a daily basis. I started to have feelings for him. Don’t get me wrong I love my husband, and would never cheat on him. My guy friend has never come on to me and Im almost positive hes NOT into me. I don’t think I can continue this friendship because we sadly have to hide it and Im crushing on him. How do I save face and end our friendship without letting him know Im into him? How do I get over this crush on him? Should I confess to my hubby that we’ve had this secret friendship? He probably would never believe it has always been strictly platonic 🙁
Answer
First things first, if you truly want to end this “friendship” you should just end it. But how you ask, simple, just tell him that you’ve been thinking about this for a while and feel that is wrong to have this secret friendship and want to stop. Tell him that you love you’re husband too much to do this to him. Also tell him that you wouldn’t want your husband to do this to you and so you want to stop doing it to him.
If you want to get over this crush is very simple, stop having any kind of contact with him and find another hobby to substitute the time you were spending talking to him. Be strict and just do it.
Should you tell your husband? No
If nothing really happened between the two of you, then there’s no need to raise any suspicions about something that never took place. Also, think about how awkward is going to be for your husband at work when he has to work and interact with this guy at work.
Just know that you must end this asap in order to get over this guy.
One thing to keep in mind is the main cause of this whole situation. You obviously lack attention from your husband and that’s why you found it elsewhere. Find a way to fix that. You may need to text him or call him more often instead of calling the other guy. Maybe you should find yourself a girlfriend and talk to her instead. Why do you need to have a guy friend?
