It often happens that a girl goes out for the night to a bar or a club and meets a guy. She comes home, gets all excited and waits for his phone call. After going on a few dates she “gives it up” and later never hears from him again.
Does this story sound familiar? Has it happened to you?
I think this is something that has happened to most girls that go out to clubs looking for love. Maybe not exactly that way, it can end in a number of different ways. Sometimes the guy only calls at 2am and wants to come over to your place or he simply gives up after you refuse to give it up. The bottom line is that once again you’re disappointed and don’t know why you can’t find a nice guy.
Let me take a moment to point out the obvious, guys only intentions to go to a club is to chase tail, hook up, get laid, hit-it and quit-it, you get the idea. This is 100% true but time after time girls fall for it and end up at square one once everything is all done and over with.
My question is, why don’t women learn and realize this?
When it comes to dating and finding the right guy, it’s a smart idea to look in the right places and even though there’s no guarantee that the guy you meet in these other places aren’t like that, at least it will give you a better chance at finding someone better. Also take a look at my 7 easy and simple steps to finding the right person, because one thing is for sure, a bar or a club is definitely not the right place. So ladies, stop looking there and you will avoid getting sentimentally hurt.
On the other hands, there are some girls out there that are looking for an occasional hook-up. If you happen to be one of them, then by all means going to the clubs is the right way to go. It’s almost a 100% chance that you will find what you’re looking for there.
What I’m trying to say is that women should go to these places with the right mind set and they’ll avoid getting disappointed and hurt. When you go to bars and meet guys, don’t expect to find guys that are boyfriend material or expect it to develop into a relationship. I’m sure there’s stories out there of couples that have found love at a bar but generally speaking that won’t be the case. Also note that some guys out there are really good at making you think whatever you want to think (boyfriend) in guys terms that’s called, “spitting game” and that could be a reason why you keep on falling for it time after time. My recommendation and best practice is just to go to clubs with the intention of having fun, having some drinks and getting laid if that’s what you’re looking for because that’s what guys do.
Hope this gives you a different perspective to things next time you go out to your favorite club and I hope you now know what is obvious about guys you meet at bars.