by The Last Honest Guy
I am in my mid-40s and have been married for four years. On top of all the marital difficulties we’re having, my husband insists that I have dinner with his parents every Sunday, as well as every anniversary, birthday and holiday. The truth is, I don’t really like his family, and I can only take them in small doses. They are loud, argumentative and mean.
I make it a point to accompany my husband every few weeks or so, and we spend every holiday with them. Today, my husband announced that his parents’ anniversary and his father’s birthday are coming up and that if I don’t attend “we’re through.”
I was shocked by this ultimatum. I feel it is a complete betrayal of our marriage that he would back me into a corner like this. Spending time with his parents is very hard on me. They are very abrasive and critical, and I always leave feeling sad. My own parents are both deceased. This makes it even more difficult for me. We did things so differently in my family. Getting together was pleasurable and not something one “had to do.” What can I do? (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
Hi, I really need help on my marriage; a week ago my husband told me that he wasn’t sexually attractive to me and the next week, he said he didn’t love me any more. I asked why, and he said that he was tired of all the put downs and all. I told him that I was sorry if I put him down so many times, but we have been having trouble with my mom and my self stressing and I do take it out on him when I’m mad, I know that being mad make you say or do things you don’t want.
We’ve been together 2 year and 8 months, and 3 nights ago, I had something planned for both of us, maybe something it could of help our marriage. But while on the way, a co-worker from us called and said that another co-worker wanted to hang out with us, but not me included.
I was hoping that my husband would say “no if she isn’t going then I wont either, besides we have something special to do tonight.” instead he said “are you going to give me money for gas, if you are then I’ll be there.” I got mad, and I just ignore it and said ok…fine. Later on I started to tell him why he was going to hang out with them and not with me. He just told me straight forward that he didn’t love me any more, and he doesn’t even care about me. That broke my heart, so much. We’ve been through allot when we started dating, we did what ever we could so we can keep seeing each other because my mother didn’t allow me to see him.
Now after all that effort, I can’t believe he is saying this. I told him I’ll give him time to him self, a week, a month, but to try to think about our marriage. But he said, “You already know my answer, so just give up.”
please, what should I do? He doesn’t want to try to give me a chance or anything and I really love him. Please let me know what I should do. Thanks. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
What to give to a guy? This is a question that a lot of women never take the time to actually think of. The ones that do are the ones that have great relationships. In reality is not that hard to know what your man might like. Most of us guys are very simple and by just paying a little attention to what we like you should be able to easily figure this out.
The first thing you should keep in mind is that guys and girls don’t have the same taste or interests. I get tired of seeing girls buy their man flowers or stuffed animals. Guess what? We don’t like any of those things. This is a result of some women being too lazy to think and realize what their man likes. You have to understand that most men are practical and do not like to waste money or resources. We generally like things that we can use or things that we need. When women mistakenly gives us stuffed animals thinking we like them, in our mind we think they’re a waste of money and we can’t think of a place to put that useless present. You have to remember that these things take up space in our homes that don’t necessarily look too masculine and at the same time serve no purpose. The same applies to flowers. (more…)
by The Last Honest Guy
By now, some of you might have heard about a new iPhone app called the TigerText App. What is it? And what does it do? This application works by allowing the sender to control when a text message is deleted from the recipient’s phone and the TigerText server. In other words, it automatically deletes the text message from both mobile devices and you can even set the timer yourself to “Delete on Read” or up to 30 days after it was sent.
Some are calling this application the “cheaters app”. While this application does have the capability to facilitate cheaters, in reality there’s nothing to be worried about. Let me explain, say your boyfriend or girlfriend has this app installed on their iPhone, then it’s pretty obvious that they’re trying to hide something from someone (probably you). Most likely when questioned, the typical response might be something like, I use it so that my_____ (mom, sister, co-workers, friend, etc.) don’t see what I text. But in reality, don’t get fooled, chances are the only person they’re really trying to hide this from is you. If this is your special someone, then who else can possibly spend more time with this person to that level? The answer is nobody but you. So let’s take off the blindfold and just assume that the only reason to have and use the TigerText App is to hide text messages from you. Now let’s clarify that if this person is single and is just dating you or is just a friend-with-benefits or as we like to call it, “this chick I’m nailing” then they have the right to do whatever they want, no questions asked and you should really stay out of it and stop fighting over this because you have absolutely no right to say anything about the matter.
Now, the real question is, what should you do next after you catch you significant other using the TigerText App? As I’ve stated before, there’s nothing to worry about because it is very simple, you should ask yourself, have I had enough of this? The question shouldn’t be if he’s doing something behind your back or not. The question should be what to do next and if you’ve had enough? As a guy I can say that we are pretty easy to please and the minute we decide to go that route and do things we shouldn’t be doing is because something is missing at home and our needs are not being met. So, your options are clear, either try to find what’s missing and what you can do to fix it or simply call it quits and move on. The last thing you want to do is nag and bitch about it every opportunity you can, because this will only cause more conflicts and if in fact he’s confused about the whole relationship, this could push him away even further. As a guy, nothing can be worse than to fight over the same issue time after time without ever coming up with a resolution to it. Never try to force anyone into a relationship because at the end it’s just harder when things are done and over. There has to be equal effort from both parties into a relationship and if you constantly find yourself being the one trying to make things work, you should take that as a sign that it’s time to move on and find someone who is willing to put the same effort you’re putting into it. Always remember to be realistic and know that sometimes, no matter how much you dislike the idea, things come to and end an there’s nothing you can do about it.
