by The Last Honest Guy
I have been with my fiancé for 5 years now and we have a 2 year old girl. For the most part we are happy but I have found lately that I am slowly but surely falling for a married friend at work. We talk all day long and everyday my attraction towards him seems stronger and stronger. I have tried everything (I.E not talking to him, ignoring him etc..) It doesn’t work, its like this magnet that just pulls up together. We have been out a couple times with other co-workers to a bar and had a great time together. About 3 weeks ago I finally broke down and told him how I feel. He stated he cares for me a lot but that he could never cheat on his wife. I told him I completely understand but he did state he does not want this to ruin our friendship. We remained friends and then again last weekend we all went out again but this time I behaved myself, I did not flirt, I respected his decision and we had a great time BUT as we were leaving he asked me to walk to his car, I followed, he then asked for me to get in, I got in and all of a sudden he says to me “I just want to kiss you” We kissed for about 20 minutes. I couldn’t believe it!! But now I have not heard from him by text or phone ( we would text each other all the time before this happened) and when he talks to me at work he only gives 1 word answers. Please help me. I know that I was wrong for doing it but he’s the one that started the kissing even after he told me he didn’t feel the same towards me. HELP!!!!! I am sooooooo confused (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years. We do not live together, but in separate apartments about a mile away form each other. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs, complicated by his parents’ messy divorce after 30+ years, my changing jobs and going back to school and some communication issues between the two of us. It seemed we had put a lot of that behind us and had used the tough times to grow together as better people and a better relationship. But lately, we’ve been having communication breakdowns left and right and I’m not sure what to do about it. The most recent:
I have been on the pill for 6 years and when my boyfriend and I first started seeing each other, I wanted him to wear condoms too because of STD protection. We didn’t know each other well and I wanted him to get tested. He doesn’t like wearing them and eventually we built up enough trust where I said it was ok for him to not wear one. So for 2 years we’ve been relying on just the pill. Two months ago, his best friend’s girlfriend got pregnant unexpectedly and ended up having an abortion. This freaked out my boyfriend, as I have said that if I were to get pregnant by accident I’m not sure what I would do. Now he will only have sex if he is wearing a condom. While I appreciate his responsibility, it seems like he doesn’t trust me (I do not want to get pregnant!) and it’s created some tension between us. I’ve gotten used to not using condoms and now that we’re using them again, I’ve noticed how bad they smell, the interruption in the moment and I don’t like that he made this decision on his own, rather than asking me what to do about it. There was no compromise. We’ve tried talking about it, but it always turns into a heated discussion. I’m starting to wonder if this represents a large issue between us. Are there any compromises when it comes to this? How can I show him that the pill is more effective and reliable than condoms? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I don’t know where to even start, This guys I’ve been talking to for over a year and we dated for 5 months he broke up with me the day before valentines day and hasn’t tried to contact or talk to me about anything. I tried talking to him two times and he has fully ignored my message. this one girl I used to be friends with started talking to him and has been since the breakup and she’s going around telling people he’s done with me and has saying mean things. I want so bad to talk to him about everything and to be able to work everything out. I’m in love with the kid and he broke up with me because he didn’t wanna fight and because he needed to focus on wrestling. His brother is really good friends with my sister and he will ask questions about if I’m seeing anyone or talking to anyone and it has to be because my ex is asking. He’s also asked my 2 good friends about me too and his best friend. Is there hope? and if there is how much time should I wait until I really have to just move on. please help me! (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
My boyfriend (45, white, cop) and I (together 5+ years) live together (1+ year) and I’m discovering that he is resistant to my suggestions when it comes to training our dogs.
I hired a trainer when they were younger and go for refresher training every now and then (he doesn’t participate) and it’s really helpful. Our dogs are strong as we feed them puppy raw food from the day since we bought them and since I do most of their care and walks alone, I need all the help I can get.
When we walk the dogs together, I’ll make suggestions on how he can better control one of them and he gets tense with me. I’ve started asking “would you like to see what the trainer taught me that works?” so that he has a choice and doesn’t feel like I’m telling him what to do, but he resents that too.
I’ve explained that it’s really helpful for us to walk the dogs in the same manner (using the same training), because I’m not strong enough to control them on my own the way he can and he seemed to understand, but still seems to resent me speaking up and critiques my methods all the time. When explain my methods, he does the “hey don’t jump all over me,” but I don’t think I’m jumping.
What is this all about? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
I was married for 10 years and about 6 months after leaving my husband I met someone else who I care very, very much for. We dated for a while and things were absolutely perfect. I have 3 kids and he has 1. I am 31 and he is 41. When we were comfortable enough to bring our kids into the picture we did. He unfortunately is not much of a kid person and I have 3. Kids don’t bother me at all so it never bothered me to have his child around me even if my kids were with their father. Anyway, after 4 or 5 months of dating we broke up for a few weeks, then got back together for a couple months then broke up again. All the while staying “friends”. We never officially got back together but he is the first person I talk to everyday and the last person I talk to every night and most of the time all day in between. Our conversations never get old, we always laugh and I can honestly say that he is my best friend and he says the same of me. When my kids are not with me (which is rarely) I spend my free time with him. Even when they are with me and we don’t actually spend time together we are usually always on the phone. weeknights, weekends, late into the night. I know he’s not seeing anyone else but I really just don’t know what to do about the situation. We’re not “together” but we are. It’s very confusing. He has helped me so much in so many ways. I had nothing after my divorce and he helped me to get my first vehicle and pushed me to go back to school and is always there for me when I need him. We are sleeping together and that is always absolutely amazing as well. I just feel that sometimes I’m wasting my time and things will never work out. I’m not getting any younger and if I let myself stay attached to him I will never move on and find someone who is willing to love me and everything about me including my kids. I love him unconditionally and I will love him unconditionally even if things don’t work out. I want the best for him. He will always be part of my life, he’s become family to me and has been a better support for me through everything than my own blood family has been. I just don’t know where to go from here. What do I need to do??? HELP!!! (more…)
