by The Last Honest Guy
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My ex and I have known each other for 16 years. dated for 81/2 yrs. He left me a year ago. I went no contact for about the whole year. I was pretty devastated. He then started to get in touch with me. Fast forward to now. We recently slept together a few times. He has made it clear he still has feelings for me. I’ve been pretty casual about it because I don’t want to pressure him & he’s in school full time. Sunday I was at a concert by myself & he texted me asking to help him watch his dog. I told him where I was & he flipped out on me. He said I’m doing “gay ****” all the time.that all his friends are there for him & I haven’t been & that he’ll never ask me for help again. I was shocked cause I’m always there.Even after everything that’s happened between us.”You’re clearly moving on & doing stupid ****. I’ll do my thing,you do yours, whatever it is this time” Hes ignored me all month. His response was he’s busy with work & school & his bands. Then he says “I’d always be there for you if you asked, you have not been. I told him I’d help him & like an idiot left the concert. he stopped answering his phone & was like “I have **** to do bye my phones dyn” so I said “thanks for making me feel like a one night stand, the nights we spent together actually meant something to me. I’m not moving on I’m in love with you asshole” haven’t talked to him since.Whats his problem? All cause I went to a concert? Any men out there that can tell me why he’s so cruel. I feel like a sucker. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
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A couple of months ago I was joking around on Twitter with a guy I thought was cute, but he is also the lead singer of an up and coming band. When I say “up and coming” I mean, they are still the opener for the opener. Either way, they are gaining popularity so that’s good, but I am fully aware of what comes along with lead singers. So after a few brief direct messages on Twitter he gave me his number. During that time they were on tour and for the next 3 weeks we were texting all day, every day. Once he got home, both of our schedules filled up and communication went from daily to weekly. About 2 weeks ago he sent me the dates and venues for the next tour he is going on, and asked if he was coming close. I said he was about 3 hours away but said I would make it but I would just need a hotel. He said that he had to make some sleeping arrangements as well for a few more cities, including the one I will see him in. Jokingly I said he could stay with me, as we have been discussing a date from day 1. He agreed and when I asked about the other guys in the band he said he was tackling that next. I have travel points and can get hotels for pretty cheap so I told him I would take care of it to take the stress off. After that night though, communication has just halted. I know he is extremely busy, as am I, but why wont he text back? Also, I found his personal facebook this morning and am wondering if it would be creepy to friend request him? Help. Please. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
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Hi there. I met this guy who is 3 years younger than me. We met at a place that offers spiritual upliftment here in south Africa. I THINK he likes me…When we’ve spoken its only been neutral and related to the above and nothing else personal. I think he likes me because I noticed he dressed differently the 1 time,even looked jealous when another guy was speaking to me…I know this is all circumstantial, but when I said I would no longer be attending for the spiritual upliftment he called me and tried to give me alternative dates to suit me…like he didn’t want me to leave? I told him I would contact him if need be in a text message and he hasn’t responded to that.. Anyways I find myself thinking about him a lot. I thought about texting him as an excuse for when we will be celebrating a religious holiday. I just want to keep in touch with him. if he really likes me he should contact me anyways right? shall I text him or leave things as they are? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
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Okay, so I’m 18 and I started talking to this guy about a week ago. We went to high school together but never talked. We’ve been texting everyday since he randomly messaged me. I was confused on how he felt about me cause one second he’d be flirting with me and then he wouldn’t text me back for hours and then start up a conversation again. Last night, he wanted me to come over and watch movies. He cleaned his room and even got my my favorite chocolate bar. He didn’t act like he liked me at all, but as the night went on, we were holding hands, cuddling, and we made out. After a hot make out session, he went right back to acting like he had no interest. No kissing, no hand holding, nothing. The next morning, he made his mom, brother and I breakfast and we all sat together. But he still wasn’t showing any interest. Then, before my cab came, we started flirting again and goofing off, like he was saying he could make me eat grass and we were wrestling. I have absolutely NO idea how he feels. I like him but I wanna know if he likes me or if he’s just looking for a hook up. I don’t want to ask cause I’m honestly a little scared… what do you think??!
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by The Last Honest Guy
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I had been talking to and dating a guy since January of this year and recently ended the friendship(?)/relationship due to the fact that I did not feel like we are on the same page. We were talking every single day (along with good mornings and good nights) and went on dates every weekend consecutively for four months (January through April). The big event I feel that changed everything was that we finally got intimate after those four months. We had been kissing and holding hands on our dates and nothing more prior to this. After we crossed the line, so to speak, he told me that we should stop being intimate because we are not exclusive. He told me he had strong feelings for me but is not ready for a relationship with anyone. Since he broke that news to me, I stepped back and asked him for a break in communication because I had to reprioritize my own life and sort out my feelings towards him. He broke this boundary I set and kept texting me throughout the break. I felt like my perception of him was tainted after I trusted him enough to cross the line and have all my emotions involved. The relationship became too much for me to handle as he began opening up about his anxiety problems and even called upon me for help during his panic attacks. He told me his life is difficult and a mess and he can’t give me a relationship because he has no idea what he wants. He told me he isn’t dating anyone else and is focused on his issues. Fast forward to a more recent argument we had when he blew up and told me he lost all his feelings for me and that he didn’t force them away but the strain in our relationship caused it to happen. This is when I broke it off and he began crying (as I was crying) on the phone stating he didn’t want to lose me but would wait for me to come around and speak to him again. He told me he would delete my number until we can talk again but since has greeted my happy birthday a few weeks ago and last week told me he misses talking to me. Talk about confusing. I still feel as though he is completely confused. I’ve been through so many bad situations with guys that I know he truly does care for me but I feel as though I’m settling and being convinced to stay for whatever reason. I care for him deeply and do not know what to do. It seems he wants friendship for now but I am holding on to false hope of a future relationship. He says “we’ll be fine” and “we’ll be close again someday.” Should I just cut him off and move on for good? I am applying to graduate school this year but I envisioned him being part of my life for a long time. I’m so torn.
Thank you for your help.
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