People seems to always come up with different “rules” on how long someone should wait after a break up. Some say, at least 6 months if you were in a serious (years) relationship. Others come up with ridiculous time frames that have absolutely no rational reasons behind them. Often people simply seem to think is disrespectful to the other person if you start dating right away after you break up with them. And others will criticize you if you start dating right away when someone breaks up with you and say things like; “I guess she didn’t really love him that much, looks at her she’s already going on dates”.
So, How long should you wait to start dating again after a break up?
If you’ve ever wondered how guys get over relationships so fast I will tell you. They start dating right after a break up. If possible the next day, if not, at least that weekend you should go on your first date. With that said, I don’t think there should be a specific time frame before you should start dating again. In fact, I recommend you start dating right away so that you’re able to start the healing process faster.
If someone just broke up with you is a good idea to just start dating right away. If you just stay home and feel miserable, you’re just going to make things worse. Remember that the way you act will dictate the way you feel. Sometimes by just acting happy even though your not, you will suddenly start to feel happy. It’s a weird phenomenon but it works. If you don’t believe me just try it next time you’re feeling blue.
One of the worst things to do is to sink yourself into depression after a break up. Definitely going on dates is one of the best things to do and avoid feeling depressed. The faster you can start doing this, the faster you will get over a person. At the same time there’s not much criticism involved when you do this. In fact, isn’t that what most friends try to get you to do after they find out you’re going through a bad break up?
On the other hand, if you’re the one who breaks up with someone and start dating right away, everyone starts to talk about you and criticize every move you make. That’s completely wrong to do. Think about it, why should anyone who was miserable in a relationship and finally grows the balls to get out of it wait any period of time to start dating? It’s obvious that this person couldn’t wait to finally be free. Most of the times the person who is doing the “breaking up” has been long over a person in the first place. So, even though they’re not officially broken up, emotionally that person might have been apart for a long time. I think it should be expected for someone who has just broken up with someone else to start dating right away.
The bottom line here is you should start dating right away after a break up with no remorse. After all if that person broke up with you, there’s no longer a commitment and it should be fine. If you’re the one breaking up with someone, you have already hurt them, so don’t act like you owe them respect and wait a period time before dating. You will only be sending the wrong signal to them and make them think you still care about them.
What do you think? Agree or disagree? How long do you wait?