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Hi, I’ve known this guy for years, and recently we’ve started talking a lot more. We’ve both liked each other at different times in the past, but the timing was never right. Now, it feels different, but I can’t tell if he’s just being friendly or if he wants more, especially given our ten-year friendship. He recently bought me flowers, and last night he called me gorgeous, saying he’s always thought so. But he hasn’t asked me out, and I’m unsure of his intentions. It’s been a while since I dated anyone, and I’ve never dated a friend, so I’m confused. Any advice? Thanks!

The ten-year friendship?

Forget about it for a second. If a guy is buying you flowers and calling you “gorgeous,” trust me—he’s not just trying to be friendly. Guys don’t pull out the compliments and flowers routine for someone they only see as a buddy. He’s trying to make it clear he’s into you, but he’s playing it cautious because he has been in the friend zone for so long. He’s testing the waters here, giving you these big signals without diving in headfirst, hoping you’ll pick up what he’s putting down.

He hasn’t made a move because he’s probably worried about wrecking what you two have if it doesn’t go his way. But here’s the reality: if he liked you back then, he likes you now. Guys don’t just drop those feelings, especially when they’ve been low-key carrying a torch for you all these years. So if you’re even a little bit interested, start giving him a sign. Lean into the flirting, make it obvious you’re open to more than just friendship. That way, he knows it’s safe to ask you out without thinking he’s about to nuke a decade of friendship.

Bottom line?

Stop overthinking it. If you’re into him, show it. And if you’re not, then put it out there so he doesn’t waste his time. But don’t sit there confused when he’s all but waving a neon sign saying he’s interested. Make a move or give him the green light to make his.