Hi, I realize there is a ton of questions like this but I still feel I need some help. 2 years ago I broke up with a high school boyfriend of 11 years. It was my choice, overtime we grew apart and I cared for him but was no longer physically attracted to him, which i started feeling about 2 years before we broke up, and felt I had to end it and try to be happy. Only a month after we split I started seeing a guy I work with, I knew it was very soon but I felt this physical attraction I was missing for so long and he made me feel so special. Things went fast, he asked me to move into his house which I did. About 3 months into the relationship I seen a message from a girl on his phone, not appropriate for someone not single. After this I found things in his email, which he leaves up at home and messages to random girls. Finally I had enough and left. A month later after a lot if talking he convinced me he would not do this again. He said as he was single for years before we met it was a habit for him and he knew it was wrong now that we were together, and told me over and over it was done with. Note, he is 38, I’m 31. Since I went back I have not seen anything or once felt like he was hiding anything. What is bothering me is how much time he spends on porn sites. Our sex life is OK, I initiate a lot but its still only about once a week. I play with myself a lot more now as I am a very sexual person and once a week does not cut it for me. When I’m not home all he does it download and look at porn vids/sites, hours and hours. I’ve brought this up once and he got very angry and told me what he looks at is his business, which is fair, as I enjoy it too when I play, and sometimes we watch it together, but I guess to me there’s a difference between a few videos to get off to hours and hours of looking at it. I feel almost like I have to compete against porn, which I know is both impossible and crazy! Is this normal? I don’t want to cause a fight, we get along very well, spend a lot of our free time together and I know most people look at porn and I’m not saying he shouldn’t, but why for hours? Every time I leave the house? I feel like I’m going crazy! Thanks do much in advance for your help!
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I really need a man advice….so..as you are the last honest one..here I am. My name is Ad******, I am 49 and I have a relation with a man for about one and a half year. We are both singles,he is divorced ten years ago. In the early stage of our relation he explain to me that he is used to be single and don’t think to be available for emotional attachment. But I really liked him, felt good together, so I remain in this relation. Now,everything is good between us (from all points of view), somehow feel very close together and I’m pretty sure he feels good with me. But we are not really a couple;I mean, we don’t live together, don’t make plans for the future. So,I’m confused. It is possible that a man really prefer to live alone? or is just some fear of attachment? Can I do something to change this, if it is the case? I wish I could understand because I really love him (and is not just desire, but also appreciation and respect). So I wish that things go well for us. But I don’t want to “manipulate” him, because I think it must come from him to be worthwhile, no mater what. I will be grateful for your opinion.
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Has a guy you like ever called you beautiful and you wonder what exactly does that mean?
I’m going to admit one thing, guys can be hard to understand when it comes to knowing what exactly they’re feeling inside. You must first understand that most guys are not brought up thinking it’s ok to talk about this. Many guys are taught at a young age that they must be tough and should act hard. If they don’t, they might be perceived as weak among their peers.
They’re told things like:
“Men don’t cry”
“Tough like a rock”
So it takes a lot for a guys to be able to call you beautiful. This means that a guys is comfortable enough with you to open his heart and tell you how he feels. Remember that most guys are not comfortable saying this and most likely will not tell their guy friends about it either. This is something he had decided to only share with you and only you. If you go around telling your friends that he called you beautiful, you’ll probably embarrass him. It’s probably best if this experience remains private and only between you and him.
With that said, he will probably tell his best friends about this and likewise you might choose to tell one of your girlfriends and that’s ok. The important thing to take away is that this should still remain private if you want to ensure that he will say it again. The last thing you want is to make it obvious that every single one of your friends knows about this.
In all honestly if a guy calls you beautiful, that means a lot. The word beautiful, is a way to define and house words like “cute”, “sexy”, “pretty”, and “hot”. It’s combining all those words into one. If a guys is being genuine when he says it, you must know that he thinks very highly of you. You’re probably a girl who he would want to start a relationship with and take it to the next level. Of course, when I say take it to the next level I mean more a long the lines of a long term relationship.
So next time a man calls you beautiful, you should feel flattered and realize that he’s really into you. It’s probably safe to assume that he would want more than just a friendship. I’m referring to starting a relationship and becoming girlfriend and boyfriend. And by the way, even if you think a guy who calls you beautiful doesn’t want anything romantic, you’re probably wrong. So be aware of guys who you think are only friends but yet keep calling you beautiful. Guys are visual creatures.
I’ve been in what I thought was a great relationship for years. We are both older, raising three teenagers , and financially secure . For valentines day I planned a get a getaway ( close by ) with lodging , spa and dinner . I told my committed several weeks in advance that we had plans . The morning of v day I tell him we have plans and he’s mad! He wanted to work on His business taxes . He pouted all day , and we did not go after I paid close to $1,000 for the package . There was no point in going if he didn’t want to . What’s up!
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There is this boy who i hooked up with a few times. I was with him the other day and we hooked up and I gave him a hickey. People know it was me but he told people that he thinks I’m ugly. But why would he say that if he hooked up with me many times before and never said i was ugly? He’s always all over me when we got to the same parties and he stares at me all the time. My friends think he likes me but trys to hide from his friends. I don’t know what to think because he obviously wouldn’t have came over if he thought I was ugly so why would he say all that stuff to others?
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