I’m 51 and I’ve been dating a newly divorced man. He’s only been divorced for 3 months and although been out on dates, I’m the first he’s dated for any length of time (about 6 weeks) We have spent nights together and done pretty much everything except have actual intercourse. He says he told himself he was not doing that for at least 3 months. I don’t get it because essentially we have been having other forms of sex. Any ideas as to what’s going on?
You didn’t mentioned the age of the man but i’m assuming that he’s close in age to you. With that said I think a man that has been out of “The Game” for this long can be a bit insecure and nervous about himself in the bedroom. I would say it’s probably a similar feeling to being a teenager and being with a woman for the first time. The best thing to do here is respect his wishes and wait another 6 weeks until he’s ready. In the event that you reach this point and he is still not wanting to go all the way with you, I would have a conversation with him about it and be prepare to leave him if he’s still doesn’t want any intercourse. That would be kind of weird.