Should I just hold on and continue the “best friend” role?”
I am in a difficult situation right now and dont know what to do, to start off I used to date this guy, we will call him T. Well one day I was at his house just hanging out, and a couple of his friends came over, one of them being his cousin (e) that I had never met before. Well, to make a long story short, the attraction was there since first sight, and after that, he just seemed to always be around. One night after a night out with a group of us, E and I met up down the road and went driving around together, nothing sexual happened, just deep conversations and it felt like I had known him for years, well this back and forth talking everyday and hanging out went on for a couple months with nothing further than that because we both knew that the situation was wrong because of him being related to the guy I was dating. I knew that I had way stronger feelings for E than I did for T and just more of a connection, so I ended things with T. Well, shortly after that E and I went out together one night and things starting happening very quickly, he was the sweetest, most caring guy I had ever met, our relationship went to another level after that and we had sex. Everything was fine after that, more like perfect, until about 2 months later when T confronted E about our situation and told him that they are family and nothing needs to come between that, including me, and just let E know that he was hurt about what we were doing. Shortly after that, E ended things with me after a long talk and deciding that we should just be friends until the situation calmed down with his family. I understood and agreed, but now it has been about 6 months since that day, and we are and have been strictly friends since then, nothing at all extra, we still hang out all the time , talk and text all day, still give each other the same looks that we used to, and all of my same feelings for him are still there. I just dont know how he feels and I am afraid to tell him how I feel because I feel like he doesnt feel the same way anymore that he used to. Everyone else says that they think he still has deeper feelings for me, but I dont know if he really does because if someone asks him what we are, he always says “best friends, thats it” it hurts me because I want things back the way they used to be, but I am afraid of rejection, and ever more terrified of losing him all together. Should I just hold on and continue the “best friend” role, or tell him how I feel?
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