by The Last Honest Guy
Hello,
I’m at a loss, here. I’m trying not to be angry so I don’t push him away. The problem is, he looks at porn every time I’m away. I’m talking when I’m asleep, showering, walking the dog, getting dressed for work, cooking dinner, talking to the neighbor on the porch, running to the bank, at work, etc. He looks at hentai and, although not always, masturbates whenever he gets the chance. He’s done it while I nap on the sofa in the same room. Many times he does this only hours after turning down sex with me. He says he loves me and finds me attractive, but I feel like I must be revolting if he’d rather have his hand. We moved in together about 6 months ago and had sex up to 3 times a day until we got internet. Today is day 5 w/o sex. I came home from work and, even though I could barely keep my eyes open, made several attempts at intimacy. He shrugged off each try. We went to bed and I tried again. He pretended to be falling asleep, but got up as soon as I fell asleep and spent the next few hours looking at porn and, from the subtle evidence he failed to hide, I know he got off. I feel rejected and unattractive. I’ve tried asking him about fantasies, but how do I role play a gel girl? Help, please. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
My husband and I have been married for over two years, and have been together for almost 7 years. I have always trusted my husband and we have been able to be honest about everything. Or so I had thought. Recently, I was loading digital pictures to the computer. When I was looking for the file to save them to, I came across a photo file labeled “stuff”. I clicked it and found several pornographic pictures. Now, this is not what I have the concern about. My husband has been honest about the fact that he looks at pornography. He even keeps his collection of Playboys on a bookshelf in our office. But, within this file was a file of non-pornographic pictures of women he knows. Some are co-workers of his, some are friends and there are even some pictures of his last serious ex girlfriend. Now, these are not old pictures. Some were saved as recently as last month ( I know this because they include pictures of a pregnant friend who just recently had her baby.) These are pictures that he has saved from their Facebook pages. I understand that some people often fantasize about people they know, but should I be concerned that he has a file of these photos? He has always told me that he was once cheated on by a girlfriend, so he would never cheat, but am I wrong to feel that this is a violation of trust, too? And how do I tell him that I know about this file. I have never felt the need to snoop through his stuff, but now I don’t know what to trust. I would love to hear your opinion of the situation. Thank you! (more…)
