by The Last Honest Guy
Hi, thanks for taking my question!
OK, my husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now, and we are very happy. We love to do fun things together, and to just chill out at home. He works outside of the home, while I work from home, so our time together is precious.
Here’s the issue:
Last year, we had to move across our state because my husband got a new job. Because we hadn’t sold our house in our old town yet, we had to stay with his parents for 9 months (which we were very grateful for). That being said–it drove us nearly insane. Thankfully, we got our own place in August, and are now feeling free and easy. His family, however, feels that we don’t spend enough time with them. Admittedly, we like to keep to ourselves, as we were counseled before we got married to “make our marriage THE priority.” We do visit every now and then, and we recently saw his parents at a wedding, but after 9 months of living with them (and basically with the rest of the family, who were constantly at their house, at least 4-5 times per week)…we need a little breathing space. When we were living at our old house, we didn’t see the family every week, so why should we be expected to see them every week now?
Also, they try and make us feel guilty about not spending enough time with our niece and nephews (4 kids in total). While we love the kids, and do want to spend time with them, we don’t have kids of our own, so children really aren’t our top focus right now, our marriage is, as well as our careers (which are just starting and require a ton of focus). We do try and spend time with them (we just invited them to a Christmas sleepover at our new place, which we still haven’t received a response from yet!), just not every day or week.
My main issue is the fact that the problem is not between my husband and me…he freely admits that his family is out of control and tries to avoid their drama as much as possible. We just want to get settled in our marriage, and build a happy home and life together. We don’t want to completely shut anyone out, but we do want some space and peace. Are we being “selfish” and inconsiderate (as his family has said) or are we just trying to make a decent life for ourselves while we can?
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by The Last Honest Guy
FIGHT TO SAVE RELATIONSHIP AFTER CHEATING?
A couple a weeks ago or so, I wrote a guest post on my friends website, midlifebachelor.com and I think is something worth reading for anyone who has ever been cheated on or even just in case it ever happens to you, hopefully it doesn’t but better safe than sorry. I talk about making a decision to stay with that person or not after an infidelity. I know, the typical answer is leave the cheater, but is that always the right decision? Find out when you should leave and when you should stay.
Read the full article HERE.
Also don’t forget to leave your comments and thoughts on the comment section and check out the biggest picture of me ever!
I would love to hear your opinion on the subject and the way you’ve dealt with a situation like this one in the past. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I often hear of cases where a couple is in love, everything’s great and they couldn’t be any happier so they get married. The funny thing is that after some time suddenly their magical relationship goes to the crapper. One of the most common complains by men is their current sex life in comparison to the one they had prior to getting married.
Some of these reasons are things like; “We don’t have as much sex as we used to” or “She doesn’t like to do the things we used to do in bed anymore”. Of course some of the things men are referring to are bj’s or oral sex for those of you who don’t know what that means. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Today I was thinking hard about all the relationships I’ve seen over the years that have slowly turned into a boring and monotonous one. So, I started separating and comparing those to relationships who after many years manage to stay alive and happy. You know what I noticed? Although there’s certainly many ways to do this, I realized there’s an easy way to get on the right path and keep your relationship alive. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
How long is too long to go without sex?
Sex is the most important part (top 3 for sure) of marriage or a romantic relationship. Sex is what defines a romantic relationship, without it all you really have is a good friendship. Are you with me?
So, how long is too long without sex? I guess there’s really no exact time frame. It really varies from couple to couple and that’s because our sexual needs are all different. This is why I believe sexual compatibility is important. Both parties have to be on the same page in order to be a good match and for things to work out.
Unfortunately, a number of couples are not necessarily compatible but still insist on being together and trying to make things work. Although this is not the ideal situation to be in, I believe there’s always a solution to a problem.
Going back to our original question, how long is too long? The way you knows it’s been too long is when either one of the two people in the relationship has a need for sex. Let me point out that although rare, at times even women are the ones that suffer from not getting their needs met by their partner.
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by The Last Honest Guy
One of the simplest ways to improve a relationship or make a good one become a great one is by simply cooking for your man.
I often hear American women complaining about their man wanting to have a clean house or a home cooked dinner when they come home. They say things like, “I’m not a maid” or “this isn’t the 1950’s” but the bottom line is this is one of the easiest ways to improve your current relationship, cooking. I’m amazed at the number of women who don’t know a damn thing about the kitchen. What’s wrong with them? This is one of the fundamental elements in a relationship. Later they wonder why more and more men want to marry women from other countries. (more…)
