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My Boyfriend prefers porn over me and has a porn addiction.

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Hello,

I’m at a loss, here. I’m trying not to be angry so I don’t push him away. The problem is, he looks at porn every time I’m away. I’m talking when I’m asleep, showering, walking the dog, getting dressed for work, cooking dinner, talking to the neighbor on the porch, running to the bank, at work, etc. He looks at hentai and, although not always, masturbates whenever he gets the chance. He’s done it while I nap on the sofa in the same room. Many times he does this only hours after turning down sex with me. He says he loves me and finds me attractive, but I feel like I must be revolting if he’d rather have his hand. We moved in together about 6 months ago and had sex up to 3 times a day until we got internet. Today is day 5 w/o sex. I came home from work and, even though I could barely keep my eyes open, made several  attempts at intimacy. He shrugged off each try. We went to bed and I tried again. He pretended to be falling asleep, but got up as soon as I fell asleep and spent the next few hours looking at porn and, from the subtle evidence he failed to hide, I know he got off. I feel rejected and unattractive. I’ve tried asking him about fantasies, but how do I role play a gel girl? Help, please.

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We’re on a roll here, another porn problem!

Although I think it’s normal for a guy to want to watch porn and get off from time to time I really think this guy has a porn addiction. What he has done is created these awesome fantasies with these porn stars in his head that he now prefers getting off on porn then having the real thing. Unfortunately for you it sounds to me like he has a real problem. I don’t consider this much porn to be normal.

What you should do is try to talk to him and see if he can admit to have a porn addiction.Unless he can admit he has a problem there’s nothing you can do. If he acknowledges the problem then there’s hope. I recommend reading a book for further understanding. I hope this helps.

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  • OP

    Update: I completely broke down one day when he came home and explained how it made me feel about myself. He apologized, admitted he never meant for me to feel that way, and said it was mostly habit from living alone for 2 yrs. He’s only looked twice since; once while I was sleeping off the flu and once while I was at work, which he told me about so I wouldn’t freak. Our sex life has improved dramatically, too.

  • Spotrainbow

    Help, please! couple of weeks ago i met a guy at college. The problem is he is younger than i am, i think i may be a year or two older, but that’s no so bad, what the problem really is, is that after getting to know him better i notice i’m sooo much more experienced in every way! I can read him like a book!
    I do like him in a way, but i don’t think a serious relationship would work, maybe something a litle bit more informal i guess. How do I explain this to him in a nice way?? and what do you recommend i do? oh and im 20, not sure of his age, i’ve been too afraid to ask, lol, and he hasn’t been so keen to tell either.

  • Tracer4

    When a man gets most of his sexual release by looking or interacting with other women online, he is cheating. Those encounters are equivalent to a mistress or mistresses. When the woman in your life is no longer the center of your desires and affections, there is no longer a relationship … She has for the most part been replaced as your lover. A woman needs to leave when she is in that situation. There is no intimacy and no relationship. Men who do this are prisoners of their most primitive part of their brains. They show complete lack if self control. They remind me of lab rats that given something that causes pleasure will eventually reduce them to a crazed rat that will ignore everything else and keep hitting that lever obsessively trying to get another fix. What lack of sophistication.

  • Imotph@gmail.com

    Do all men look at pornography? This seems to be a a huge problem
    And getting worse…. My 3 year relationship is ending because my now ex ‘finance’ is once again choosing porn over me. I’m heartbroken right now… Desi

  • http://www.thelasthonestguy.com The Last Honest Guy

    Of course not all men look at porn! If you’re losing your relationship to porn, then that guy wasn’t for you and you should move on.

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