by The Last Honest Guy
I recently reconnected with a male friend from college 20 yrs ago via linkedin. While never dated, we had a strong attraction to each other over those 4 yrs which did occasionally get physical. In his email back to me a month ago he told me to let him know if I was ever in phila. We could get together I wad there on business the past two days so i let him know 3 days in advance. He responded and asked me what time would be good I never heard from him the rest of the day I got an email from him at 11 pm saying he was sorry but the day got away from him. He asked if I would be around the next day so we could catch up I responded again with times and again never heard back. So my question is what message is he sending me? Why offer twice and not reply back to me? He could have apologized and left. It at that. Should I say anything to him or will that make it worse? We are both married with kids. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Hello,
I’m at a loss, here. I’m trying not to be angry so I don’t push him away. The problem is, he looks at porn every time I’m away. I’m talking when I’m asleep, showering, walking the dog, getting dressed for work, cooking dinner, talking to the neighbor on the porch, running to the bank, at work, etc. He looks at hentai and, although not always, masturbates whenever he gets the chance. He’s done it while I nap on the sofa in the same room. Many times he does this only hours after turning down sex with me. He says he loves me and finds me attractive, but I feel like I must be revolting if he’d rather have his hand. We moved in together about 6 months ago and had sex up to 3 times a day until we got internet. Today is day 5 w/o sex. I came home from work and, even though I could barely keep my eyes open, made several attempts at intimacy. He shrugged off each try. We went to bed and I tried again. He pretended to be falling asleep, but got up as soon as I fell asleep and spent the next few hours looking at porn and, from the subtle evidence he failed to hide, I know he got off. I feel rejected and unattractive. I’ve tried asking him about fantasies, but how do I role play a gel girl? Help, please. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
My husband and I have been married for over two years, and have been together for almost 7 years. I have always trusted my husband and we have been able to be honest about everything. Or so I had thought. Recently, I was loading digital pictures to the computer. When I was looking for the file to save them to, I came across a photo file labeled “stuff”. I clicked it and found several pornographic pictures. Now, this is not what I have the concern about. My husband has been honest about the fact that he looks at pornography. He even keeps his collection of Playboys on a bookshelf in our office. But, within this file was a file of non-pornographic pictures of women he knows. Some are co-workers of his, some are friends and there are even some pictures of his last serious ex girlfriend. Now, these are not old pictures. Some were saved as recently as last month ( I know this because they include pictures of a pregnant friend who just recently had her baby.) These are pictures that he has saved from their Facebook pages. I understand that some people often fantasize about people they know, but should I be concerned that he has a file of these photos? He has always told me that he was once cheated on by a girlfriend, so he would never cheat, but am I wrong to feel that this is a violation of trust, too? And how do I tell him that I know about this file. I have never felt the need to snoop through his stuff, but now I don’t know what to trust. I would love to hear your opinion of the situation. Thank you! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I have been single for about 3 1/2 years now. My last relationship ended very badly and I got really hurt. So I now run at the first sign that I actually start liking a guy. I pick at anything I can to find a reason that I shouldn’t date him. I’m trying to catch myself and not run but that is a very difficult thing to do. So now I am dating someone new who is also 30. He is a very sweet and caring guy who treats me like a queen. He seems like a very genuine guy however, I recently found out that he has a few felony convictions on his record and is actually facing more charges. All of the charges are over a year old and have to do with possession of marijuana with intent to sell. He doesn’t know that I know yet. I work in the legal field and take my career very seriously. Also I am not involved in any way with drugs or any other illegal activity. I know this may be a really dumb question but would you consider that a valid reason to stop dating him or should I give him chance to explain? I just don’t want to stupidly run from relationships anymore. Please help! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
So, my neighbor and I have this thing going on. I wouldn’t call it a relationship, but we see each other often. He’s 19 and in college and I’m a high school senior. I’ve known him since I was a freshman, but we’ve never really hung out until now. Basically, the night of my 17th birthday he asked me if I wanted to come over an chill to celebrate. I decided why not!? since I was officially older and wanted to do something out of the norm for myself. So, I went over and we ended up having a really nice time. He texted me again the next weekend to see if I wanted to come over again, and I agreed. This time we ended up drinking a bit, which ended up leading to intimacy. We made out and he did me a few favors, but I didn’t do anything for him. Since then we’ve hung out a bit and the intimacy hasn’t gone past oral on my part. When we hangout it’s usually not sexual anymore, in fact, the past few times we’ve done anything together I haven’t gotten more than a peck on the lips (which I appreciate because even though it’s nice to be intimate with him that’s not all I want). The more we hangout the more I learn about him, and I’ve really begun to enjoy the time we spend together. Awhile ago we went to a party together and he ended up being getting pretty drunk, during that time he told me that he’d been thinking about us dating and said that he wanted to take me out for dinner radda radda adda..Anyways I just told him that I’d think about it since he was drunk and I figured he’d forget that’d he said anything to me the next day. That was also around the time we’d just started hanging out, so I didn’t know him as well then. But, basically he hasn’t brought it up since however we still hangout literally every weekend. We’ve yet to go on a real date though, so my question to you is does he like me? Or even see a potential for a relationship?
Because the more I get to know him the more the crush I have grows a little bit. I wouldn’t say I’m completely attached or anything but I do care for him and I don’t wanna waste my time if he only sees me as a booty call.. which really is inaccurate because we’ve never had sex but still… (more…)
