My ex & I broke up because we couldn’t see each other anymore. Now he tells me that he kind of likes me? Is he just saying that cause he is sorry that he broke up with me or do you think he means it?
OK, when a guy says that he kind of likes you it doesn’t sound like he’s too sure about it. Think about it, if you really like something and someone asks you, you would have a firm and definite answer you wouldn’t say “I kind of like it.” It sounds like your ex is not 100% sure about the relationship and maybe he just said it to be nice. I think because of the break up he may have already moved on thinking he wasn’t going to be able to be with you anymore and now that you’re back it’s going to take some work from your part to get him excited about the relationship again.
First I’m going to tell you what you shouldn’t do. You shouldn’t be too pushy and insist too much. You shouldn’t call him (text him, email him, IM, etc.) in excess, only in a normal way. As a guy we like to be the ones to pursuit a girl not the other way around. Know that when something comes to us too easy, we tend to lose interest and not appreciate it as much. You definitely don’t want to be the one chasing after him, that’s just a complete turn-off for us. Know that there’s other ways of chasing a guy that’s not too obvious.
What you should do is play the classic game of “hard to get” (learn how if you don’t know it).
What this means is to have him guessing whether you like him or not. It’s an old technique but its one that it’s proven to work time after time. Flirt with him but at the same time ignore him. That will make him wonder about you and get him interested again because he will be confused after thinking that he already has you. Maybe even talking to another guy in front of him could be a good way of knowing how much he really likes you. If you noticed he gets a little jealous then most likely it means that he does like you and at the same time it will show him that you are not going to be waiting around for him and that you have other options. Remember that scarcity is one of the number one reasons a person will have a desire for something. Think about this, we always want things more when we can’t have them.
It’s important to also keep in mind that sometimes this can be overdone and it can backfire on you. Sometimes when it’s done to an extreme we get tired of too many mind games and just give up on it completely. So it’s really up to you to know when enough is enough. Do it with caution and hopefully you’ll get what you are looking for.
Just remember, one thing is for sure, you don’t want to be the desperate girl that keeps on bugging him every where he goes. You’ll make yourself look bad and it will push him further away.