Step 2- Finish your career (from the 7 easy and simple steps to finding the right person to marry)
Why do you think finishing your career before committing to some one is so important? To put it in simple terms, just think about the people you used to hang out with in high school or Junior high school, do you still hang out with them? Has there been people that you used to really like back then but you no longer have anything in common now and don’t talk to anymore? Or maybe you used to hang out with a co-worker at your old job but now that you have a new job you don’t hang out with them anymore. The reason this happens is because you no longer have anything in common and as a result you slowly drifted apart.
The same idea goes for relationships and it’s no surprise that the younger you get married for the first time the more likely it will end in divorce. The importance of finishing your career before committing to someone has to do with the fact that some of the things you might have in common with a person prior to having a career might change afterward and this is because your priorities might change, your interests are different and you might have a different direction in life then.
Most people finish their studies during their mid 20’s and guess what, that goes hand in hand with step 1 in which I recommend waiting until at least age 25 to start dating seriously. By this time you have grown as a person and have a clear view of what your life might be like. You will know what kind of job you’ll have which includes work hours, place of employment and duties this career requires. When you meet a potential life-long partner, this person will know exactly what their getting themselves into and it won’t be a surprise later.
At the same time, the people you’ll be interacting with during that time will be completely different than the people you used to interact with at a young age. In a way, by the time you have a career you’ll be dealing with people with similar interests as you and you’ll be able able to see if someone is a loser or not. You won’t be playing guessing games, picking people who seem to have potential for the future, you will know if they have potential. This helps avoid situations in which you get stuck marrying a loser who seemed to have a good future which was based on dreams and hopes rather than on accomplishments.
By finishing your studies and career goals you also guarantee that you accomplish and do the things you really want to do.
It often happens that a person studies the wrong career because of the influence of their current partner and not because they really wanted to. Sometimes you simply make the wrong career choices because you’re trying to please another person or trying to make it work with someone’s schedule that at the end when you split up you’ll regret.
The best way to avoid any of these possible scenarios is to not get into these kind of situation at the beginning. It’s a lot harder to walk away from a bad situation once you’re in it but a lot easier to just avoid it before getting in one.
What do you think? Does it make sense?