Do I back off? I need some advice badly…
I could really use honesty. My husband and I have been together for 13 years married 7 this December. We have 2 small children together ages 6 and 7 and I have 2 older. 1 out of the house the other 15 (female). We have always had a loving relationship, supportive. He’s my best friend. My husband has always worked hard and played hard. About two years ago he started using drugs. The past 9 months I believe he has been doing something harder. The past 6 months he has completely changed. Does not hang with closest friends, been staying out all night at least 3 to 4 nights a week. He always told me need to quit drinking, just having fun. Well I found him at the house of his best friends ex 11 pm about a month ago. A friend of ours cared enough about me to at least give me a name and then the rest all made sense. He came home we talked or basically I cried he made up bullshit excuses as to y he was there. I then found a text on his phone. I don’t look at his phone but he fell asleep with it open on his lap. I wasn’t really expecting to see anything but I did see a revealing message from this woman or to this woman how they missed cuddling, goodnight love you had fun tonight(was supposed to be out with a bud) Who of course insists my husband isn’t cheating. He has been home every night since I found him at her house and has been somewhat more affectionate though I sense there is something still going on. I have asked to see detailed wireless bill online and he will not give me password and phone company will not help me because my name is not on the account. I love this man. We have built a life together I do not want to lose him and I do not know what to do. Every time I bring up this person which he says is just a friend he tells me I’m crazy also said I was crazy and did not know what I saw when I read the text. He tells me he loves me does not want anyone else but I feel he is still speaking with her and will under no circumstances admit any wrong doing. I just want my husband and the life we had before. I have always given him space and freedom, treated his friends as family and taken care of the kids, bills etc. Do I back off? I need some advice badly. Thank you. (more…)
