How long should a girl wait to have sex with her boyfriend?
How long should a girl wait to have sex with her boyfriend? Or how long should a girl wait to have sex with someone they are seriously interested in? Does hooking up too soon ruin the relationship?
Okay, so this is a really common question that always gets tons of different answers and crazy rules. What I’m going to do here is tell you how a guy thinks when it comes to having sex with a girl. Essentially this is what this site is all about, which is why is very beneficial for women to use it as a reliable source for having accurate information and access to the way guys really think.
Let me start by saying that a guy expects to get lucky the first night he meets you and definitely after officially becoming your boyfriend. However, I don’t recommend that you give it up right away if in fact, you’re looking for a serious relationship. What tends to happen is that a guy just loses interest in you because it was so easy to get in your pants and it didn’t really present a challenge. Remember that guys like challenges and the harder it is to get something, the more valuable it becomes to him.
It’s really just like anything in life, if something is easily obtainable you tend to not care so much if you lose it, but when something takes work and effort to get, the appreciation for it is enormous.
That’s exactly what you want to achieve with a guy. You want him to appreciate you and make it clear that having sex is not something you do with just anyone but instead is something you only do with someone who has become special to you and therefore has gained your appreciation to the point where you’re willing to take the relationship to the next level.
In reality, the way a relationship should go is in the following order:
1. Initial meet
2. Date for a while
3. Become exclusive
4. Become intimate
5. And eventually after a couple years if everything is still going well you make a life-long commitment to that special person.
Now, the amount of time for each one of those steps to last all depends on what feels right for BOTH of you. The important thing to keep in mind is that both of you have to feel the same way at the same time. This means that If you don’t feel ready to do something, you shouldn’t do it under any circumstances. This gives you full power to control step 4 (becoming intimate) and determining when the time is right. Just remember to always keep in mind that the harder you make it for a guy to get what he wants, the more he will appreciate it.
By the way, I’m not opposed to women not being free to sleep with whoever they feel like and as soon as they feel like. In fact, this is something I encourage women to do simply because I think it’s important for women to learn about their sexual needs and have experience even with Sex Toys before making a life-long commitment to anyone. I really hate to see women commit to who they think is the love of their life just to later find out that person doesn’t completely fulfill them sexually.
The real answer
So I guess that’s not really the answer you were looking for because it actually forces you to give it some thought and think about your relationship and determine when the time is right.
I know, everyone always wants an easy answer that tells them exactly what they should do and follow. The truth is that when it comes to relationships there’s really no one answer fits all. Every relationship is different and has unique factors that essentially determine how a relationship should be handled and these decisions should only be made by the two individuals in it.
With that said, if you really need a time frame, based on my experience I would say that a good amount of time before having sex with someone who you plan on having a serious relationship with is about 4-6 months. This amount of time will give you the chance to get to know the other person and make an accurate decision. At the same time, it will allow you to see if that person is as serious about the relationship as you are.
One thing to keep in mind is that us guys have our needs too and I can tell you that if you expect a guy to go that long without sex, it’s not going to happen. If you decide to make him wait that long, chances are that a guy will either dump you or just get it somewhere else behind your back.
In a way, having this kind of result is a good thing. If he decides he wants to move on just because you didn’t give it up soon enough then you’ll know he wasn’t in it for the long run and he simply just wanted to get laid. And If you catch him messing around behind your back then that will also indicate his true intentions as well.
How to solve this
So I just told you to make him wait 4-6 months and I also told you that if you do he will dump you or cheat on you. You’re probably confused and don’t really know what to do now.
Well, there’s a simple solution to this and that’s because having sexual intercourse is not the only way to satisfy a man. I recommend that while you wait for the right time to have sex with your boyfriend you gradually work your way until you get to that point. Some of the many ways to do this include having oral sex, performing hand jobs, etc.
If you keep him satisfied using these other methods while you determine the right time to go all the way you will keep him interested in you and you will get to really know him. You will also bring out many of his personality traits while you get to know him. You will be able to see if he’s the kind that will demand things from you and will pressure you to do them or if he’s the kind that will understand you and patiently wait for you to be ready.
Well, I hope this answer some of your questions and gives you some guidance on your situation. As always, I wish you good luck.