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The guy I’ve been seeing is in an open relationship

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So I’m in a pretty sticky situation. I’ve been seeing this guy who is in an open relationship with his gf. She lives a few states away for college. We just started as friends, and having sex. Things were going awesome. After a while of hanging out, and making out we fell in love. We both care about each other deeply. He loves his gf. I don’t know what to do. We click so well. I would go as far to say that he could very well be the one for me. Any advice?

My advice to you is to stop being so naive and get out of that situation as soon as possible. In fact, I recommend you run for the hills.

I really find it hard to believe that you would fall for such a guy that would tell you he’s in an open relationship. I laugh at this and I’m sure he probably laughs at you too.

So let me break it down to you, the scenario you’ve described is a man’s dream come true.

1. He has you fooled thinking he loves you too, as you describe it.

Well, he doesn’t. He has to pretend he’s into you because other wise you won’t continue to give it up to him. I mean, imagine if he didn’t? Imagine if he was a jerk to you? You probably wouldn’t want anything to do with him.

2. He has told you he has a girlfriend but conveniently enough it’s an open relationship.

Haha! Of course it’s an open relationship, this way you won’t question him about talking to her any time he “needs” to. At the same time it gives you a clear hint that you’re not his girlfriend, and that makes you his bootycall.

3. He has told you he loves his girlfriend.

You’ve mention that he has clearly told you that he loves his girlfriend, so how can you think he love YOU? Clearly you’ve fallen for this guy and you desperately want to think the feeling is mutual. It’s not.

So, please follow my advice and end this before you get hurt even worse.

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  • Wendy

    I hooked up with a guy who was in an “Open Relationship.” His girlfriend walked in while we were doing it and needless to say, it wasn’t an “Open Relationship.” AWKWARD!

    Don’t believe someone is an an OR unless it says so as their relationship status on facebook. Even if that’s the case, I’d still question it…

    I had a coworker who told me he was in an OR, a few weeks later his girlfriend confided in me that she thought he was cheating on her. AWKWARD!

    99% guaranteed he’s lying.

  • Pamela Pixie Lay

    Please read “The Ethical Slut.” I used to be a serial cheater and then discovered a new way of dealing with relationships. I’m not talking Sister Wives kinda thing either. It’s an excellent read especially the chapters on Jealousy and Honesty. There are many examples on how to actually live a poly lifestyle. I read the book at least once a year as a refresher. I’m in a monogamous relationship now, but the advice is still just as good and all the same.

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