Q:

There is this guy I have met, he is the sweetest and very down to earth, simple guy. He is sweet and polite and generally cool, we have similar interests and it looks like both of us are equally kinky. I met him once in his city as I was visiting my friend and we went out for a couple of drinks and then he made a move and started making out with me. He asked me to come back to his place but I said no because I wanted him to work for it and earn it. He knows what happened to me in the past and the nasty thing someone has done to me and that I want a relationship, he said he wants it too. I call him handsome and he calls me pretty or cute face. We are meeting soon for a long weekend. Do you think LHG, he would do that if he was not interested in me? Would he just want one time bang and nothing else?

A:

To answer your question, yes, he only wants to bang at this point. In general, when a guy meets a girl who lives far away, the mindset is not in a long-term relationship. Guys generally view this type of situation as a good opportunity for an occasional booty call whenever you’re in town. By the way, this doesn’t mean that it can’t turn into something else in the future. But for now, I’m almost certain he’s mainly interested in sex.

Also, of course he’s going to tell you he’s looking for a relationship too. Do you really think he would tell you he only wants to bang anything that moves? Don’t be naive, most guys will answer girl’s questions with what they think is going to make them more desirable.