Easy comes, Easy goes

by The Last Honest Guy

I’ve met this Asian guy at work, he’s 21 and we were in a situation living together for 2 weeks because of a work field trip. As I met him he was sort of ignoring his girlfriend, when she’d call he say he was busy and call her back, but never would. While on the work field trip we started hooking up in secret because it was against work rules. On the day before I had to catch a train back to the city I got badly bitten by a dog and had to get stitches, he tried to sneak into the hospital to see me at some ridiculous hour of the night after I woke up from the anesthesia, and was there the next morning in a chair next to my bed before I woke up.

So for about a week and a half we were hooking up, no sex or anything, after about a week we start messaging each other from our rooms at night, he told me about his girlfriend, just vague things like ‘she’s bad, I don’t like who she hangs around with’, ‘I cant trust her’ and ‘she’s a bit dirty’. He told me that every time they have sex he wears a condom despite the fact she has the birth control implant thing. (the one where you can feel it in chicks arms), he also said something along the lines of ‘well I haven’t really spoken to her in a while, I think she knows its pretty much over’.

As soon as he got back to the city (I left on the Friday, he left on the following Wednesday) he came straight to my house, picked me up, took me back to his and introduced me to his mother, the next day was his birthday, he dropped me home and came back to get me after work to go out for his birthday, after going to the bar with him and his friends I realized his girlfriend wasn’t there (well obviously since he brought me), which strikes me as a bit odd because it was his 21st, and that is kind of a big celebration for most people. He calls me gorgeous every time I pick up the phone, in every good morning and good night txt, and he always calls me at least once a day for a nice chat.

I’m really on guard about it but I can sort of notice myself slipping into some mind frame where I could see this working out, but I also feel like there’s some sort of game he’s playing. When I tell him I’m going to go to a friends / friends coming over to hang out, he always asks if its a guy or girl, telling me to behave while he’s not around, basically acting as if were exclusive. He’s told me he has trust issues and that he wants to trust me and make me his, but that sounds all a little too cliché to me.

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I like a guy at work

by The Last Honest Guy

Well, I need some help here because I am really confused…

I like a guy at work…I see him every day and from the different things he does or says (glances, smiles etc) I think that there is a chance he likes me too but you never know for sure…He is 35 and single. He is an average looking guy but with a strong personality and he is also very sociable and humorous. I noticed that even though he is really comfortable talking to and teasing other girls at work, he is not that comfortable when he talks about me or to me! Sometimes I wonder if he does this because he finds me boring…However, he has made it clear many times that he likes me as a person and even said once that I am the best in everything without specifying what ‘everything’ includes! Many times, I may turn to him unexpectedly and catch him looking at me. For example, he may make a joke that has nothing to do with me at all and I turn to look at him and laugh at the joke and I notice that he had already been looking at me!

The other day, I was out with a male friend of mine. We were just having drinks and having a great time like I would do with any female friend of mine. I do not think that someone would think we were a couple…The guy I like was also there but not too close to us. By the way, he knows that I do not have a boyfriend. I pretended that I did not see him but I could see from the corner of my eye that he was watching us. My male friend also told me that he was watching both of us. I was waiting to see if he would come to say hi, but since he did not come, after a while I decided to go talk to him. 90% of the times he talks to me he is smiling and in general he is a happy person especially when he is out. But that night, he looked really serious. When we said hi, he said he had seen me a while ago. I told him that I just saw him and asked him why he didn’t come talk to me, he said that he did not come because I was ‘busy’. I said ‘really? with what?’ and he replied ‘with a male…’! After a moment of silence, I did not know what to say, I lost my words and after some seconds I replied ‘yes, with my best friend’. He did not reply and I said ‘I have to go now, bye’ and left. How do you explain his behavior? Was he jealous or was it just an excuse for not coming to say hi?

The next day at work, I did not mention anything about what happened and he teased me about going for drinks really late that night… Over the following days, I tried to show him that what happened that night did not affect my behavior and actually I felt that we came closer. We talked more and teased each other more. But that was just for some days.

Lately, I feel that we grew even more apart. I started feeling awkward and really nervous around him and there are some times where he has the chance to talk to me but he does not. I do not know how to act any more and I do not know what to believe. Did he understand something about my feelings and decided to avoid me or does he feel the same and is confused?

Do you think he has feelings for me?

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The guy I’ve been seeing is in an open relationship

by The Last Honest Guy

So I’m in a pretty sticky situation. I’ve been seeing this guy who is in an open relationship with his gf. She lives a few states away for college. We just started as friends, and having sex. Things were going awesome. After a while of hanging out, and making out we fell in love. We both care about each other deeply. He loves his gf. I don’t know what to do. We click so well. I would go as far to say that he could very well be the one for me. Any advice?

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