by The Last Honest Guy
Why guys are willing to bang (have sex) anything that moves
As I was writing a previous post one day, I started thinking about a subject I don’t really hear much talk about. Did you know that all guys have a set of categories when it comes to the women they date or are willing to sleep with? This is the reason why sometimes you see guys that sleep with some ugly ass women and you can’t figure out why.
These categories are in our subconscious and don’t necessarily have official names to each one. At the same time each guy will have their own set of unique categories when it comes to women their willing to bone. Next, I’ll give you a run down of some of them. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
The term wife material is refer to the girl you would actually consider marrying, but I guess it’s pretty self explanatory. One thing to keep in mind is that just because a guy is willing to bang you it doesn’t mean he’s willing to marry you. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Why do you think finishing your career before committing to some one is so important? To put it in simple terms, just think about the people you used to hang out with in high school or Junior high school, do you still hang out with them? Has there been people that you used to really like back then but you no longer have anything in common now and don’t talk to anymore? Or maybe you used to hang out with a co-worker at your old job but now that you have a new job you don’t hang out with them anymore. The reason this happens is because you no longer have anything in common and as a result you slowly drifted apart. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I have decided to write a series of posts with an IN-DEPTH LOOK at the 7 easy and simple steps to finding the right person to marry. I feel there’s a lot of valuable information regarding each of the seven steps that you should all consider and know about. This series of steps will not necessarily be written consecutively but I will get to all 7 eventually in the next few weeks or so. Also realize that the original post serves only as an introduction to the 7 easy and simple steps to finding the right person to marry and it is recommended to read all seven In-depth look articles to follow in order to get further explanation and understanding of them.
As a side note: Let me remind you that the best way to stay updated on the upcoming posts and other news related to thelasthonestguy.com is to either subscribe to our RSS feed, or follow on Twitter or facebook. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Finding the right person to spend the rest of your life is one of the toughest challenges someone will ever face. There’s really no proven solution on how to successfully accomplish this but luckily I, The Last Honest Guy has come up with 7 easy and simple steps on how to find the right person to marry. Although, the final outcome really depends on how well these steps are followed and executed it will at least give you a good starting point and a clear direction on how to do this. By following these 7 simple steps you will increase your chances to be with the right person and at least put the odds to a successful marriage on your side. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Rejecting a guy feels awkward because most women are trying to do two things at once: be kind and not accidentally give him hope.
Here is the honest truth: the kindest rejection is clear. If you soften it too much, some men will hear possibility where you meant no.
Reader Question: What Is The Best Way To Say No Thanks?
My girlfriend and I are internet dating. I have done it before, so I have some experience in this landmine of liars.
How do you say, after texting or calling someone, that you decided you do not want to meet after all?
For example: “I am sorry, but I do not think we are a match, and I wish you the best in your search.” I do not want to say “good luck” because it might sound mean.
As a woman, I would rather get a no-thanks note than have someone disappear. Some guys get the text and freak out or get mean. I realize no one wants to be rejected, but we all will be at some point.
So what is the best “no thanks, I do not want to meet you after all” message?
The Honest Guy’s Answer
You are thinking about this the right way. Ghosting is easy, but a short, clear no is usually cleaner.
The mistake is trying so hard to be nice that you become unclear. A lot of men will look for any crack in the sentence and try to turn it into hope.
So be kind, but be direct. Do not write a paragraph. Do not overexplain. Do not give him a debate topic.
Quick Answer: Be Clear, Kind, And Final
Quick answer: tell him you are not interested in meeting or continuing, wish him well, and do not keep responding after that. The more you explain, the more some guys will treat it like a negotiation.
Text Examples You Can Use
If you have not met yet:
“I have thought about it, and I do not feel we are the right match. I am not interested in meeting, but I wish you well.”
If you went on one date:
“Thank you for meeting up. I do not feel the connection I am looking for, so I do not want to continue dating. I wish you the best.”
If he keeps pushing:
“I understand this is disappointing, but my answer is no. Please respect that.”
What Not To Say
- Do not say, “Maybe another time,” if you know you mean no.
- Do not say, “I am just busy,” unless timing is truly the issue.
- Do not say, “Let’s be friends,” if you do not want friendship.
- Do not overpraise him to soften the rejection.
- Do not keep replying because you feel guilty.
Why Clear Is Kinder Than Nice
Some women try to reject a guy so gently that the message stops sounding like rejection. From a guy’s perspective, that can create confusion.
If you say, “You are amazing, and I had such a great time, but I am just not ready right now,” some men will hear, “Try again later.”
If the answer is no, say no in a respectful way. You are not responsible for making him like the answer.
If He Gets Mean Or Keeps Pushing
If he gets rude, insulting, aggressive, or keeps contacting you after you clearly said no, stop trying to be polite. Block him. Report him on the dating app if needed.
You gave him clarity. You do not owe him unlimited access to argue with your decision.
The Honest Truth
Here is the honest truth: most men can handle a clear rejection better than a confusing one. They may not like it, but they understand it.
Be direct. Be respectful. Then be done. If he cannot accept that, the problem is not your wording. The problem is that he does not respect your no.
