Today I was thinking hard about all the relationships I’ve seen over the years that have slowly turned into a boring and monotonous one. So, I started separating and comparing those to relationships who after many years manage to stay alive and happy. You know what I noticed? Although there’s certainly many ways to do this, I realized there’s an easy way to get on the right path and keep your relationship alive.
Well, I won’t drag it any longer and just tell you. The 1 easy way to keep a relationship alive and interesting is to just start doing any activity you BOTH like on a weekly basis.
Let me explain what I mean. A lot of times in a relationship or a marriage the everyday duties of life take over and can often turn a relationship into a very boring one. Suddenly it starts to feel like there’s nothing there anymore and we start feeling like the love that once existed has vanished.
The reality is that this is going to happen no matter what. It simply happens because our lives are naturally just a routine of things we do every day and every week. We work, come home, eat and do it all over again the next day, five days a week. Sometimes even more.
The solution to this is to come up with an activity that you both like to do and do it together. This activity has to be something that preferably has a schedule of some sort. It can be something that it’s done on a weekly basis or even twice a week, every other day or even daily. You know how hard it can be to fit in a new activity into your schedule, so pick something that fits your needs. If you’re able to devote one hour every day to this activity that’s fine. If you can only do it one a week on a day you both have off from work, that’s also fine. The important thing to do here is to find something you both like that has a specific hour or day you can do it. This helps both of you keep motivating each other even on the days you don’t really feel like attending or doing the activity.
Why is this important?
Simply because it creates a bond between the two of you. By being there for each other and motivating each other it helps the relationship stay alive. Slowly but surely you’ll begin to appreciate your spouse even more. The love that initially brought you together will be reinforced and most importantly you’ll remind yourself why you chose to spend the rest of your life with this person.
So what kind of activities am I really referring to?
Yes, I knew you would like me to give you some examples. In truth, you are actually the best person to come up with possible activities. You know your partner better than anyone else and more importantly you’re the one who knows what kind of things you both enjoy.
Let me tell you some of the things that I’ve personally done and some that people I know have done and work.
– This is one that I really like but requires more time than some of the other ones. If you both are out of shape (as many of us tend to be) or just simply wish you can be more fit, just start some kind of exercise routine or classes you can both attend. Motivate each other to go no matter what and just do it. Of course this will require you to commit to it on a daily basis or at least every other day of the week. Try to enroll on some exercise classes that involve interaction with each other because that makes it even better.
– If you are religious, join a church group that meets on a weekly basis and does activities around your community. I wouldn’t recommend just attending a boring church group that gathers in a room and all they do is worship all day long. That’s boring and it won’t help. The idea is to do something together with your spouse that can be fun for both of you. Sitting next to each other and listening to somebody ramble over God and repeating the same thing over and over is not fun.
– Join a dance club. I know many guys out there hate dancing but you never know, maybe your man secretly wants to learn how to Salsa dance or something similar. Just ask and make it an option.
– Become a volunteer for something you both are passionate about. You will feel good about yourself and it’s something nice to do. This kind of activity can be feeding the homeless, coaching some sport, etc.
– Join a wine tasting club. Now a days it can be safe to say you can find a club on just about any subject you can think of. Pick something you both like and look for a club you can both join. I love wine, so joining a wine tasting club is something I would like.
– Find a restaurant you both like and go to happy hour on a specific day of the week. Not only is this an affordable option but you can also get to know other people who the same thing. You’ll be surprise how many people do this.
You get the idea of the types of activities you can do. Now it’s up to you to get creative and start thinking of things you can both do.
Here’s some tips on what NOT to do:
– Don’t pick an activity YOU only like and drag your man to it. This makes things worst and ruins the chances of your man to ever wanting to do anything similar in the future.
– Don’t include the kids. You can have plenty of other activities that involve your kids, this is not one of them. This is supposed to be only you and your spouse. Find a babysitter once a week for an hour or so and just do it.
– Don’t be closed minded to activities your man like to do. If he throws an idea out there and you reject it, he’ll probably do the same to the activities you might want to do. If you’re willing to do the activities he like, chances are he’ll return the favor later.
Those are just some quick tips on things to stay away from if you really want this work.
Now, share with us some of the activities you and your man do together. The more ideas we can gather, the more options we’ll all have and the better the chances to revive lost love.