Ok… so I’ve been talking to and really enjoying this great guy I met through friends, my only issue is that he’s considerably larger than me, I’m 5’4, 105 lbs, he’s 6’0, 300+ (I’m bad a judging guy weight but he’s pretty huge), I don’t really know how any of the physical stuff would work….. HELP!! (more…)
mere husband aksar late night party karte hai.jis se main behad pareshan rahti hu.ek baar jab kaafi nashe me the,kuch behad buri bate bad bada rahe the.unhe hosh nahi tha.kapde adhe khule the.maine pyar se unhe confidence me liya aur pucha,to bataya ki wo regularly prostitutes k paas jate hain.aur abhi wahi se a rahe hain.main shoked hu.i dont know,what t o do abt this.i cant bear with this.in the morning he had no idea what he did past night. (more…)
Hi Honest Guy,
This past year, I was in a nine month relationship with an older guy (he’s 26 now and white), and things were great in the beginning. This is our second time dating, by the way. We were just like any other happy couple, until my trust issues started to kick in. I don’t know why they’re so bad, but I do feel like I hurt his pride/feelings in the process. It got to the point where he wanted to take a “break.” I really didn’t like the idea, and begged him not to do it. We ended up going along with it anyway, because I was really wanting to make things work.
It was rocky the whole time, and I think the final straw-breaker was me checking his e-mail and seeing a message from a dating site. At first, I thought he was using it actively, but then I found out he never deleted it the first time around. He wanted to end things
completely at that point.
I don’t remember what was said or what we did to come to an agreement, but he said that we could be friends and try to build our way up to what we were. In the mean time, he wanted me to go to counseling to work on my problems. I felt like we should both go (we both have problems). He agreed.
I started to think about the whole situation, and I realized that going to couple’s counseling without being a couple is sort of a silly idea, so I told him so. He got upset and said, “If you want to just end things, just do it.”
That really upset me. I called/texted and called some more. Of course, he ignored me. That seriously hurt my feelings.
He told me he’d call me later. Instead of calming down, I ended up texting and calling him more that night.
No reply.
I sent him a text the next day asking if this was something we could work out, or should we go our separate ways.
No reply.
So I called three days later to tell him I had a solution to our problem, and if he wanted to hear it, he should call me. If not, I understood.
No reply again.
We hadn’t talked in two weeks. I made a mistake of texting him, and saying, “Thanks for the break up. Made me realize that I had some issues. I hope we can be friends in the future. Until then, I hope you’re doing well.”
Should I just accept that things are over, or does he just need a break from us? And should I not have sent that last text message? (more…)
Hmmm OK where to start! So I met this amazing guy back in February and we were great together but he wanted children and I already have children of 12 and 13 and don’t feel that I want to start again so mutually we decided that it was better to end things before it really hurt! Obviously it did hurt but we got through it and we moved on and
then just seemed to gravitate towards each other but we were both attached elsewhere and decided to cut all contact. Last month he got back in touch after breaking up with the girl he was seeing and I’m single too now anyway one thing led to another and we’re back to seeing each other although both looking elsewhere and agreeing to end things if and when we meet that other person although on my part I’m honest enough to admit I’m not looking that hard! He’s gorgeous and if he didn’t want children I’d grab him with both hands and am even now thinking perhaps I should compromise on children and take the plunge but I’m scared that revealing too much will scare him off and that perhaps I’m reading too much into it all? Also the sex is amazing, we’re so in tune and he makes me feel like no other man I’ve known and often tells me the same and this makes me worry that it’s blurring things?
So we talk everyday he makes me go to his house just to cuddle him and is very loving and affectionate and if I was to believe actions speak louder than words I’d be in there but accompanied by the fact that he tells me he’s looking elsewhere I wonder if I’m just fooling myself? At the weekend whilst very drunk he told me I’m perfect and fit with him in every way? He claims to remember nothing from that night though? do I bring it up?
I’m so confused 🙁 So what do you think, do I stay or, do I go? (more…)
My boyfriend and I are in college and have been dating a while now. Last January on New Years he told me he loved me for the first time. Then 3 days later, he broke up with me for no reason out of the blue. He then got back together with his ex girlfriend a month later. They were broken up within another month and after weeks of playing hard to get I gave in and we are now together again.
Over the past couple months things have been changing. When we used to have little arguments and I would get upset or cry he would completely drop the argument and apologize for making me upset. Now he just yells and tells me he doesn’t want to talk to me. He used to send me the sweetest text messages saying how much he loved me and how much I meant to him. Our texts now usually read “hey what are you doing, oh ok, haha, yeah, just boring stuff). A month ago we got in a huge fight because his ex girlfriend won’t stop texting him despite the fact that he has told her to leave him alone. I got really upset and mad, which made him mad and he ended up yelling at me and telling me to get out of his apartment and go home. The next day before I left to go on a girls vacation trip for the weekend I went to tell him bye. We were fine, sweet, smiley, and in love. As soon as I got out of town, things changed. He started ignoring me and told me that he was confused right now because we had been arguing so much. He said he didn’t know if he still wanted to date me or not and he needed time to think about it. He wouldn’t tell me he loved me, call, text, or anything the entire time I was on my trip. The second I got home, everything was fine and he didn’t even want to talk about it he just wanted to act like it never happened.
Last night it was his birthday and my first time meeting a lot of his friends from home. We were PERFECT. all lovey dovey and he kept telling me how in love he was with me. Later on in the night I ended up getting a little too drunk. I used the word “cunt” to describe one of my sorority sisters and yelled his name really loud at 3am because I could not find him. Then I got sick. He took care of me and was so helpful. This morning, he texts me and says “is it just me or does it feel like were not even dating” …We haven’t seen each other in a couple weeks because we have been home on Christmas break. We usually see each other every day. Of course I freaked out as he told me he was confused about us right now and needed time to think. He said that he saw a “redneck” side of me he’s never seen before and didn’t like. He said it was giving him second thoughts about dating me and was very unattractive. He also uninvited me to his birthday dinner with his family. Just like when I was on my girls trip, he’s once again saying he’s confused about us and needs time to clear his head.
How in the world am I supposed to handle this? This is the second time he’s been “confused” and I don’t think its fair that he changes his mind every other weekend. What should I do? What should I say to him? We haven’t broken up and he tells me all the time he could never break up with me because he’s so deeply in love with me, but why is he doing this? I’m so in the dark and I can’t stop crying. I’m not 100% sure we will break up and judging by last time I doubt we will but why does he keep doing this? Please help me I need real advice not what I want to hear. (more…)
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