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Does a guy really like you if he lives far away?

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Met this guy a couple years ago, who lives far away. Was able to see him last summer and now we have been emailing frequently for a few months. It is not flirty, but personal and we are getting to know each other. What is this relationship? Is he into me?

As I’ve mentioned before on previous posts, I never recommend having a long distance relationship ever. If you can avoid getting feelings involved and just think of that relationship as solely friendly you will save yourself from a lot of headaches in the future. It’s best to have the right mind set and never think of this person as anything more than just a guy you know that lives far away. Trust me, there’s plenty of other guys that live close to you that can be potential and perfectly good boyfriends.

What is this relationship? Is he into me?

So, what kind of relationship is it and is he into you? From a guy’s point of you, I will tell you how this kind of relationship is viewed. To him you’re just a girl he knows that lives far away. He has hopes to become good friends with you and increase the possibilities of eventually getting laid when ever you’re in town or visa versus.

Given that you guys only e-mail each other all the time (not sure why you don’t talk?) this relationship is considered a low-maintenance one because he can answer your e-mails when ever is best convenient to him. So that’s perfect, he can slowly get you to really like him based on his personality (“spitting game”) and when ever you guys see each other you’ll be comfortable enough to be willing to give it up. Then he can go back home with his friends and say he has a piece of booty in ________ (whatever town you live in).

So, is he into you? Of course his into you. Enough to be willing to put in the time to write back if it’s going to increase the chances of sex. By the way, don’t bother asking him if he’s only talking to you because he wants to get laid. He will never admit to it. Instead try asking him what he thinks of you. If he says he thinks you’re pretty (or something along those lines) that’s translation for = I would “hit” that.

Unless you’re planning on moving to the town he lives in or he’s moving closer to you, I recommend just keeping him as a friend and nothing more no matter what he says. It’s just the smart thing to do to avoid getting hurt.

I hope this helps and if anyone out there has ever been in a long distance relationship feel free to share your experiences in the comments section below.

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  • TinaT

    Yes, I don’t see a see the point in getting involved in a relationship that is long distance from the get go. If you already have a relationship and it ends up being long distance, that’s a different story (and even that is difficult to navigate.) It makes sense to find someone close by rather than putting so much energy into a brand new long distance relationship.

  • The Last Honest Guy

    Yes, I say if you can avoid it by all means do it. And it’s totally different if you’re in a relationship and for some sort of circumstance you have to temporarily be apart from each other. If that happens it’s usually a sacrifice being made for the good of the relationship and the family.

  • The Last Honest Guy

    Yes, I say if you can avoid it by all means do it. And it’s totally different if you’re in a relationship and for some sort of circumstance you have to temporarily be apart from each other. If that happens it’s usually a sacrifice being made for the good of the relationship and the family.

  • cookiieeblitz7000

    ive been in a long distance relation ship and it worked for a few months then we realised that things were never gonna be the way they were before so we decided that it was better to split and find new people.

  • Tina

    Some long distance relationships turn out great. It’s possible to build something that way as well as maintaining it. It just takes two persons who are both committed and willing to work for the relationship. All relationships require effort, but it’s worth it in the end.  

  • Ariana

    Hello I have a boyfriend too who lives far away from me.he lives in Russia and I came from Philippines. .as his working there he cannot move here.instead he wants me to go there..he mentioned us to get married this autumn and meet my parents as well.we always chat even while his at work and now his coming here in Philippines to meet my parents. .I can feel his sincerity to me and his love for me.and im his priority.he even spent all for my visa and passport etc. I just dont know what I would react when he proposed to me I just feel it his going to propose. I think his serious already? .thank you…x

  • Ariana

    Thats why he wants me to go there so that I will not be sad anymore cause he knows ill be happy if im with him..he asked me first before he making such decisions for him not to be selfish.

  • Anukshya

    Im actually in love with this guy.. He used to study in the same college that im right now. But he got his visa and went to US for further studies. I couldnt confess my love while he was near me and now i confessed it to him just few weeks ago. Some weeks ago he said he likes me too. But since we have long distance between us he said he cant acpt my proposal unless he comes back to my country which is after 4 years. I dont know if he loves me or not but he kind of likes to talk to me and says im beautiful. He talks to me about his daily life. He told me his every secrets. He says he dont want to see me hurt so if i cant wait and find someone better than him then to tell him and he wont say no. Is it worth waiting for him for the left 4 years?

  • Eva T

    I have been in a long distance relationship (I think I’m still) and I suport that it can work perfectly and it’s an amazing experience! He is the guy I was looking for all my life. We lost our contact because I don’t have phone or PC or anything like this (I’m talking from someone else’ tablet) I still feel the same for him and I’m sure he does too. We are one soul in two bodies! Our heart is broken…looks like everything ended when everything JUST started! Everything happen for a reason in life. I can’t think my future without him or him being with someone alse. I can wait all my life for him…he worth it. I pray for him and I’m sure he will find his way. God is love and mercy… Read…reserch…love…belive… P.S. ” I love you”

  • Kass

    Hmm. I have been in two long distance relationships. The first one lasted two years and the second one lasted 9 months. It’s hard… it really is. The hardest part is not being able to see them. My past relationship was with someone who I eventually ended up living with. We lived in the same city and everything was well. You know… I had more thoughts about him cheating on me compared to the guys that lived far away. Why is that? Who knows. Maybe it was sex. We had a lot of it compared to the guys I was with who lived far away. I was able to really get to know those guys without sex confusing everything. I think that you shouldn’t say no immediately when thinking about getting into a long distance relationship. Yes, it sucks to live so far away… but if you guys have a plan to be together in the near future, go for it. Choose your battles. If a guy is worth that fight, don’t go against it.

  • Elizabeth Aldam

    Do what your heart tells you to do.If you have this connection and you treasure it,keep it.Take care of yourself but not so much that you get to old age and regret not having had this or that relationship.We only live once!

  • bublabhattacharjee shankari ch

    Hi I am shankari. Lives in India. You are so lucky.

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