I am divorced and in a relationship with a non Jewish man. Our relationship has been warm and loving and he has many wonderful qualities and things in common. Yesterday, he asked me a question if I had “jewed him down” for a purse I purchased. After realizing that slipped out of his mouth, he felt terrible and apologized. This is a very offensive remark and very derogatory to Jewish people and I am having difficulty getting past this. I am mortified that he used this vocabulary and in front of my mother yet!! Please help with any advice, your thoughts are appreciated.
Quite honestly I don’t think it’s a big deal. So the guy said something insensitive to you but later apologized, so what!
Stop being so sensitive about these things and learn to get over insignificant things like this one quick. Believe me, if you’re going to make a big deal every time something like this happens you will probably end up getting another divorce soon.
In a relationship you need to pick your battles and really stand up for yourself on things that matter not on things that are insignificant. You have described your relationship as warm and loving and there’s many people out there that can’t say the same thing about their relationship.
My advice is to get over it and move forward.