I met a guy through an online dating site. We had two great dates with absolutely no physical contact. On the third date he invited me over for dinner. After dinner we finally kissed. Due to icy roads, I ended up staying the night. We stayed up all night talking and eventually had awesome sex. Then again in the morning as well. He is one year divorced after his wife cheated and hadn’t slept with anyone… just beginning to date. Since that day we have seen each other but nothing physical and only in public. He says he really wants to take things slow and not jump into anyth but that his goal is a relationship. He is, of course still dating other people online. So, he calls or texts throughout the day and takes me out. He says he thinks I’m great. Do guys just keep a girl around for attention like girls do? There’s not even been a window for sex again, so I don’t think that’s his goal. Do guys really need to date around to know if they want to be serious with you? It’s not like I’m ready to marry the guy, but I think five dates is enough to know if you like someone or not, right? If he genuinely is interested but wants to go slow and keep options open, what’s the best way to approach him?
First of all there’s no doubt the guy wants to get laid as much as possible, specially after a divorce thus the reason why he told you he wants to take things slow. He does not want to get stuck with one girl right away.
Do guys just keep a girl around for attention like girls do?
No, guys don’t generally do that. Guys generally do keep girl they would like to bang on an occasional basis. They like to have a list of as many girls as they can keep up with that are willing to screw around with them.
Do guys really need to date around to know if they want to be serious with you?
On many occasion when guys are just dating around or simply screwing everything that moves, they often find a girl out of the bunch that has potential to become something serious.
Is five dates is enough to know if you like someone or not?
I think 5 dates is enough to determine if a girl is worth putting in the time but I’m not sure is enough to take it to the next level. In reality every guy is different and the time frame changes from person to person. I would say that in your case since the guy you’re dating has recently gone through a divorce that means it will take him longer to make a decision to start something serious so soon.
If he genuinely is interested but wants to go slow and keep options open, what’s the best way to approach him?
The best way to approach a guy in your situation is to take things slow and don’t lose your patience. Any guy who was tie down for some time with the wrong woman needs as much time as necessary in order to make the decision to be tie down once again. In all honesty this guys has clearly told you he is not ready for a relationship and you should respect that. I would say that’s a good sign that he doesn’t just want to screw around with you and he might want something serious in the future. One thing is clear, he doesn’t want one right now.