by The Last Honest Guy
Okay so me and this guy from work kind of had a thing for a couple of weeks, but all of a sudden it stopped. I decided to ask him what was going on, he told me that he has a hard time trusting people, I decided that me and him should be just friends even though I still feel an attraction to him.
So, after that discussion, we worked together, but there was this other guy there that I hadn’t had a shift with yet. Me and him started talking, connecting, and from the corner of my eye I see the other guy just staring but he was laughing and smiling. He then would come and interrupt us and be like “Oh here’s a picture I drew of you”, or be like “Oh I see that you two are connecting”, then afterward when it was just me and him alone for a second, he goes “You know that guy, he’s a really nice guy, he’s not an ass like me” Is he jealous or just being a guy friend?
Then the next week, he would go up to other girls right in front of me and say things like “oh doesn’t she have nice hair| touching other girls hair. I know he was doing it to upset me, and that’s what frustrates me, why would he want to upset me?
What should I do?
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by The Last Honest Guy
I met this guy at my son’s sporting event. Both of our sons swim. He is a single parent like me. About 4 or so years ago his ex wife divorced him for another man. He has a live in girlfriend that he talks a lot a bout and seems genuinely fond of. I think they have been involved for about 2 years. Well my question is why does this guy seem to flirt with me, yet go on to brag about his gf? This guy makes deep eye contact with me and seems to light up when I walk into the room. He asks where I was if I skip an event. He always seeks out conversation w me and is so nice. He does not come across as a player and seems more cautious than anything. I think he may like me, but then he starts talking about her. What is going on? Does he like me or not? Why does he always bring her up in our conversations?
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by The Last Honest Guy
Hi.
I I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I’m 21 and he’s 23. We have a long distance relationship. 4 hours actually. The whole time we have been together there has been many girls making up things like that he cheats on me etc.. But ive found out that the girls have actually just wanted him but recently he’s been lieing to me alot and also not treating me very well. Wondering if you think he is cheating on me. And if you have any advice on how I could trust him alot more.
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by The Last Honest Guy
When talking to a girl, men are sometimes not sure whether the girl likes them and feels attracted, or perhaps, is just being nice and polite. In this post I will discuss the subconscious actions and hints women give men to show their attraction and interest. Paying attention to those hints can improve men’s communication and success with women.
People can achieve a rather good control of their verbal communication, i.e. they can choose what to say. However, as you’ve probably already read and heard, most of the human communication is not verbal, and is based on Tonality, Body Language, and other aspects of non-verbal communication. A person can tell any lie he wants, but when he’s connected to a lie machine – his pulse and sweat will almost always expose him.
In the same way, a girl can even tell you verbally that she is not interested and doesn’t like you, but her body language will tell you the opposite. Whenever a girl feels something towards you, she won’t be able to hide it.
In addition, a girl can even give you verbal hints that she likes you, but some men will not interpret it as signs of interest.
Women Rarely Show Direct Interest
Visible Signs of Interest
These are examples of visible and active signs of attraction women typically give to men:
- You began a conversation with a girl, let’s say in a bar, and the interaction develops. During the conversation, you can see the girl begins laughing. It’s kind of a childish laughter, and not related to any funny story or joke that you told her.
- You dance with a woman, look into her eyes, and she keeps eye contact for more than 3 seconds. In fact, eye contact is a sign of attraction.
- You are talking to a girl, suddenly her friend comes by and she went to talk with her. If she comes back to talk with you, it’s a strong sign of attraction.
- Her friends are calling her to come, and she responds with “just a moment”.
- A girl touches you without any reason, or even touches you “by mistake”.
- During your conversation, she asks you personal questions, such as “How old are you? Where do you live? What do you do?”, etc. Every attempt to know more about you is a sign of attraction.
- She smiles a lot.
- During the interaction with you, the girl begins Touching Herself – playing with her hair, fixing her clothes.
- The girl asks you questions that somehow involve your girlfriend (even if you didn’t manage any) or women in you life. She is actually trying to see if you are available or not.
In all the above examples, women are using indirect signs and body language to show their interest. Usually, women will use more than one sign. For example, a girl will smile to you while touching her hair.
It’s important to treat those signs seriously, because that is the way women communicate with men. Don’t just explain them as irrelevant by telling yourself “She is just interested where I work” or “She felt itchy in her ear”, because women will rarely give you direct signs.
Passive Signals
In some cases when you will talk to women, you might not see any sure signs of attraction, either because she doesn’t use them or, more commonly, you won’t recognize them properly. I remember having a conversation with a girl in a bar for about 2 hours, without seeing any signs. I just couldn’t understand if she liked me or not.
However, let me tell you a secret – A girl will not just sit with you in a bar for 2 hours if she is not attracted to you.
- The fact that she chooses to spend her time with you, means that she has at least some interest in you.
- Another example: You are talking to a girl in a nightclub, and suddenly her friend goes to the bathroom. Usually, when a girl goes to the bathroom, her friend goes with her. If she stays with you, it’s a strong sign of attraction.
- You can check the girl’s reaction to you. Try, for example, to take her to a different place. If you are in a bar, tell her that you want to move to the side of the bar. If she follows you, it’s a sign of attraction.
- She feels comfortable with you physically. For example, you touch her hands and she doesn’t move them away, or you move closer to her and she doesn’t move away.
Passive signs are even more indirect, but yet, it’s signs that a girl is attracted and interested in you.
Women Complain about “Not Being Understood”
The most common complaint that women have about their relationships with men, is the feeling of “Not Being Understood”. In fact, it’s the same on the male side – men complain that they “Can’t Understand Women”.
One of the reasons why men don’t understand women, is because women rarely use direct language in their relationships with men.
Listening and paying attention to woman’s indirect messages and communication, such as the hints and signs that we discussed in the post, will help you understand women, and will help you give women the feeling of being understood.
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Dino Dogan is a blogger, writer, motorcyclist, dog trainer, singer/songwriter and martial artist. He’s currently working on Human-Dog Problem Tree, a thesis in human-dog relationships.
http://twitter.com/dino_dogan by The Last Honest Guy
I am divorced and in a relationship with a non Jewish man. Our relationship has been warm and loving and he has many wonderful qualities and things in common. Yesterday, he asked me a question if I had “jewed him down” for a purse I purchased. After realizing that slipped out of his mouth, he felt terrible and apologized. This is a very offensive remark and very derogatory to Jewish people and I am having difficulty getting past this. I am mortified that he used this vocabulary and in front of my mother yet!! Please help with any advice, your thoughts are appreciated. (more…)
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